If your planning on jumping right into another relationship after just coming out of a long term relationship, just put some thought into it befor doing so. sometimes its better to keep fight for someone that youve already put your soul into rather than trying to start somewhere else.

I completely agree, it's pointless to just let someone go and start over. You don't know what you have until you've lost it.

It all deponds on the both, won't you agree? The reason I say this an ask the question. Relationships are like a boxing match stlyes make great fights. When you study you pasted realtionships did you learn any thing? So there times when we need the change it's just deponds on the time and where we are in our lives.

Wow, tyler.. i can feel the earnestness in your message.. and I completely agree with trying to make things work. But, now i also have a question, plz.. if a long term relationship has ended and either party is thinking about moving on.. there must be a disconnect somewhere between them right? So how does one reignite a lasting flame that has finally burned out?

well, first and formost, its not so much how the other person feels that you should be so worried about. understand their views and perspectives on things of course, but its your heart and your intentions that matter the most. you just need to find the ways to be able to convey your emotions in the best way possible. conversations save relationships, its how you conversate that makes all the differance.

cool.. so you still hold out hope then to reignite the old flame with some serious communication.. yes, i can see that.. so long as both people know in their hearts that an earnest effort to reconnect is being made.. and its not just some jealous ploy by one of the two to keep the other one from finding someone else to replace them.. know what i mean?

I divorced my husband of 18 years 7 months ago.. and he wants to get back together now.. but no matter how much we talk about it.. my mind is made up. He had 18 years of my life to get it right.. it's too late to start over now that my eyes to his reality are open.. no more sleep walking for me..

Know what I mean?

I enjoy this provocative idea you posted.. gives us space to relate..