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Edited by
KiK2me
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Mon 06/24/13 11:39 AM
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I'm an old grump hehehe... 
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I am currently working on a virtual slap in the head button for your keyboard. You meet anyone rude,, grumpy, or just plain ignorant? Hit the slap button. A virtual hand will come out of their monitor and slap em right upside the head. 10 second solution. I dont like! I dont like it one bit! Thats pretty funny 
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly."
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly."  
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly." Selfcare my friend! I'm quick to look after my self. Selfcare & and whats that other one that starts with self......hey I'm single, ok! |
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I find that sometimes rude, grumpy or mean people need someone to be kind to them. When my first instinct is to dislike someone because they are being grumpy or rude, I remind myself that they are probably just having a bad day dealing with people. If a person is always grumpy, they may have had (or have) a very hard life. An act of kindness or even just a smile can go a very long way. The challenge for this thread is to find such a person, and focus on them, and do or say something nice and check their reaction. Report back here with your story. The next time I'm grumpy I'm going to look for you! (Just give me 20 or 30 minutes - I usually get that way 2 or 3 times an hour.) Still, the world would be so much nicer if everyone took your approach . . . 
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly."
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly." Selfcare my friend! I'm quick to look after my self. Selfcare & and whats that other one that starts with self......hey I'm single, ok! |
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I find that sometimes rude, grumpy or mean people need someone to be kind to them. When my first instinct is to dislike someone because they are being grumpy or rude, I remind myself that they are probably just having a bad day dealing with people. If a person is always grumpy, they may have had (or have) a very hard life. An act of kindness or even just a smile can go a very long way. The challenge for this thread is to find such a person, and focus on them, and do or say something nice and check their reaction. Report back here with your story. The next time I'm grumpy I'm going to look for you! (Just give me 20 or 30 minutes - I usually get that way 2 or 3 times an hour.) Still, the world would be so much nicer if everyone took your approach . . .
I find that hard to believe because your face tells a different story. You look very happy to me. Your joy is the driving force behind your mask. |
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Where are all the rotten low down no good dirty bitty's when ya need em
I do have three storys that I do recall much to the same results The one guy was a maintenance/grounds keeper and he would rudely just stop in his tracks and give my the evel eye and this went on a few days outside the building entrance. Next day I was eating lunch & reading the paper and he finally spoke after the stare down and said "I better not find that garbage all over the place out here either! Better be sure it all goes right in that can right there"! So I said that musta bin me twin...no.lol I just politely explained absolutely, I always do and I'm right agains that..bla bla...and he went on. the next day I greeted him with a big "hi how you doing today and grabbed the door for him. So that broke the ice and he had all morning to think about "it". At lunch we greeted each other and started bull s*htn'. He felt a little stupid for a bit up he was far from socially awkward, then so we didn't mis a beat in conversation. OK just one story for now |
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I find that sometimes rude, grumpy or mean people need someone to be kind to them. When my first instinct is to dislike someone because they are being grumpy or rude, I remind myself that they are probably just having a bad day dealing with people. If a person is always grumpy, they may have had (or have) a very hard life. An act of kindness or even just a smile can go a very long way. The challenge for this thread is to find such a person, and focus on them, and do or say something nice and check their reaction. Report back here with your story. If they are still grumpy and rude can I hit them with one of those squeaky clown hammers? |
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I find that sometimes rude, grumpy or mean people need someone to be kind to them. When my first instinct is to dislike someone because they are being grumpy or rude, I remind myself that they are probably just having a bad day dealing with people. If a person is always grumpy, they may have had (or have) a very hard life. An act of kindness or even just a smile can go a very long way. The challenge for this thread is to find such a person, and focus on them, and do or say something nice and check their reaction. Report back here with your story. If they are still grumpy and rude can I hit them with one of those squeaky clown hammers?  Impossible not to laugh when hit with a squeaky toy! 
I have been know to take my anger out by throwing a squeaky toy against the wall with all my might. No matter how hard you throw it, the result is still...sqeak. 
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Really good sentiment woman!
Truly! I wish I could adhere to it but.....I can see it coming...a co-worker who gets the occasional ride to work with me....is the most negative person I have ever met. I have been super kind to his grumpy @$$. I talk to him...say thank you.....gave him an mp 3 player loaded with over 400 songs...he tells me "thanks" Yet....he is just not a good person....and I lie every time I am nice to him.....I have dealt with a lot of people. Most of the smartest just want a friend who loves or cares for them. Some people just don't give a damned. I am pretty close to just cutting the guy off and saying...."just go away" Loving some people is a waste of time. |
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Sometimes that works.
Other times ya jest have to slap-a-ho
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Really good sentiment woman! Truly! I wish I could adhere to it but.....I can see it coming...a co-worker who gets the occasional ride to work with me....is the most negative person I have ever met. I have been super kind to his grumpy @$$. I talk to him...say thank you.....gave him an mp 3 player loaded with over 400 songs...he tells me "thanks" Yet....he is just not a good person....and I lie every time I am nice to him.....I have dealt with a lot of people. Most of the smartest just want a friend who loves or cares for them. Some people just don't give a damned. I am pretty close to just cutting the guy off and saying...."just go away" Loving some people is a waste of time. I would never advocate hanging around with someone who is always grumpy, that can get very depressing. I try to avoid hanging around too long when negative vibes are present....But if you extend a smile or kindness to a grumpy person while you are "on the fly," it will brighten their day and you can get away fast before they drag you down to their vibration level. I realize you can't "fix" other people's problems. People create their own problems.
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Wed 06/26/13 11:49 AM
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Really good sentiment woman! Truly! I wish I could adhere to it but.....I can see it coming...a co-worker who gets the occasional ride to work with me....is the most negative person I have ever met. I have been super kind to his grumpy @$$. I talk to him...say thank you.....gave him an mp 3 player loaded with over 400 songs...he tells me "thanks" Yet....he is just not a good person....and I lie every time I am nice to him.....I have dealt with a lot of people. Most of the smartest just want a friend who loves or cares for them. Some people just don't give a damned. I am pretty close to just cutting the guy off and saying...."just go away" Loving some people is just a waste of time. Quote/ Thats what I do now, with out hesitation, I used to have a hard time with toxic relationships as I Can never stay mad or hold grudges. This is a double edged sword quality and can be very bad for ones self-esteem. As a kid I had older friends & their friendships were conditional and it just carries on in "our" toxic love unions. With those people that we just cross paths with that impose their will, then I will very seldom hold my tongue or fists. Thats why I have very few story for this thread. I never give up on mankind, not everyone says good morning back or says thank you when you held that door open but thats not why you held it open, you didn't do it to be rewarded. |
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Hi Jeannie
I might have missed it but has anyone here spoke of auras or vibes around people yet? Also when you come in contact with someone feeling their energy even through writing, talking, or entering a room or area these things are pretty telling. In my world we call it being in tune and it goes both ways when being around or focusing on someone. In my "book" (everyone has a book right, finished or not) I call it the fair exchange. That's when in dealing with someone you take on their vibe and they take on yours. In the end you end up with a mix between the two. We all do it, and do it all day long. It's not about a being better than thing either it's about how one energy source takes on another like atoms exchanging electrons. |
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Hi Jeannie I might have missed it but has anyone here spoke of auras or vibes around people yet? Also when you come in contact with someone feeling their energy even through writing, talking, or entering a room or area these things are pretty telling. In my world we call it being in tune and it goes both ways when being around or focusing on someone. In my "book" (everyone has a book right, finished or not) I call it the fair exchange. That's when in dealing with someone you take on their vibe and they take on yours. In the end you end up with a mix between the two. We all do it, and do it all day long. It's not about a being better than thing either it's about how one energy source takes on another like atoms exchanging electrons. My one experience with feeling a person's aura was when I came into the 'space' around this one man who I could tell was extremely disturbed. He had a bubble around him that expanded about eight to ten feet. He came into the bar I worked at and sat down at the bar. He was the only person in the bar besides me. I went towards him to ask him what he wanted and when I entered his bubble of disturbance, I stopped in my tracks. His was a violent urge to kill. I felt in danger and I turned around instantly and left the bubble. I went to the other side of the bar and sat down. I visualized him leaving. You might say I prayed that he would get up and leave. I hoped that he did not think I was refusing to serve him because he was black, but that was not the reason. It was his disturbance bubble. I hesitate to call it an "aura" because those are closer to the body. I don't know what his was, but I felt he wanted to kill me or somebody. Most people's energy is not so easily detected, but some really disturbed people can really be felt. |
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Great thread!...I know I can get grumpy and crabby when I feel "overburdened." And when I forget to "reward" myself. Or create a little time for fun....I call this being in the "blame/complain" mode. I feel controlled. And "stuck" with all the work. And "sorry" for myself...But when I come to my "senses" I realize that I'm the one who hasn't been treating myself very "kindly." Hence the "Be your own best friend"! I have to keep reminding myself that as well! Here's one story - it's true! (blush blush) Years ago, I had just opened the convenience store and it was about 6 am. I knew my regulars would all be showing up in the next half hour, so... Frito-Lays potato chip company was having a big promotion. They had a big sombrero just above their nice display of product. The night before I found some Latino music and started to play it. I grabbed the hat and proceeded to do a dance! All I was missing was my castinettes - I only had one! A man walked in - I had never seen him before. I didn't hear him until he was laughing soooo hard! I was so embarrassed. He said no one had ever made him laugh like that! 
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