Topic: Disabled looking for accepting lover
ffomega's photo
Sat 03/23/13 02:31 AM
Edited by ffomega on Sat 03/23/13 02:36 AM
My profile is pretty self-explanatory, but I will be a bit more detailed here:

I am declared legally blind by the state. I have no depth perception and can't drive or operate heavy machinery. I live off SSI/Disability so I don't live with anyone or depend on anyone (usually).

I have some level of independence...I just refuse to work for personal reasons that most wouldn't understand. I am aware that there are people out there who would say I can do it if I just applied myself.

I am divorced, and have two kids who live with their family. I do not want anymore children. That does not mean I do not love my own, it means I do not have the capacity or patience to take care of them.

I do not smoke or drink (frankly because I cant handle my liquor, and I have sleep apnea so I can't be around smokers). I am not an active member of society...the closest I have gotten is donating blood on occasion. I am very friendly when in public. I like to talk--some say too much...and I have been accused of being too kind for my own good. I have been taken advantage of...even by my past relationships.

To be honest I am completely comfortable with my lifestyle the way it is and have no desire to change it. I want to find a woman who is okay with that, and will continue to be--not say she is in the beginning and then later on say she wishes things were different.

I spend my days online watching videos, chatting, and playing online games. I love anime and try to watch it as much as I can.

My ideal partner is someone who can accept this lifestyle about me...after all the basis of a relationship is accepting each other for the way they are, without trying to make them 'better' or different from the person they were when you met them.

Relationships shouldn't be based on money, power, physique, cars, job title, talents or age. I think if you fall in love with a person based on who they are you should continue to love them THE WAY THEY ARE FOR LIFE...and NOT wish there were things about them you wish you could change or make better.

I might sound weird to some people but I feel like there are plenty of people who would agree with me.

Tell me what you think :)

4evababy's photo
Sat 03/23/13 04:36 AM
good luck thats all im going to say, " bites my toungue"

ruth74's photo
Sat 03/23/13 05:54 AM
I'm kind of at a loss for words bud.
You say you are happy with your life the way it is....okay.
I think you've been hurt, crushed, abused, neglected to the point where you think you don't deserve any better.
My heart aches for you...but you need to want better for yourself, and no one can do that for you.
You deserve better my friend....
Good luck on your journey.

TawtStrat's photo
Sat 03/23/13 06:32 AM
I'm in a similar situation to yourself, so I think I know where you're coming from.

Do you think that you are being really honest though when you say that you are completely happy with your life? You describe yourself as a sociable person but you feel cut off from society and just spend your life on the internet. If you did meet somebody wouldn't you want that to be part of getting out into the world again or would you just want to sit in the house with her all the time?

Say that you do find somebody on here; how are you going to meet her? Dating usually means going out with somebody and not just expecting them to come to your house.

Honestly, you do not sound happy at all and you just sound like you have given up and resigned yourself to your fate.

jessejames2's photo
Sat 03/23/13 04:51 PM

I'm kind of at a loss for words bud.
You say you are happy with your life the way it is....okay.
I think you've been hurt, crushed, abused, neglected to the point where you think you don't deserve any better.
My heart aches for you...but you need to want better for yourself, and no one can do that for you.
You deserve better my friend....
Good luck on your journey.


No, you were at a loss for words.