Topic: "backfighter" frenimies
welsean's photo
Thu 06/27/13 06:30 PM
i have two friends ... Until i found out they are not good example of a good friend... This two girls are both back fighter or frenimies... They are friends when they are talking but the real this two persons telling me all bad things about each other... The real they hate each other ... Me as a friend what should i do ? I want them to be real about their feelings. i dont want them to be feeling ok but the true is not... " backfighter"... Do you think i need to avoid or leaved them because they are not good friends or help them too?

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Thu 06/27/13 06:35 PM

i have two friends ... Until i found out they are not good example of a good friend... This two girls are both back fighter or frenimies... They are friends when they are talking but the real this two persons telling me all bad things about each other... The real they hate each other ... Me as a friend what should i do ? I want them to be real about their feelings. i dont want them to be feeling ok but the true is not... " backfighter"... Do you think i need to avoid or leaved them because they are not good friends or help them too?


Avoid them. You are asking for trouble if you get yourself caught up in their feud.

1Cynderella's photo
Thu 06/27/13 06:39 PM

I think youre talking about 'backstabbing'.

And I would tell them as politely as possible that you arent comfortable talking about your friend behind their back.

sticky unpleasant situation.
I second this. Nice Kic. flowerforyou

If they continue to make you uncomfortable with their childish behavior, I would have trouble considering them my friends. Friends should be the most comfortable people to be around, not make you feel uncomfortable and defensive. sad2

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Thu 06/27/13 06:49 PM
the term you may be looking for is "backbiting".
for a bulldog, it's a way to establish dominance. for women, not so much. most problems between female friends can be solved simply with a pajama party sleep over. just follow a few simple rules and you three will be bff's in no time.
first, practice kissing

then, model lingerie (take plenty of pictures)

lastly, post all pictures on hornymanatee.com

i guarantee i guarantee a game of nude twister will bring everyone at the party closer together
(bulldog double guarantee = patent pending)

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Thu 06/27/13 06:50 PM
If they are talking about each other to you behind each others backs, consider what they are possibly saying to each other (or others) behind yours.

Such people really are never friends to begin with and the sooner you extricate yourself from such blathering, the better you will feel. If you still truly want their friendship, tell them both your not interested in their malicious gossiping and to work it out amongst themselves.

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Thu 06/27/13 11:47 PM
thanks.... For the good advice

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Fri 06/28/13 11:11 AM

thanks.... For the good advice

you are very welcome. when is the party?