Under what circumstances would you be comfortable dating a friend’s ex-husband..if any?

I think I would agree with you. It would probably be better still if they had been divorced for a very long time too.

I would not date a friend's ex-husband. My friend's talk about their ex-husband and what they talked about was not good.
I wouldn't want a friend's ex anyway.

I suppose that's going to be the case 99% of the time, right? Even if your friends opinion is a bit biased, you probably would have learned every tiny bit of his dirty laundry already.

I had more good things to say about my ex husband than they did. My ex and I were happy for years before it turn ugly. I feel sorry for women who never experienced a good relationship. I am talking to a nice man right now and I have had good dates since being single. I know men are not all alike.

I've never had a bad relationship either...well, outside of the fact that there were reasons they were not meant to last.

A good freind of mine is married to one of my ex-boyfreinds. It was 7 years after we went seperate ways. I actually introduced them to each other when I asked him to show her around town when she moved to town. They're actually great together.

The question is "how much of her opinion is truely accurate"?

There are, usually, two sides to every story and both make the other out to be the devil's right hand man/woman.

No one, outside of the marriage, really knows and sometimes even the ex-couples understanding may be biased and clouded by anger and bitterness. They either don't remember or can't admit that they could be partially at fault.

Most likely both parties did/said things that undermined the relationship.

I don't know many divorces that ended nicely...so that is probably the case most of the time.

if she was not a close friend who I spent time with and he was not in any type of regular contact with her and she lived pretty far away, pretty much out of his life and mine....

I might consider it ...maybe..it's a big maybe

This type of situation actually happened to me once about 25 yrs ago. My best friends of 10 years divorced and the ex husband started coming to my house asking me out. I knew him really well, and he was a good catch, but the friendship between me, my girlfriend, and her husband was too close and I didn't want to be the woman to take her place, in his and their kids life, that would have been too weird, so I couldn't date him under any circumstances.

Why? Are you thinking of doing this yourself?

Nope, never...there are lines I just don't cross with my friends. And an ex-anything is one of them.

I read the question and was immediately taken back to high school. Remember those days where you liked a girl and you tell your buddy that you like her and yet you are shy to ask her out. And then said buddy moves in, asks her out and she accepts and they start dating. You feel like he cheated you out cause he knew you liked her but he reminds you that you didn't move on your own feelings and he was tired of waiting around. You then realize (after a few days or weeks of being ticked off at him) that he is right. So all is well and you move on to the next girl you are crushing on. Sure you liked the original crush you had but once your buddy and her break it off you won't go in for sloppy seconds. Lol. Ahhhhhhh youth.

Not done,not now,not ever!! No!

Never....But I might kick his azz for hurting my friend

Nope. It's just a situation I've seen a couple of times and wondered what others think about it.

This is where my mind is on the subject...
I had an ex-boyfriend, who I maintained a friendship with, and a long time girlfriend who lived in another town. When she moved here several years ago, I didn't have time to take her around and show her the sights, so suggested he do it. He took her around town a couple of times, the caught a spark and began a relationship. We hadn't dated in over 7 years and, as I said, we were good friends still, so it was not an issue with me when she came to me and told me that she really liked him. I encouraged them to date when they seemed reluctant on my behalf. They've been married for over 5 years and we all get on really well.

Another friend of mine just started dating the ex-husband of another one of our friends and thought it would work out similarly, but the circumstances were a little different...namely a divorce was a factor that was missing in the previous scenario. So, am curious if anyone thinks that it would work under any circumstance when there is a divorce involved.

Yeah, I doubt I could go there either, but have never been tempted either.

That happened to me once, but by accident. I made a friend hate me because I went to Homecoming with a boy she liked...but I had no idea she liked him.

K, she HAD talked about this over the top dreamy guy named Mark, but never pointed him out to me.

K, like a thrid of the boys at our school were named Mark.

K, she hated jocks and he was the untimate jock.

How could I have possibly pegged THAT guy as THE Mark she was going on about?

RIGHT? LIKE...TOTOALLY DUDE!

Bringing kids into the scenario is a big game changer I would think...even if you would consider it without them in the mix.