Have you torn down the idol of marriage in your life? What stops you from releasing this area of your life to God?

What do you think will happen if you release your desire for marriage to God?

Make a list of what concrete steps you can take that will release you to live a more fulfilling life until your mate comes along.

Christian dating


What happens to our descernment when our flesh gets in the way?

Does the person you are seeking to date or datiing, in life draw you closer to God or cause you to compromise your faith? Does he or she bring out the best in you? Encourage you to utilize your gifts? Make an honest assessment of your relationship. Ask God to give you clarity.

Great questions you asked here...

"What do you think will happen if you release your desire of marrying to God?"
My answer to this question will diviate a little from the asked question.

There's a passage in the bible (can't recall where is it exactly, its in the book of Isaiah somewhere) that says "Many are mens' plans but only my (God's) plans prevails"
The sooner we understand & acknowledge that it bigins with God & its about God, the reason why we're existing, the better for all of us, cause will spent our precious time persuing activities that are more inline with He's plan about our lives rather than investing energy on things are just not meant to take place in our lives.

My main answer to your question is that, i'll first want to find out from God if its in He's plan to get me married someday? Then take it from there...
I personally believe (could be wrong though) that marriage (if one is a born again) is a ministry that not everyone is called for, hense there's a highest rate of divorce in the body of Christ than any where else.

Reason why I state that if one is a born again, marriege becomes a ministry, its because if one is not saved, that person lives he's/her life as it pleases him/her, but when it comes to being saved, one lives or rather should live to please God, who layed the life that we should live through Christ Jesus.Instructions of how to go about living life in marriage are in He's word, which is far different from our idea & our human expactations of what marriege is.

We human are more concerned about things that God who created marriege is not even worried about, examples: we weman worry more about our body size in marrieges, if we're as prittier as we were before being married, (which is totally not wrong) we stress too much if unable to give our husbands babies etc

The list goes on & on... But God is more concerned about our inner most being, than our physical beauty that we often stress about. He's more interested in our services to our husbands than being able to mantain your body size that will sure differ after you've had kids. (i'm totally not against weman looking after them selves, I too believe in looking good) though somethongs turn to be beyond us to a point of divorce, which God doesn't approve, just cause there's more focus on physical things that fulfill our pleasures that He's expactations.

The wife's glory is through her husband. When reading Proverbs 31 when the bible speaks about a wife's duty, that's when you'll see that not everyone is called for that. The bible speaks more about her services than her looks & her body size, when we worry too much about that & even getting pressure from the husband who turned your body to that size when he left he's seed on your womb, that turned to be a human being, who brought changes to your body.

Great questions you asked here...

"What do you think will happen if you release your desire of marrying to God?"
My answer to this question will diviate a little from the asked question.

There's a passage in the bible (can't recall where is it exactly, its in the book of Isaiah somewhere) that says "Many are mens' plans but only my (God's) plans prevails"
The sooner we understand & acknowledge that it bigins with God & its about God, the reason why we're existing, the better for all of us, cause will spent our precious time persuing activities that are more inline with He's plan about our lives rather than investing energy on things are just not meant to take place in our lives.

My main answer to your question is that, i'll first want to find out from God if its in He's plan to get me married someday? Then take it from there...
I personally believe (could be wrong though) that marriage (if one is a born again) is a ministry that not everyone is called for, hense there's a highest rate of divorce in the body of Christ than any where else.

Reason why I state that if one is a born again, marriege becomes a ministry, its because if one is not saved, that person lives he's/her life as it pleases him/her, but when it comes to being saved, one lives or rather should live to please God, who layed the life that we should live through Christ Jesus.Instructions of how to go about living life in marriage are in He's word, which is far different from our idea & our human expactations of what marriege is.

We human are more concerned about things that God who created marriege is not even worried about, examples: we weman worry more about our body size in marrieges, if we're as prittier as we were before being married, (which is totally not wrong) we stress too much if unable to give our husbands babies etc

The list goes on & on... But God is more concerned about our inner most being, than our physical beauty that we often stress about. He's more interested in our services to our husbands than being able to mantain your body size that will sure differ after you've had kids. (i'm totally not against weman looking after them selves, I too believe in looking good) though somethongs turn to be beyond us to a point of divorce, which God doesn't approve, just cause there's more focus on physical things that fulfill our pleasures that He's expactations.

The wife's glory is through her husband. When reading Proverbs 31 when the bible speaks about a wife's duty, that's when you'll see that not everyone is called for that. The bible speaks more about her services than her looks & her body size, when we worry too much about that & even getting pressure from the husband who turned your body to that size when he left he's seed on your womb, that turned to be a human being, who brought changes to your body.

"Make a list of contrete steps you can take that will realese you to live a more fulfilling life until your mate comes along"

My answer still begins with God.think its wise to consult with Him & find out what He has called you for.

1, Persue your calling.
2 , Self empowerment through education, investments, careers etc.
3, Seach & discover your self, then you'll do things that are more fulfilling to your being (doing your interests, finding out what are things about your self that are already good & can impact on others in a possible way, work on them so they can be improved from being good to being graet. Find out what are things about your self that can threaten your marriege & work on overcoming them, examples: short temper, impetience, pride etc)
4,Enjoy your freedom while you still can, in a sense of doing all the desired things that you know you not gonna do them as often as you'll desire when married, like going away on holiday, upgrading your car,doing shopping as you please etc... Some of those are not gonna be easaly done when married, you'll have to consult your partner first.

Sisygirl I am happy you took the time to answer this topic. I enjoyed reading your responses and like them. Especially the List that you made, while waiting on a spouse. I agree there are too many divorces among christians in the church. I do believe that marriage is a gift and everyone is not meant to marry. God does honor marriage thou, it says that in (Hebrews 13:4) God looks at the inner person and not the outside is also true. People are imperfect even Christians. But, I believe if we let God lead us in choosing a mate, we would be much more successful in finding the right one for Us. Divorce is allowed in cases of Adultery and also Abuse --seperation and desertion.

I would like for more Christians to take notice of topics like you have and discuss them. Thanks...

I didn't realize this was here,,,i'm glad for it n will see ya around!

I am happy you notice the Christian singles forum. Welcome!