I don't think I'd want a gigolo, but it would be nice if he has at least been through basic training.

I guess I'm just trying to figure out what you all are looking for when you say experience. Does dating several women equal a better guy? Does dating less women equal someone not as good? Does going on many dates mean he has a clue as to what women want? Does going on few dates mean he's clueless?

I think the more experience we have at anything, the better our perspective and the more practiced we become. When it comes to intimate relationships though, there is safety to consider as well as, it's just a bit creepy for me to think of being with someone who's been with...well, everyone.

On the other hand, if he has less dating experience than me, I'm wondering if there's an invisible why. I also think it would be a little frustrating to have to go through all the rudimentary relationship things that I went though with guys I dated in my 20's. It's kinda a been there done that thing. I don't want to date a 20 year old, so don't want to date someone who makes me feel like I'm dating a 20 year old either.

As for intimate relationships, yes, I want him to have experience in that area. I never bother asking how many women he's been with, though. All I care about is that he knows what he's doing, and that he has a clean STD test.

As for dating or marriage? I don't really worry about experience. If we hit it off well, awesome! If not, we won't continue dating. I'm in my mid 30s and have been asked why I haven't been married yet, so obviously experience is very important to some. However, I'd wonder more about someone who has been married and divorced more than once by my age than I would about someone who has not been married by my age.

What are these rudimentary relationship things that you went through in your 20s that you expect not to go through now?

i'm in trouble if they do

Experience is great but can mess things up

I imagine I went through all the same things most young adults do. I think most of us learn a lot in our first adult boyfriend/ girlfriend experiences. We learn how to give on a very personal level. A level quite different from that of family and friends. We learn how to share, also on a different level than with our toys and sweaters. And of course we learn about sexuality in general, our own preferences, and those of our lovers.

I think those first tastes of adult relationships can be instrumental in learning what we want in a partner and what we expect from a relationship.

So, I think I would feel more at home with someone who has already done all that too. I just think two people going through different stages don't stand a good chance.

On the other end of this spectrum, I don't want to be the one needing a learning curve either. Nor do I want to discover six months in, that gigolos have more trouble adapting to just one woman day after day than he thought he would have.

So I think I would prefer someone with at least somwhat compatible relationship and sexual experience as myself, and then we can grow from there together.

I don't know anyone my age who has not had some experience in dating. I'm sure they're out there, but I don't know them and haven't dealt with them. That's why I was asking about what kind of experience. As in what specific things you all are looking for, rather than vague details about what you may have gone through in your 20s. That doesn't really give me an idea of what you're talking about... but if you don't want to be specific, no problem.

I'm sure there are people out there who have certain qualifications they want their partners to have. I have had some on here tell me that they want someone who has been married and divorced already, rather than single, because they feel those people would understand them better.

And you need to be able to make the distinction between experience and baggage. But I think they are talking about stuff, like- holding a door open, paying for meals, having something to say and slowly building sexual tension, etc. You know, some of the ladies here think they are real special

I thought you asked about my 20s. Sorry to bore you with my overly vague 20s.

Holding doors open is a polite thing for anyone to do. I don't expect men to pay for meals at all times, but some women may, so that might be the kind of experience they're talking about. As for having something to say, I couldn't date a guy who is so shy around women that he can't speak. I guess that's part of the experience they're talking about, too.

I did, but you were being kind of vague. I was just looking for something more specific, that's all.

Sorry Sweet.

I'll give it another go.

How about, from the first time I was expertly kissed, the mouth maulers of the world lost some appeal for me.

Unfortunately, I've experienced bad kissers as well. One was even older than me and had been married/divorced. So, I don't think dating experience really has much to do with that. It has more to do with their inability to change things up depending on their partner, or their past partners have not told them they're horrible at kissing.

I see singme.. is that why you're in the arms of a giant sports mascot these days???

Look at the smile on that guys face..

I see singme.. is that why you're in the arms of a giant sports mascot these days???

Look at the smile on that guys face..

I suppose it's not the easiest conversation to have; telling someone you prefer they don't eat your face off.

Well, my only experiences with that were simply older and more experienced kissers vs young and inexperienced ones. I have fallen to making unfair assumptions I confess.

And on the other hand, if he were really worth it, I would just have to ask for the kind of kisses I want and hope he rises to the challenge...or put up with a wet face. He would really have to be something special for the later though.

My favorite kissers have been younger than me.

I don't know Singmesweet, you make it sound tempting to give the 20 somethings another shot.

But all the vague stuff, while it's more about the maturity kind of experience, is too important to me these days.

Besides I've not had a problem with men my age or a bit older knowing how to "Bogie" a kiss...and I don't mean one under par, but Bogart baby! Oh, yeah!

But you won't mind if I leave the young men to you?

Bannana dancer is singing in tune of "It's You're Birthday"..., "You go girl! Get them kisses! You go girl! Get them kisses! "

Guys my age have been great, too. Not so much into the older men, though.