In every relationship there may come times when we don’t see eye to eye.

During the honeymoon phase of committed partnerships we tend to listen more closely to the others concerns and view, then we agree to compromise amicably as we grow together in love and knowledge.

As time goes on, we become comfortably secure with each other, and stop listening like we once did, taking each other for granted. Then, a disagreement arises and we both now refuse to give in, instead, we stand firm in our position until it causes a breakdown in our relationship. Walls go up, anger stays just beneath the surface, and we might even stop speaking altogether. Days can go by and we avoid each other like obstinate children each wanting our own way.

How do we resolve this situation so that our relationship can heal, and return to pre-war status, or, is it possible that we have reached the point of no return by this point, all hope of reconciliation is gone, and it’s time to wrap things up toward closure?

Good topic! You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned acting like "obstinate children!"..I think we all get stuck in our "kid-selves" at times where we refuse to compromise or look at other sides..It becomes: "My way or the highway!" And it's sad..So many couples act like competitive brothers and sisters who play-out sibling rivalry...We can't really solve problems in healthy and productive ways unless we step into our adult and "grown-up selves."...Then "winning" is all about finding solutions that work for everyone. (Versus one person "winning" at the expense of the relationship.)

very well said...

It makes me sad that I asked someone if they ever had doubts and changed their mind and they said "NO." That implies to me an unwillingness to learn or accept new data.

I soooo want to disagree with you right now, hippie... but, once again you're right...

I think all intelligent creatures recognize the fact they can't be right all the time. Whether it be aliens from melmac or homo sapiens.

i'm never wrong... not always right either, but never wrong...

Of course, but you'd never know it the way some like to fight to prove they're right, even when they know they're wrong... it's more about the power struggle... who is in control... who's word is law... it really boils down to respect, I think...

I can honestly say I've never known you to be wrong about anything Moe

yeah mightymoe, I like that middle gray area myself... there's so much more room to maneuver there...

woohoo! someone believed my BS!!!

saves face, right? lol

that, and then some... I'm not ashamed to back peddle if I have too...