Topic: not attractive, confident, need help
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Sun 08/12/07 11:53 AM
I am very pretty, and smart, people around me always said that, but I am short, 5 feet only, even I has sense of humor, try to make other people laugh, and I show my smile to and self-motivated to talk to other people to, being friendly, but not matter when I went, around the job, or party, I was always being ignore, person don't talk to me, or pretend I am not exist.
I feel very lonely, I don't know what's wrong, please help.

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Sun 08/12/07 11:57 AM
Heck Ill talk to ya,Just E-mail me anytime I am on every day.

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Sun 08/12/07 11:58 AM
maybe you need to walk up and talk to other people first. that could be a problem.

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Sun 08/12/07 12:23 PM
yeah be bold and go up to the person if you want to talk to them

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Sun 08/12/07 12:26 PM
I agree with dragon, you must have a certain amount of confidence to be able to walk up to someone and talk to them. You are young yet, I find as I've gotten older my confidence has improved. It is something that you have to deal with, if you see what you want, nothing wrong with talking to him....

Welcome to JSH, by the way, join the threads, that should help your confidence.

flowerforyou

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Sun 08/12/07 03:50 PM
maybe you are shy about yourself or low in confidence? You did'nt answer any q's on your profile.It's hard for people to have an interest if there's nothing there to start with.

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Sun 08/12/07 03:59 PM
First of all...welcome to just say hi!!!
You can be shy and still have confidence in yourself! I am a very quiet person but I have a lot of confidence in who I am and what I want. Men find that very attractive...just so you are not over-confident!
I think you just need to be proud of who you are and hold your head high. If you feel sexy then you will look sexy....so get out there and be sexy girl!!!
Good luck flowerforyou

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Sun 08/12/07 04:00 PM

Awww, turn. Don't concern yourself too much with your thoughts on how you are perceived. You sound like a normal, nice, friendly gal. Just keep doing things to nurture yourself and have fun in the process. Don't worry so much about the guy part. He'll come along before you know it! flowerforyou

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Mon 08/13/07 03:32 PM
Hang in there! I hear you all too well. The bottom line.... You Be You! It is more about being confident (not cocky) in who you are and feling good about that. It has taken me a little time to get that place, but I think I'm finally there. Do I have women falling at my feet? Do people go out of their way to talk to me? No, No, and NO. BUT.... look at this way.... it's their loss because you are the best you that you got! Keep it real and remember...

Laugh lot and Smile often,

Billy

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Mon 08/13/07 03:35 PM
Well said Billy...happy

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Wed 08/15/07 12:56 PM
There are many reasons for various types of social behaviour. Sometimes without knowing we can send out signals that we are not approachable. Very often when women or men are extremely attractive some people are intimidated by them. Their self doubts is quite evident because they think the hot babe or guy won't even acknowledge them. I'm not saying this is the case with you but there are a lot of beautiful people out there who give the impression that they are superior. Just be yourself and if you want to talk to someone, go ahead. If they are not responsive, then it is their loss. I can never understand why people who are in a social setting choose to ignore the people that are present. You indicate that you are "lonely", try joining groups that share your special interests, it's a great way to meet people who like to do the things you enjoy. In the meanwhile, don't worry about people who ignore you, the world is filled with many people who will be happy to make your acquaintance. It isn't You, it's THEM!

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Wed 08/15/07 01:04 PM
Hi there turnaroundnowflowerforyou ,

Welcome. This is the 1st time I've seen you on JSH. We're all glad to have you. If you want or need someone to talk to, e-mail me anytime. I'd be honored.

knoxman

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Wed 08/15/07 01:22 PM
Ditto Knoxlaugh Lots of friendly people here..all willing to be friends turnaround flowerforyou

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Wed 08/15/07 01:27 PM
lol you could be intimidating just start talking~! lol once i start i never shut up you will either drive them crazy or they will love you lol ~Alanna