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Topic: Does no mean no?
Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Wed 12/19/12 08:34 PM
Limits aren't always going to be set before. Well, why not? If a man is expected to be able to control his sexual urges, then why can't a woman do the same? Come to think of it, a woman can do the same, which is why plenty of women here say in their profiles that they aren't going to have sex until marriage. They say up front that they aren't into playing games. They have said "No" before anything happens. I will give you this much. A man should ask a woman what her limits are, instead of waiting until reaching the point at which she says "No". That way the man doesn't get himself worked up for nothing.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Wed 12/19/12 08:38 PM
When a woman sternly says "NO!" (About anything) she needs to be able to stay firm and determined, and back it up. A man needs to learn that NO probably means NO and he should not gamble on that. When I was a young girl, three guys were playing around at a swimming hole and let me know that they intended to pick me up and throw me into the water. I was not feeling good and I said NO don't! They ignored me and all three approached me. I really meant "no." The three of them ended up getting kicked, some in their privates I'm sure, by a kicking screaming crazy woman. (Me). I was not kidding. They did not appreciate it, but they refused to hear me when I said NO!

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 12/19/12 08:40 PM


singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 12/19/12 08:43 PM
Limits aren't always going to be set before. Well, why not? If a man is expected to be able to control his sexual urges, then why can't a woman do the same? Come to think of it, a woman can do the same, which is why plenty of women here say in their profiles that they aren't going to have sex until marriage. They say up front that they aren't into playing games. They have said "No" before anything happens. I will give you this much. A man should ask a woman what her limits are, instead of waiting until reaching the point at which she says "No". That way the man doesn't get himself worked up for nothing. I'm not saying women can't control themselves. I may go out with someone thinking I'm not going to have sex with him and change my mind later. Or, I may go out with someone thinking I am going to have sex and change my mind.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Wed 12/19/12 08:52 PM


Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Wed 12/19/12 09:05 PM


MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 12/19/12 09:20 PM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Wed 12/19/12 09:27 PM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior. That isn't what this thread is about.

plastic_pancakes Joined Sun 10/18/09 Posts: 7399	Wed 12/19/12 11:26 PM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior. That isn't what this thread is about. Hahahahahaha. Oh, that's awesome. I feel like I can narrow this down! DON'T HAVE NON-CONSENSUAL SEX WITH WOMEN. DON'T HAVE CONSENSUAL SEX WITH GIRLS UNDER 18 (in America, at least... unless you're under 18 too... and then if that's the case why the hell are you here?) There are actually women that are really into rape fantasies, but that's definitely something that should probably be clarified beforehand, because most sane men won't be able to pick up on that secret desire. If you're into BDSM, try using a safety word or the color system (yellow, red, purple [indebted to the one who taught me that]). I think that covers it. I hope. But seriously, don't rape women.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 12/20/12 06:35 AM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior. That isn't what this thread is about. Hahahahahaha. Oh, that's awesome. I feel like I can narrow this down! DON'T HAVE NON-CONSENSUAL SEX WITH WOMEN. DON'T HAVE CONSENSUAL SEX WITH GIRLS UNDER 18 (in America, at least... unless you're under 18 too... and then if that's the case why the hell are you here?) There are actually women that are really into rape fantasies, but that's definitely something that should probably be clarified beforehand, because most sane men won't be able to pick up on that secret desire. If you're into BDSM, try using a safety word or the color system (yellow, red, purple [indebted to the one who taught me that]). I think that covers it. I hope. But seriously, don't rape women. That about covers it.

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Thu 12/20/12 06:55 AM
This came up in another thread, but I thought it could use a thread of it's own. No means no. Do you agree with that? If not, why? What circumstances would make you not agree with it? It ought to mean NO! That's why you also have YES and MAYBE in the Language!

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Thu 12/20/12 07:24 AM
I use to feel uncomfortable saying no directly, but I found that in the long run it is much better. I found that a lot of the women I know (sombunall- some but not all- RAW) assume that if you sleep with them that you are into them and not that they backed you into an emotional corner and you really don't want to hurt anyone. However saying no directly has really limited the amount of crazy in my life.

RoamingOrator Joined Fri 07/20/07 Posts: 4943	Thu 12/20/12 08:00 AM
It's been my experience that no means no. Also "maybe" means no and "yes" means no. Pretty much all answers I get usually turn out to mean no. If I was Einstein, the equation would read "E=no."

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Thu 12/20/12 08:24 AM
This came up in another thread, but I thought it could use a thread of it's own. No means no. Do you agree with that? If not, why? What circumstances would make you not agree with it? It ought to mean NO! That's why you also have YES and MAYBE in the Language! Exactly....No means no...Ladies, you can say it anyway you like...Soft and sexy, loud and mean...If the man you are saying no to refuses to stop, after he finishes, go straight to the police station, file a report, and request an escort to the nearest hospital...Tell them you have been raped and you want them to collect evidence and test you for STD's....When you are finished, go home, shower, rest...Make an appointment with a good therapist (you will probably need one) and wait for the trial...Let the man who refused to stop when you "told" him to explain his reason(s) to a judge and jury....Everyone is entitled to due process, even you....

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Thu 12/20/12 08:33 AM
This came up in another thread, but I thought it could use a thread of it's own. No means no. Do you agree with that? If not, why? What circumstances would make you not agree with it? It ought to mean NO! That's why you also have YES and MAYBE in the Language! Exactly....No means no...Ladies, you can say it anyway you like...Soft and sexy, loud and mean...If the man you are saying no to refuses to stop, after he finishes, go straight to the police station, file a report, and request an escort to the nearest hospital...Tell them you have been raped and you want them to collect evidence and test you for STD's....When you are finished, go home, shower, rest...Make an appointment with a good therapist (you will probably need one) and wait for the trial...Let the man who refused to stop when you "told" him to explain his reason(s) to a judge and jury....Everyone is entitled to due process, even you....

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Thu 12/20/12 08:33 AM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior. The above is an example of how people don't comprehend. No means no.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 12/20/12 08:37 AM
What this thread is really about: Women just aren't interested in banging/being around ugly guys. Interpret that how you will. Ugly doesn't always mean exterior. There isn't anything to interpret. The thread is about no meaning no. It's quite simple, really.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 12/20/12 08:57 AM
When I say No, I mean No. If a man thinks otherwise; he will be in for a painful surprise.

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Thu 12/20/12 09:03 AM
In most respects yes SAVE ONE, (ACTUALLY TWO) Case one, NEVER TEASE A STARVING DOG WITH MEAT! PERIOD. If you dangle a slab of meat in front of a starving dog you will get bitten. Case two, women who play the no game... "No baby, No baby, baby why are you stopping?" Please tell me women don't do that... Not all women do but some do... Really the only sounds I want to hear are those of a woman having the time of her life under, above, beside, and bent over the couch in front of me... 'NO' is the last thing I want to hear! So how do you justify an idiot who straps T-Bone steaks on their naked bodies to go streaking in front of hungry lions? Have you never been to a strip club? How would this thinking work there...How would you slow the bus down in that environment man. You may find that T-bone on your eye or worse, if the bouncers feel like justifying the situation. NICE TRY! That is a reversal of the argument but that has no validity. A strip club is a tease and going there any man had better understand that. On top of that if you got the cash you can get a piece of azz off of any stripper. I do not get excited over women who sell themselves like most men do. I have been to strip clubs before. Yes some of the women are hot to look at BUT knowing what they are takes a lot of the beauty away. Strip clubs are about money. Sex for sale... That AIN'T my bag... You want to see a stripper get blown away. Ignore her in her won strip club! Besides, if I need more sexual frustration I can com to topics like this here on Mingle!

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Thu 12/20/12 09:07 AM
When I say No, I mean No. If a man thinks otherwise; he will be in for a painful surprise. but you also don't go around teasing men and not expecting them to react! Hell, I grew up in the days of the BOTH FEET ON THE FLOOR, 18 INCHES OF SPACE BETWEEN rules. Now its anything goes. If I have to explain this...