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Do not seek to avoid rejection and pretend it is something that you must learn to "live with". When you free yourself from the delusions of need driven by external forces, you free yourself from the pain associated with rejection. Rejection does not cause pain, friend. Only you do.

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Do not take rejection personally. This commonly stated phrase is not at odds with the fact that the rejection probably feels very personal. The point behind this sentiment is that you are often at the receiving end of something far more complex than what you're able to ascertain. To you, it's a simple case of a "no" to your request, proposal, hopes and dreams. To you, there may be weeks, months or years of planning, dreaming and readying yourself behind your request. And yet, there are still two sides to this tale: First, the person doing the rejecting is often unaware of the costs to you in terms of time, resources and energy expended. And even if that person is aware of this, you're probably even less aware of what the person doing the rejection has to account for when reaching a decision to decline your request. For example, a person may reject your request for a date because he is still disentangling himself from a long-distance relationship that he doesn't like to talk about openly. Or, an employer receives 5,000 equally excellent applications from people who have striven as hard and as bravely as you have and she has had to use very basic reasons for rejecting most of the pile in order to be able to cope with the influx of applications. Or, your oil painting might not have been accepted because the gallery has to account for ensuring variety for viewers between watercolors and oils and it had to take a tough decision because there was an imbalance of too many oils and not enough watercolors.

Often rejection is based in either the complexity of feelings of the decider or the complexity of the situation before the decider. It is more likely to be logistics, a need for simplicity, an inner uncertainty or a temporary lack of attraction that brings about rejection, as opposed to pure dislike of you or disbelief in your abilities, worthiness or acceptability. And even if you do find out that you've been rejected because your efforts are not up to a standard they need to be, this is not about your sense of worthlessness––it's about needing to keep learning, experimenting and growing into your full potential. Do not make rejection into a case of questioning your own worth––that's basically what it means to not take rejection personally.


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If someone rejects you, respect his or her wishes and wish him or her only good in life. You do not need to completely avoid the person (or the organization, business, etc. of which this person is a part). The people who reject you are not a necessity to life, but this doesn't mean you should hate them. Why? Because it will bring you more pleasure to wish good for others than to hate them. Try it. Hatred inflicts pain onto your own life and causes you to let the rejection take up residence in your head.
If you're rejected by a person, do not blame or hate him or her, even if he or she was nasty about it. Once a relationship has ended or failed to fire, there is no point in crying and making a big deal about it, since you do not need it to feel happy. You may be disappointed that the opportunities with that person have failed to materialize, but realize you didn't "need" the person to make you whole in the first place, you'll find it much easier to wish him or her only good in life. You'll feel much better (and saner) if you hold friendly feelings.
If your opinion does not change about the person, then there is no need to avoid him or her. If you still get some pleasure out of speaking to them, then why leave? It cannot hurt you if this person decides to not speak to you, because you haven't missed out on the real happiness in your life. You've missed out on the temporary boost that being with this person would have given you.
Stay polite. Whatever else is going on inside of you, be polite externally. It won't win you any favors to have an outburst or to insist in an intimidating way that the person rejecting rethink his or her approach. Politeness and patience will let people see your grace and determination to keep going.

You could have put this all in one thread.

looks like less gibberish when separated.