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I got stuck at "I'm worth the time it takes to put a bit of work into our "first" contact"....How are the men making "first" contact supposed to know this? 
1. Because ANYONE should be worth it, if they're someone you're interested in. 2. If they've bothered to read my profile at all, it should be fairly obvious what kind of woman I am. My profile isn't a two-sentence quickie. It's pretty detailed, partly because I *want* to weed out the guys who won't bother to spend the time it takes to read it. I've had my quota of relationships with men who couldn't be bothered to give a woman more than minimal attention, so why would I want to invite more of the same? |
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I got stuck at "I'm worth the time it takes to put a bit of work into our "first" contact"....How are the men making "first" contact supposed to know this?
1. Because ANYONE should be worth it, if they're someone you're interested in. 2. If they've bothered to read my profile at all, it should be fairly obvious what kind of woman I am. My profile isn't a two-sentence quickie. It's pretty detailed, partly because I *want* to weed out the guys who won't bother to spend the time it takes to read it. I've had my quota of relationships with men who couldn't be bothered to give a woman more than minimal attention, so why would I want to invite more of the same? Do you ever take the initiative and make "first" contact? |
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak.
Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. |
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I got stuck at "I'm worth the time it takes to put a bit of work into our "first" contact"....How are the men making "first" contact supposed to know this?
1. Because ANYONE should be worth it, if they're someone you're interested in. 2. If they've bothered to read my profile at all, it should be fairly obvious what kind of woman I am. My profile isn't a two-sentence quickie. It's pretty detailed, partly because I *want* to weed out the guys who won't bother to spend the time it takes to read it. I've had my quota of relationships with men who couldn't be bothered to give a woman more than minimal attention, so why would I want to invite more of the same? Do you ever take the initiative and make "first" contact? Absolutely. I just don't bother making it with guys who type their profiles in textspeak, and I type my first contact messages in English. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. Exactly. |
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ? 
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I think it's more about what's current than about lack of intelligence, disrespect for language, laziness, etc...My grandson is 19...He is very intelligent, respectful, works and attends school full time (he's not lazy), and is a texting shortcut genius...As are his peers!...I am learning it because I liken it to the early days of computers and I remember how those who resisted the changes associated with technical progress all too often got left behind...I do not use text shorthand and will never give up the beauty I find in the use of eloquent language and grammatically correct writing....BUT!..... I have no problem with those who do and in some cases even envy their ability to abbreviate communication so effortlessly and so effectively... Oh, I completely understand that it's what's current, and I've used my share of it in situations that I deem appropriate... such as lightning-fast exchanges on chat with a good friend where we're both typing at breakneck speed as it is. But I don't think it's appropriate when you're trying to make a good first impression on a potential date or mate, and either of you is over the age of 20. See, if you want to impress me, you are NOT going to do it by implying that you have only five seconds of time to give me. I'm worth the time it takes to sit down and compose a thoughtful, interesting and intriguing message. I'm worth the time it takes to put a little bit of work into our first contact. For that matter I'd like to think that any potential mate is worth the effort of putting some actual work into crafting your profile as well. This is why I ignore profiles without photos, and with textspeak in place of actual words. That's the sort of thing that shows laziness or a lack of attention... and if you can't be bothered to pay attention long enough to write something out properly, then what kind of attention could I possibly expect from you on a date??? Nice to make your acquaintance, ViaMusica... Welcome to Mingle... I'm very impressed with your style... and agree with you 100%... it's good to have new and vibrant perspectives on the threads... 
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ?
Okay, I do have to admit that made me laugh hard enough to get a strange look from one of my cats.
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Edited by
ViaMusica
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Mon 03/11/13 04:19 PM
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Thank you, AthenaRose!
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ?
Okay, I do have to admit that made me laugh hard enough to get a strange look from one of my cats.
My "first" impression of you was right!! I KNEW you had a great sense of humor, Musica!  
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Well to me, textspeak is to the modern world as shorthand was to the olden days of cursive writing. As long as I can decipher it I am ok with it. I will also say that after a while it can get tedious.
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Well to me, textspeak is to the modern world as shorthand was to the olden days of cursive writing. As long as I can decipher it I am ok with it. I will also say that after a while it can get tedious. I had completely forgotten about shorthand!...It seems we agree!...And yes indeed, it can get tedious! |
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ?
Fer U, anytime!!!  
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ?
Fer U, anytime!!!
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Pulls out the old speak and spell from the drawer of childhood…….let’s see now where is that on switch located….ah yes here it is.
A is for apple B is for bacon C is for caramel D is for dollar pancakes E is for ……….. Eating fried apple slices sautéed in a caramel sauce spread over dollar size pancakes with a side of bacon. Okay bad example….I am just hungry now. We all start somewhere and I believe that in order shortcut something one must first perform the task properly showing that they have earned the right to be lazy if they so chose. Appreciate and understand the artwork before submitting the napkin sketch. I have no issues with text shortcuts unless it is all you have to offer. |
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I have enough chit to remember without learning textspeak. Women in my age range don't abbreviate. I am more forgiving of misspelling than laziness. IMEZRU ?
Okay, I do have to admit that made me laugh hard enough to get a strange look from one of my cats.
My "first" impression of you was right!! I KNEW you had a great sense of humor, Musica!
What a coincidence, that is what her profile says... |
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I think it's more about what's current than about lack of intelligence, disrespect for language, laziness, etc...My grandson is 19...He is very intelligent, respectful, works and attends school full time (he's not lazy), and is a texting shortcut genius...As are his peers!...I am learning it because I liken it to the early days of computers and I remember how those who resisted the changes associated with technical progress all too often got left behind...I do not use text shorthand and will never give up the beauty I find in the use of eloquent language and grammatically correct writing....BUT!..... I have no problem with those who do and in some cases even envy their ability to abbreviate communication so effortlessly and so effectively... Oh, I completely understand that it's what's current, and I've used my share of it in situations that I deem appropriate... such as lightning-fast exchanges on chat with a good friend where we're both typing at breakneck speed as it is. But I don't think it's appropriate when you're trying to make a good first impression on a potential date or mate, and either of you is over the age of 20. See, if you want to impress me, you are NOT going to do it by implying that you have only five seconds of time to give me. I'm worth the time it takes to sit down and compose a thoughtful, interesting and intriguing message. I'm worth the time it takes to put a little bit of work into our first contact. For that matter I'd like to think that any potential mate is worth the effort of putting some actual work into crafting your profile as well. This is why I ignore profiles without photos, and with textspeak in place of actual words. That's the sort of thing that shows laziness or a lack of attention... and if you can't be bothered to pay attention long enough to write something out properly, then what kind of attention could I possibly expect from you on a date??? I got stuck at "I'm worth the time it takes to put a bit of work into our "first" contact"....How are the men making "first" contact supposed to know this?
Would it be better if those making first contact acted as if no one was worth the time? |
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I think it's more about what's current than about lack of intelligence, disrespect for language, laziness, etc...My grandson is 19...He is very intelligent, respectful, works and attends school full time (he's not lazy), and is a texting shortcut genius...As are his peers!...I am learning it because I liken it to the early days of computers and I remember how those who resisted the changes associated with technical progress all too often got left behind...I do not use text shorthand and will never give up the beauty I find in the use of eloquent language and grammatically correct writing....BUT!..... I have no problem with those who do and in some cases even envy their ability to abbreviate communication so effortlessly and so effectively... Oh, I completely understand that it's what's current, and I've used my share of it in situations that I deem appropriate... such as lightning-fast exchanges on chat with a good friend where we're both typing at breakneck speed as it is. But I don't think it's appropriate when you're trying to make a good first impression on a potential date or mate, and either of you is over the age of 20. See, if you want to impress me, you are NOT going to do it by implying that you have only five seconds of time to give me. I'm worth the time it takes to sit down and compose a thoughtful, interesting and intriguing message. I'm worth the time it takes to put a little bit of work into our first contact. For that matter I'd like to think that any potential mate is worth the effort of putting some actual work into crafting your profile as well. This is why I ignore profiles without photos, and with textspeak in place of actual words. That's the sort of thing that shows laziness or a lack of attention... and if you can't be bothered to pay attention long enough to write something out properly, then what kind of attention could I possibly expect from you on a date??? I got stuck at "I'm worth the time it takes to put a bit of work into our "first" contact"....How are the men making "first" contact supposed to know this?
Would it be better if those making first contact acted as if no one was worth the time? I'm OK with a Hi how R U, some people aren't....If I get a brief first contact, even one in text speak, I always go to the profile and check it out....This always tells me how or if I will respond...So I guess the only way I can answer your question is I don't know because I don't have any rules or qualifiers concerning first contact from guys or gals... |
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I'll usually respond as well if they're not rude and I can understand what they're saying. But, they will get the same effort in my response as they put into the email to begin with. Chances of a "hi how r u" kind of start going very far is pretty little, as those guys don't usually seem to have much to say.
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I'll usually respond as well if they're not rude and I can understand what they're saying. But, they will get the same effort in my response as they put into the email to begin with. Chances of a "hi how r u" kind of start going very far is pretty little, as those guys don't usually seem to have much to say. Exactly my thought. If they don't have much to say, we're probably not going to do a lot of talking, which means things will fizzle out pretty quickly. |
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I'll usually respond as well if they're not rude and I can understand what they're saying. But, they will get the same effort in my response as they put into the email to begin with. Chances of a "hi how r u" kind of start going very far is pretty little, as those guys don't usually seem to have much to say. I get that Sing...What works for me isn't going to work for everyone, but I feel this way about it...I joined the site to meet people and no matter who contacts me or how they do it, I am going to check them out... I view putting my profile up as an invitation for any and all to make contact.....The deleting, reporting, and blocking features are available if I need them.... So qualifying or deciding who I will or won't answer prior to first contact is not something I feel a need to do... |
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