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Dance first, think later. how about dancing with someone worth dancing with / think when you catch your breath a comment like dance first think later sounds predatory Agree, could also be the good old paternalistic "women think too much, men know how to simply enjoy"? Shutup and dance ! |
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Dance first, think later. how about dancing with someone worth dancing with / think when you catch your breath a comment like dance first think later sounds predatory Agree, could also be the good old paternalistic "women think too much, men know how to simply enjoy"? Shutup and dance ! Only if you make me a sammich! 
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A sandwich ? You sure about that ?
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A sandwich ? You sure about that ? Did I stutter? 
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A sandwich ? You sure about that ? Did I stutter? Ew! Get away from me pervert ! |
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What would be major red flags for you in initial communication here or in regular email? Anyone who basically has nothing in their profile save "ask me later" or the like. Any conversation or inquiries involving money. (How much I make, have, can send them, spare, etc...) Anything being too forward right out the gate. I tend to be suspicious of those who make their first communications to me too flirtatious or sexual. Extreme flattery or over complementary on something I said or wrote in the forums or upon my profile. I don't mind a little, but going way overboard does not invoke trust. Those who write like cut & paste ransom demands read. |
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You are not what you say.
You are how you make the other person feel. |
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I have read the messages and wonder why they are Here??????????
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if someone is disabled there is usually some type of work they can do, but if they are not working because it will interfere with receiving a disability pension...it's understandable but it is not personally compatible to my personal values... I guess it depends on what they are doing instead? Do they have a lot of interesting things going on? is he in school learning new skills for full employment? did he start his own business? is he living independently of family/friends? these are the kinds of things I'd be thinking because I can't imagine being partnered up with someone who is at home watcing TV all day. that would not work Yep this is the type I am referring to. Someone who is on disability because it's easy money. The type that are just out to take advantage of the system. I respect and applaud those that might be disabled but are retraining to accommodate their disabilities so they CAN be part of the work force. I do realize some disabilities are so severe as to not allow someone to work at all. In many places, especially in Canada, employers will not pay for a worker to be re-trained if they were injured at the workplace as opposed to being injured on the job, especially if you are age 60 and over. They much prefer to encourage you to retire/ quit without your crumy watch covered in cheap white gold. If you have the funds, you can pay for any type of retraining or if you apply to the govt. you can select from a limited amount of choices and occupations while perhaps collecting disability which is low enough to guarantee either starvation or falling behind in your rent or both and you end up on the street with enough to buy dog food. You are absolutely not 'romantic material' in any case. Training programs are rarely adequate to actually land a job; all the programs fall short of training you in the latest. up-to-date techniques that would make you a good prospect to actually even have a good interview, never mind being hired. Any sort of job requiring computer skills and specific software knowledge are infamous for this type of shortcoming which usually leaves the clients with nothing but wasted time and dashed hopes and depression. I can't imagine things being any better in the US; Europe, yes where if you loose your home, you are now guaranteed to at least have one through their human rights code. Having a home is not considered a human right in North America and neither is an actual 'living wage' if you do find a job. Wages are not geared to expenses of food and shelter, nor anything to cover yourself with to get to your job. Is it any wonder why so many turn to crime or go 'dumpster diving' for their basic needs...This entire society is not progressing but only regressing into the individual isolationism of "looking out for number one"... There, my one topic rant is finished on behalf of those who can't get anywhere on their own due to some circumstances way out of their control. |
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Traumer, amen. I've seen it and known an awful lot of people in both Canada and the US who've been in that horrible situation. And I'm sure someone out there reading this will probably want to flame both of us for pointing it out, but there it is.
Frankly, what's needed is a complete revamp of our values as a society. So-called "rugged individualism" only goes so far, and while it may work fantastically well on an individual level for some small percentage of people who often then forget that life is not really a zero-sum game... as a social model for an entire civilization it's absolute rubbish. Hard work is a GOOD thing, don't get me wrong, but it's only good as a means to an end, not as an end in itself. If there's little to no tangible reward for the majority of people involved, and nothing to really help those who get hurt or who otherwise find themselves in dire straits through no fault of their own, society's got problems. Okay, I'm done with this  soapbox myself. Y'all carry on. |
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 at one way airfare to america
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Dance first, think later. how about dancing with someone worth dancing with / think when you catch your breath a comment like dance first think later sounds predatory Agree, could also be the good old paternalistic "women think too much, men know how to simply enjoy"? Shutup and dance ! or some men just don't get it.... 
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if someone is disabled there is usually some type of work they can do, but if they are not working because it will interfere with receiving a disability pension...it's understandable but it is not personally compatible to my personal values... I guess it depends on what they are doing instead? Do they have a lot of interesting things going on? is he in school learning new skills for full employment? did he start his own business? is he living independently of family/friends? these are the kinds of things I'd be thinking because I can't imagine being partnered up with someone who is at home watcing TV all day. that would not work Yep this is the type I am referring to. Someone who is on disability because it's easy money. The type that are just out to take advantage of the system. I respect and applaud those that might be disabled but are retraining to accommodate their disabilities so they CAN be part of the work force. I do realize some disabilities are so severe as to not allow someone to work at all. In many places, especially in Canada, employers will not pay for a worker to be re-trained if they were injured at the workplace as opposed to being injured on the job, especially if you are age 60 and over. They much prefer to encourage you to retire/ quit without your crumy watch covered in cheap white gold. If you have the funds, you can pay for any type of retraining or if you apply to the govt. you can select from a limited amount of choices and occupations while perhaps collecting disability which is low enough to guarantee either starvation or falling behind in your rent or both and you end up on the street with enough to buy dog food. You are absolutely not 'romantic material' in any case. Training programs are rarely adequate to actually land a job; all the programs fall short of training you in the latest. up-to-date techniques that would make you a good prospect to actually even have a good interview, never mind being hired. Any sort of job requiring computer skills and specific software knowledge are infamous for this type of shortcoming which usually leaves the clients with nothing but wasted time and dashed hopes and depression. I can't imagine things being any better in the US; Europe, yes where if you loose your home, you are now guaranteed to at least have one through their human rights code. Having a home is not considered a human right in North America and neither is an actual 'living wage' if you do find a job. Wages are not geared to expenses of food and shelter, nor anything to cover yourself with to get to your job. Is it any wonder why so many turn to crime or go 'dumpster diving' for their basic needs...This entire society is not progressing but only regressing into the individual isolationism of "looking out for number one"... There, my one topic rant is finished on behalf of those who can't get anywhere on their own due to some circumstances way out of their control. well some of what you say MAY be true. I know in the US much of it is not. There are some dire circumstances out there, but for me in choosing a partner, he would need to be employed or actively looking with good/reasonable prospects....doesn't have to be a dream job with a dream salary... It's not a judgement of him in terms of human value...it is simply a compatability issue regarding my dating life and compatability to my personal values. Here in the US the disability system is being heavily abused and people have been manipulating the system and using it to replace welfare. It is scandalous here; a scandal that has been reported semi-widely in the media. So far Washington has been mum and put forth no plan to clean up the mess, fraud, and budgt busting nonsense. So there are many on disailbity in the US who are employable....so a bit more ofa touchy subject here maybe... |
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You are not what you say. You are how you make the other person feel. this is absolutely incorrect. we are, in fact, responsible only for our own feelings, not the feelings of others. Unless there is intent. And even then, with intent, we are not responsible for the behaviors, actions, or speech choices of others. Own your behavior. |
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Dance first, think later. how about dancing with someone worth dancing with / think when you catch your breath a comment like dance first think later sounds predatory Agree, could also be the good old paternalistic "women think too much, men know how to simply enjoy"? Can you say paranoid? |
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Never in my wildest dreams, Did I think i'd ever hear a woman say dancing sounds predatory. There are some crazies in this place sheesh!
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You are not what you say. You are how you make the other person feel. this is absolutely incorrect. we are, in fact, responsible only for our own feelings, not the feelings of others. Unless there is intent. And even then, with intent, we are not responsible for the behaviors, actions, or speech choices of others. Own your behavior. This absolutely correct. Emotions are like crack cocaine to women. |
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You are not what you say. You are how you make the other person feel. this is absolutely incorrect. we are, in fact, responsible only for our own feelings, not the feelings of others. Unless there is intent. And even then, with intent, we are not responsible for the behaviors, actions, or speech choices of others. Own your behavior. This absolutely correct. Emotions are like crack cocaine to women. I suppose they can be. IDK much about crack cocaine tho to get ur point if you mean that emotions are addicting? I suppose people can feed in that sense in an emo soup...but not sure that gals are the only participants there... interesting comment |
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haha, it's just for a laugh.
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haha, it's just for a laugh. well then....we think alike |
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