Topic: trust and friendships
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Sun 03/31/13 05:52 AM
Ok so u in a relationship for 5yrs. U have expressed many times that u don't care if she has friends. In the past she has said she kept certain friendships a secret because she thought u would get mad. U have explained u won't. Now another so called friend. Once again didn't mention she was even talking to this person. So again she says its just a friend. Can a guy and a girl truly be friends? Not like a high school friend she has known, this someone new that's obviously trying to get to know her. She told him she has a girl but of course that won't stop his advances. And she doesn't stop his advances either. So is this really a friendship or a relationship that's slowly developing and I might as well prepare for the worst. I've seen conversation btw them and they flirt both say its just innocent flirting, but its not. So again do I take it for what it is and say its over? Or can this truly just be an innocent friendship btw a guy and a girl.

dmckinnon's photo
Sun 03/31/13 06:01 AM

In the past she has said she kept certain friendships a secret because she thought u would get mad.


As soon as someone starts keeping something from the other that's a sure sign there's problems.

Winlei's photo
Sun 03/31/13 07:31 AM
Trust is like a glass, once shattered you can never put it back. Friendship is another thing. Why would she hid there friendship from you? Afraid? Well if you are a jealous type of a person and only allow her a girl friends then her reason is acceptable. I know friends have their limitations. They should know when to back off.

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Sun 03/31/13 08:25 AM
Yeah that relationship is slowly building up because your relationship with her isn't working as well as you think. If you really want be apart of her life then convince her.

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Sun 03/31/13 08:39 AM
If you're really a true baller...why would you worry about some other dude or your chick?

If you got g dawg gangsta love....she should be worried about your pack of weave havin hoes.

And he shouldn't be able to compete wich yo stacks o Benjamin's as you are bouncing through the hood in your Bentley on your twenty foes.

Just pointing out the obvious.

Of course....that all goes out the window of you aren't actually a baller and the woman ain't loyal.

Then....you need to just find a new skank of love.

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Sun 03/31/13 10:03 AM

Ok so u in a relationship for 5yrs. U have expressed many times that u don't care if she has friends. In the past she has said she kept certain friendships a secret because she thought u would get mad. U have explained u won't. Now another so called friend. Once again didn't mention she was even talking to this person. So again she says its just a friend. Can a guy and a girl truly be friends? Not like a high school friend she has known, this someone new that's obviously trying to get to know her. She told him she has a girl but of course that won't stop his advances. And she doesn't stop his advances either. So is this really a friendship or a relationship that's slowly developing and I might as well prepare for the worst. I've seen conversation btw them and they flirt both say its just innocent flirting, but its not. So again do I take it for what it is and say its over? Or can this truly just be an innocent friendship btw a guy and a girl.

U asked if a guy and girl can be friends. Sure they can. It's easy. What u have to do is make ur mind believe it. If any prblms arise with her talk to her and you will be clear of any feelings u or she might have. But what u must not forget is that when u have invested in this frndship, invest truly

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Sun 03/31/13 10:08 AM
I'm confused is this like a bi thing?

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Sun 03/31/13 10:10 AM
Yes a man and woman can be friends, but if they were, "just friends" and you dont have a problem with it than she shouldn't be hiding it. All honest and trusting people wouldn't flirt with someone else if they were in a relationship if that's the one they wanted to be in. Everyone loves the attention from another person but they should put a stop to it right away if they are with the person they love. I am sorry you are in this situation and best wishes.

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Sun 03/31/13 10:23 AM
Friends will kid around but won't go to the no-no zone if they are in a relationship with someone else.

If she's hiding it, sounds like she's having her cake and eating extra too. Either you live with it or find someone new.

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Sun 03/31/13 11:31 AM

Ok so u in a relationship for 5yrs. U have expressed many times that u don't care if she has friends. In the past she has said she kept certain friendships a secret because she thought u would get mad. U have explained u won't. Now another so called friend. Once again didn't mention she was even talking to this person. So again she says its just a friend. Can a guy and a girl truly be friends? Not like a high school friend she has known, this someone new that's obviously trying to get to know her. She told him she has a girl but of course that won't stop his advances. And she doesn't stop his advances either. So is this really a friendship or a relationship that's slowly developing and I might as well prepare for the worst. I've seen conversation btw them and they flirt both say its just innocent flirting, but its not. So again do I take it for what it is and say its over? Or can this truly just be an innocent friendship btw a guy and a girl.


Wow, A lot of issues to be worked out here. Where to start...

First of all start owning this by changing all the " U's " to " I's " .
ex." I've been in a relationship for 5 years, " " I've expressed many times that I don't care if he has friends. " . [ When Clearly you do, just by writing this. ]

To me it seems your trust level is really low and you're quite skeptical of him.

..Anyways I should be charging you for this... if you want to know more, send $100 cash or check.





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Sun 03/31/13 11:46 AM
Edited by kc0003 on Sun 03/31/13 11:47 AM


Ok so u in a relationship for 5yrs. U have expressed many times that u don't care if she has friends. In the past she has said she kept certain friendships a secret because she thought u would get mad. U have explained u won't. Now another so called friend. Once again didn't mention she was even talking to this person. So again she says its just a friend. Can a guy and a girl truly be friends? Not like a high school friend she has known, this someone new that's obviously trying to get to know her. She told him she has a girl but of course that won't stop his advances. And she doesn't stop his advances either. So is this really a friendship or a relationship that's slowly developing and I might as well prepare for the worst. I've seen conversation btw them and they flirt both say its just innocent flirting, but its not. So again do I take it for what it is and say its over? Or can this truly just be an innocent friendship btw a guy and a girl.


Wow, A lot of issues to be worked out here. Where to start...

First of all start owning this by changing all the " U's " to " I's " .
ex." I've been in a relationship for 5 years, " " I've expressed many times that I don't care if he has friends. " . [ When Clearly you do, just by writing this. ]

To me it seems your trust level is really low and you're quite skeptical of him.

..Anyways I should be charging you for this... if you want to know more, send $100 cash or check.


ha! love that you gave an english lesson with your answer and quickly reinforced your
knowledge and authority by using the word “anyways”.

you do give refunds, I hope. laugh