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I never worry if her folks will like me or not. It's like meeting any stranger. Make eye contact, firm handshake, smile and pay attention to what's being said and respond appropriately. excellent advice... thanks Scoundrel... |
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I feel like being ugly.
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Well be yourself that is the best but be flexible give your partner some consideration
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<---- Is not a changeling. 
Seriously though? No, trying to be something I’m not is not how I would want my boyfriend’s parents to like me. What I can do is avoid touching on hot button issues. Even if hot topics enter the conversation, I don’t argue...I discuss. Nice post, simple and profound. |
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when I met my "ex" in laws I behaved respectfully even tho we were from different subcultures. First when meeting new people I usually meld into the bacground & observe - don't say much for awhile
Second, even if I was mad as a hornet I was polite, thankful & respectful. They were my elders and I also owed my spouse at the time that much my inlaws were a hoot tho....years on down the line I spent mostly laughing around the kitchen table....good peeps |
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I would employ my boilerplate "distant but respectful" way of behaving.
I am careful to get a lay of the land before considering opening up and being myself. If their standards are too different from my own and I see that they are inflexible, I prefer to remain distant but polite. |
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I would never want to be with a guy if he wanted me to change. I am the way I am from things that have happened, so I'm this. I could not pretend to be someone I'm not. As having to do that, just to please someone, it would end up making me feel moody and unimpressed with myself. I only date men who like me as I already am. If some don't like my personality, well, why would I bother giving them a chance? Not me. No.
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I would employ my boilerplate "distant but respectful" way of behaving. I am careful to get a lay of the land before considering opening up and being myself. If their standards are too different from my own and I see that they are inflexible, I prefer to remain distant but polite. I understand. That is how I am most of the time with everyone |
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Edited by
CremeBrulee
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Wed 03/06/13 10:57 PM
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You are meeting your significant others family for the first time. You’ve already been informed that they have particular standards that are different from yours. Wanting to please your partner by fitting in and being accepted, do you conform to their way of thinking and behaving, or just be yourself and hope for the best? Hoooooooh!! Pretending/changing into who you are not,just to please potential inlaws?? Thats bound to backfire on me!! No,i stay and keep being me as much as i can.....thats the best i can be! If they dont like me,tough luck! Afterall,i'd be marrying him,not ''them''-afterall,quite a big number of parents dont get along with their son/daughter's choice for a partner! So,i stay as me,fingers crossed and hope for the BEST!! Che sera sera!! |
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Well be yourself that is the best but be flexible give your partner some consideration thank you for your advice, minemine... flexible it is... 
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<---- Is not a changeling.
Seriously though? No, trying to be something I’m not is not how I would want my boyfriend’s parents to like me. What I can do is avoid touching on hot button issues. Even if hot topics enter the conversation, I don’t argue...I discuss. Nice post, simple and profound. 
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Isn't it past your bedtime?
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when I met my "ex" in laws I behaved respectfully even tho we were from different subcultures. First when meeting new people I usually meld into the bacground & observe - don't say much for awhile Second, even if I was mad as a hornet I was polite, thankful & respectful. They were my elders and I also owed my spouse at the time that much my inlaws were a hoot tho....years on down the line I spent mostly laughing around the kitchen table....good peeps nice story, sweet... glad you all could grow close...
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I would employ my boilerplate "distant but respectful" way of behaving. I am careful to get a lay of the land before considering opening up and being myself. If their standards are too different from my own and I see that they are inflexible, I prefer to remain distant but polite. I'm the same, thank you for sharing, Day Sinner |
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I would never want to be with a guy if he wanted me to change. I am the way I am from things that have happened, so I'm this. I could not pretend to be someone I'm not. As having to do that, just to please someone, it would end up making me feel moody and unimpressed with myself. I only date men who like me as I already am. If some don't like my personality, well, why would I bother giving them a chance? Not me. No. If some don't like my personality, why would I give them a chance? Love it, Rawrr...
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You are meeting your significant others family for the first time. You’ve already been informed that they have particular standards that are different from yours. Wanting to please your partner by fitting in and being accepted, do you conform to their way of thinking and behaving, or just be yourself and hope for the best? Hoooooooh!! Pretending/changing into who you are not,just to please potential inlaws?? Thats bound to backfire on me!! No,i stay and keep being me as much as i can.....thats the best i can be! If they dont like me,tough luck! Afterall,i'd be marrying him,not ''them''-afterall,quite a big number of parents dont get along with their son/daughter's choice for a partner! So,i stay as me,fingers crossed and hope for the BEST!! Che sera sera!! cool, Newbiechick...
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