I speak of the old cliché…
it’s better to have loved… and lost… then never to have loved at all…
but…
do we really understand at what cost… we move on…
the part of ourselves we leave behind… is gone from us… we create our own void…
it’s still back where… in another’s mind…
and we’re forever fused in another’s heart… in the deepest dark…
each missing piece… adds up to who we are… without that part…

think about it…
no matter the miles… time… or others… in between…
we never lose the memories… the love… the pain… it all remains…
as long as we live… we carry everyone we ever loved with us…
even when feelings turn to hate…
and our histories affect us each and every day… make no mistake…
then we meet somebody new… we believe we’ll be happy then too…
and we invest ourselves again… or… at least the part that’s left…
and it can get less and less…
as the spirit grows colder… the older… and more world weary (jaded) we get…

think about it again…
young love… the first love… is so innocent… so eager… and so ignorant…
full of expectations… demands… and the willingness to give… and to please…
to keep that which makes us feel real… feel complete…
there’s no one… or nothing… to compare love against then… it’s just starting out…
no road map… no known destination… and absolutely no hesitation…
when inexperienced hearts rule the world… rule it together…
all the storms are happily weathered…
then one day without notice… we can change… our love connection isn’t the same…
and we look at each other to blame…
from that moment onward… every new encounter is judged by the last…
until eventually we can just stop giving… stop really living…
our here and now… becomes more about… then and there…
and we can go through life refusing to truly care…
always wearing a mask… to hide the pain… the overwhelming emptiness…
the loss of ourselves in the past…

So tell me…

Is it really better to have loved… and lost… then never to have loved at all…

©AthenaRose01/05/13

YES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I totally agree with you, Jeff... no matter how many times I fall on my face... I get right back up... dust myself off... and do it all over again... shame on me, huh? lol...

I will never forget my loves.

huh...its better to remain all alone rather than fall in love n get hurt....heart is not a toy that can BE given to anyone...let people brk n hand over back n u still fix it n move on....love is a divine thing...dont let it become a hit n error method...if u want TO love then love unconditionally...n love THE person who loves u alot if u cant do so...u r a looser n dont spoil lifes n the pureness of love...just remain single...

Thank you for your advice... Vikas...

I'll keep it in mind if another man enters my life and claims to love me, but he really doesn't. There’s no way to know we're just being played when we're in the midst of being deceived. But, it shouldn’t take us long to wake up to that fact. Because once you've experienced true love before… you know if it’s the real thing again… or not… And I can’t imagine always remaining alone out of fear of the unknown… fear of getting hurt… when that is the chance we willingly take for love.

As for me… I will remain single until the right man for me comes and sweeps me off my feet… I’m just a hopeless romantic… who believes that unconditional love sill exists to some degree…

Me neither, Jeff... Each one taught me something different... Loved me in their own ways... And we all still remain friends in the end...

I am and want to always be
like PETER PAN
So young and free...

young and free... yes...
that's the way to truly be...
at any age...