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Does hardly anyone reply, even to friendly messages?
Am I really that repulsive, honestly? I keep it sweet and simple, a hello and how are you etc Hmmm |
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I'm feeling the same way.
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I'm feeling the same way. I appreciate you taking the time to reply though 
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Seriously? You have little or nothing in your profiles about yourselves. "Short and sweet" communications don't really say much about you. So allow me to introduce you two. Mickeyfan74, meet Alonda. He is looking for someone to talk to, friendship and maybe even a relationship He is a young man who may be in need of a real woman to teach him the art of love. Alonda, meet Mickeyfan74, she is looking to start out as friends & see where it goes. I'm sorry you don't live closer together, but now you have been introduced. 
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Edited by
ViaMusica
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Tue 04/02/13 04:40 PM
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I'll weigh in here, too.
If a guy doesn't have much information in his profile, and he also doesn't say much more than "hi" in a message to me, it feels like his message is just kind of 'fishing' to see what he can get, rather his being a genuine three-dimensional person with interests of his own who has read my profile and found that we have interests in common. I rarely respond to messages that make me feel like that. If you're going to participate on a dating site and you actually want to talk to others on there, then flesh out your profile to reflect the person you are. And take the time to read the profiles of people here before you send them messages, so you'll be messaging people who actually have interests in common with you. Then mention those interests in the messages you send them. Something like, "I see you enjoy action movies. So do I. What's your favorite movie?" That way you have an opening for actual conversation, and you're far more likely to get a response. Best of luck! |
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You have little or nothing in your profiles about yourselves. I know :( but, I'll work on that. It's hard describing yourself... Interests, hobbies, etc. "Short and sweet" communications don't really say much about you. True, it doesn't. But isn't small talk a good start? Thanks for the introduction though, Jeanniebean. It brought a smile to my face 
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I'll weigh in here, too. If a guy doesn't have much information in his profile, and he also doesn't say much more than "hi" in a message to me, it feels like his message is just kind of 'fishing' to see what he can get, rather his being a genuine three-dimensional person with interests of his own who has read my profile and found that we have interests in common. I rarely respond to messages that make me feel like that. If you're going to participate on a dating site and you actually want to talk to others on there, then flesh out your profile to reflect the person you are. And take the time to read the profiles of people here before you send them messages, so you'll be messaging people who actually have interests in common with you. Then mention those interests in the messages you send them. Something like, "I see you enjoy action movies. So do I. What's your favorite movie?" That way you have an opening for actual conversation, and you're far more likely to get a response. Best of luck! Really good advice. In a real life situation, if you were approached by someone who was entirely covered with a black sheet with two holes in it where eyes were peaking through at you, how would you respond to that ? You need to reveal who you are with something besides "Hi" or "small talk." Otherwise you will be wasting a lot of time. If you really want to hook up with someone, in the real world, look for someone who is not a world away. Life is short in my opinion, but then I'm 64 years old... I don't have 50 years to dilly dally around. You might think you do, but instead of wasting time with small talk with someone across the world, get busy with your career and transform yourself into a man women are looking for. That's my advice from the other side of 60.  |
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Does hardly anyone reply, even to friendly messages? I send friendly messages to women here all the time, and I receive friendly messages in reply. So, the problem is not with the women. |
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Keeping it simple is good in theory. Care to take a stab at how many messages the women on here get like that.... every single day?
What everyone said above about your profile pretty much sums it up. The problem is not with you as a person, it is how you approach it and the effort it sounds like you are putting into it. If you don't put in a lot, you get back an equal amount. Tell people who you are, why you are here and what you want, and there you go. You might try using the forums to build a more well rounded profile of yourself. People get a better feel for you by hearing your thoughts and ideas, just as you do them. It is not guaranteed you'll find someone through them, but it can help. Otherwise just be yourself and write to those who catch your attention and be honest about why you wrote them. Good luck. |
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