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Topic: Unequally yoked while dating
Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48928	Wed 06/12/13 10:19 AM
I believe that this topic has been discussed in another thread, but I can't locate that thread. So, here is a restart of the topic. What justification, if any, would a professed "Christian" have for dating someone who isn't a Christian? How does one reconcile such a dating scenario with the Apostle Paul's warning that Christians aren't to be unequally yoked with unbelievers?

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 06/12/13 10:20 AM
As long as they can put up with my ways, I can put up with their ways.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Wed 06/12/13 02:16 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 06/12/13 02:19 PM
I do not believe that a Christian should date a non-Christian. I met men on Christian site that wanted a Christian wife, yet when we met inperson they didn't feel the same way I did about a Relationship. So, Unequally yoked can also relate to man and woman being both "Christian" but on different Spiritual levels. I ran from one man, who said he was a Christian, he had strange beliefs and didn't believe in Jesus, God, Holy Spirit as one. So, when I hope to meet a man, I pray he is equally yoked, not just saying he is a Christian.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 06/12/13 02:22 PM
I do not believe that a Christian should date a non-Christian. I met men on Christian site that wanted a Christian wife, yet when we met inperson they didn't feel the same way I did about a Relationship. So, Unequally yoked can also relate to man and woman being both "Christian" but on different Spiritual levels. I ran from one man, who said he was a Christian, he had strange beliefs and didn't believe in Jesus, God, Holy Spirit as one. So, when I hope to meet a man, I pray he is equally yoked, not just saying he is a Christian. Yeah, but it seems I read somewhere in the book a believer can save a non-believer? Where is cerise when ya need her?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Wed 06/12/13 02:48 PM
Only God can save an unbeliever. You can be a light to them for Christ. But you do not know if they will get saved or not. Unless God speaks and told You they would. My cousin is a believer and married a non Christian in 1996 and they are still married, and he is still an non believer.

kaz7x70 Joined Fri 05/31/13 Posts: 120	Sat 06/15/13 02:48 PM
people can use any justification they want to n rationalize anything in their mind,,that's what we do. unequally yoked means to me in unity, marriage, not friendship or even dating, really. but one should be careful that the unbeliever doesn't bring the believer down n not the other way around, bad company corrupts good character. thanx, good post! i mean repost!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Mon 06/17/13 12:44 PM
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? ( 2 Corinthians 6:14) kjv Note: To be unequally yoked, would be destroying the harmony and fellowship that unite the couple in Christ.

William8 Joined Tue 09/25/12 Posts: 224	Wed 06/19/13 02:27 PM Edited by William8 on Wed 06/19/13 02:30 PM
My excuse would be, beggars cannot be chooses. It's not like single Christian women are in abundance. Paul also says that to avoid fornication let EVERY MAN have his own wife. SO how is every man able to have his own wife if there are no suitable Christian women available? We are just not in a position to have the luxury to choose what kind of women to marry or even to marry. It's not a matter of choice but of what's available. LIGHT AND DARKNESS.... Anyway I think that Paul is talking about mixing Christian doctrines with other religions and beliefs. Look at the Pentecostal church that has adopted occult practices and new age teachings into the church and many Christians also believe in Darwininism.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Wed 06/19/13 07:03 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 06/19/13 07:04 PM
My excuse would be, beggars cannot be chooses. It's not like single Christian women are in abundance. Paul also says that to avoid fornication let EVERY MAN have his own wife. SO how is every man able to have his own wife if there are no suitable Christian women available? We are just not in a position to have the luxury to choose what kind of women to marry or even to marry. It's not a matter of choice but of what's available. LIGHT AND DARKNESS.... Anyway I think that Paul is talking about mixing Christian doctrines with other religions and beliefs. Look at the Pentecostal church that has adopted occult practices and new age teachings into the church and many Christians also believe in Darwininism. Believers under the leading of the "Holy Spirit" are not beggars. If we trust God he can provide. God never fails, if we have Faith in him. Christian women are in abundance and there are plenty to choose from. God blesses those who put their trust in him alone and not doubt what he can do.

William8 Joined Tue 09/25/12 Posts: 224	Thu 06/20/13 02:49 PM
So how's that working out for you?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Thu 06/20/13 03:20 PM
So how's that working out for you? I'm Blessed. It is working!

William8 Joined Tue 09/25/12 Posts: 224	Fri 06/21/13 10:08 PM
That's a bit vague? How are you blest and how is it working?

Peter_Pan69 Joined Sun 08/23/09 Posts: 2781	Sun 06/23/13 09:30 AM
I do not believe that a Christian should date a non-Christian. I met men on Christian site that wanted a Christian wife, yet when we met inperson they didn't feel the same way I did about a Relationship. So, Unequally yoked can also relate to man and woman being both "Christian" but on different Spiritual levels. I ran from one man, who said he was a Christian, he had strange beliefs and didn't believe in Jesus, God, Holy Spirit as one. So, when I hope to meet a man, I pray he is equally yoked, not just saying he is a Christian. Yeah, but it seems I read somewhere in the book a believer can save a non-believer? Where is cerise when ya need her? 1 Corinthians 7:14 King James Version (KJV) 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Sun 06/23/13 09:56 AM
I do not believe that a Christian should date a non-Christian. I met men on Christian site that wanted a Christian wife, yet when we met inperson they didn't feel the same way I did about a Relationship. So, Unequally yoked can also relate to man and woman being both "Christian" but on different Spiritual levels. I ran from one man, who said he was a Christian, he had strange beliefs and didn't believe in Jesus, God, Holy Spirit as one. So, when I hope to meet a man, I pray he is equally yoked, not just saying he is a Christian. Yeah, but it seems I read somewhere in the book a believer can save a non-believer? Where is cerise when ya need her? 1 Corinthians 7:14 King James Version (KJV) 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. Thanks for posting that ! I was sure of the verse,but forgot witch one it was.

Peter_Pan69 Joined Sun 08/23/09 Posts: 2781	Sun 06/23/13 10:17 AM
Thanks for posting that ! I was sure of the verse,but forgot witch one it was. NP... I post it in just about every one of these "unequally yoked" threads...

faitzz Joined Tue 06/18/13 Posts: 108	Sun 06/23/13 11:31 AM
i like dating christians

Ploduwa03 Joined Wed 01/23/13 Posts: 1138	Sun 06/23/13 12:01 PM
I believe that this topic has been discussed in another thread, but I can't locate that thread. So, here is a restart of the topic. What justification, if any, would a professed "Christian" have for dating someone who isn't a Christian? How does one reconcile such a dating scenario with the Apostle Paul's warning that Christians aren't to be unequally yoked with unbelievers? No justification, non whatsoever. You either are or you are not!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Sun 06/23/13 04:23 PM
That's a bit vague? How are you blest and how is it working? No it is not vague! My trust is in God and I am right where he wants me to be. I've met men, so I am not desperate for any man.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14597	Sun 06/23/13 04:44 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Sun 06/23/13 04:47 PM
Yeah, but it seems I read somewhere in the book a believer can save a non-believer? Where is cerise when ya need her? But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or , how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? (I Corinthians 7:15,16) Note: If you marry a Unbeliever, the spouse may not except Jesus as their Lord and Savior.

William8 Joined Tue 09/25/12 Posts: 224	Sun 06/23/13 06:23 PM
That's a bit vague? How are you blest and how is it working? No it is not vague! My trust is in God and I am right where he wants me to be. I've met men, so I am not desperate for any man. Well I hope it works out but I do not concider it a work of God but satistically it is much easier for a woman then a man, especially on dating sites.