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Topic: Husband cheated with my best friend.
kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 10/23/12 03:24 PM
Maybe i was too mild and my message was not gotten.NEVER GIVE IN TO DIVORCE,ITS THE DEVIL'S ALTERNATIVE!!. bullsh!t

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 10/23/12 03:26 PM
Maybe i was too mild and my message was not gotten.NEVER GIVE IN TO DIVORCE,ITS THE DEVIL'S ALTERNATIVE!!. bullsh!t http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaqazgzbsV4

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 10/23/12 03:27 PM
yeah.. thanks for your words.. unfortunately I have two little ones now that are paying the consequences.. He already wants to get back together.. but how do I deal with the fact of knowing he still got feelings for her? by moving on and not allowing him to do it to you and your children again!

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 10/23/12 03:28 PM
thanks torgo, that helped...

deardude Joined Sun 07/29/12 Posts: 35	Tue 10/23/12 03:31 PM
What's new in todays world in decievg eachother i mean partner for other women or men, especialy in west

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Tue 10/23/12 03:36 PM
What's new in todays world in decievg eachother i mean partner for other women or men, especialy in west deceiving is not location, nor culturally excusive. (you paint with broad strokes my friend.)

Ras427 Joined Wed 08/08/12 Posts: 1516	Tue 10/23/12 03:55 PM
What's new in todays world in decievg eachother i mean partner for other women or men, especialy in west deceiving is not location, nor culturally excusive. (you paint with broad strokes my friend.) with no paint at that.

darkarmando Joined Wed 02/29/12 Posts: 2642	Tue 10/23/12 04:24 PM
Time to dump his a** You are worth more than he deserves!

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Tue 10/23/12 05:35 PM
She was never your best friend, or even just friend, if she was willing to sleep with your man. Sorry but a real friend doesn't pull silly crap like that. I think they both are very insensitive. They obviously didn't care or think about how it would end up hurting you all in the long term. Sure, he couldn't control his hormones. All this just because of a fling. They are obviously right for each other, as they have both destroyed your trust. Once a cheater..........................You probably know the rest of the saying. You deserve a warm-hearted guy. Not an ice berg.

Maerz2803 Joined Thu 09/13/12 Posts: 247	Tue 10/23/12 06:45 PM
Maybe i was too mild and my message was not gotten.NEVER GIVE IN TO DIVORCE,ITS THE DEVIL'S ALTERNATIVE!!. bullsh!t DITTO THAT!!!! Lucy already gave him a second chance!!! I say Good Riddance!!

Maerz2803 Joined Thu 09/13/12 Posts: 247	Tue 10/23/12 06:53 PM
yeah.. thanks for your words.. unfortunately I have two little ones now that are paying the consequences.. He already wants to get back together.. but how do I deal with the fact of knowing he still got feelings for her? Spouses cheat because they have issues....They try to blame their partner or the breakdown of the relationship because they do not want to take responsibility for their actions...It is good that you are capable of forgiveness, but that is not a basis to try again, neither are your children...NONE OF THIS WILL FIX "HIS" PROBLEMS....If you really want to try again, you need to do two things...Insist on some type of professional counseling for yourself and your husband and, if you do not have marketable skills, get them! ... Yeah it is amazing how cheaters use reverse psychology.

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Tue 10/23/12 06:59 PM
... and she took everything including my husband... Question: if you're married what are you doing on a singles dating site?

Rawrr_Girl Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 4431	Tue 10/23/12 07:22 PM
Just a bit of food for thought. You may wanna delete that you're just looking for friends, if you're really looking to date. Or maybe delete the bit where you mention looking for a date. It gave me mixed signals when I viewed your profile. You don't have to, but it's coming across as confusing. Mixed signals.

deardude Joined Sun 07/29/12 Posts: 35	Tue 10/23/12 07:38 PM
Dear Madam, itz easy to teach others lessons but let you tell the advicers how many times they have cheated their wives or beloveds! Ha ha ha

Maerz2803 Joined Thu 09/13/12 Posts: 247	Tue 10/23/12 07:55 PM
Dear Madam, itz easy to teach others lessons but let you tell the advicers how many times they have cheated their wives or beloveds! Ha ha ha Dear Sir, Zero, Nada, Zilch, Nix! Some people are actually committed to their marriage, you know the good AND the bad times. BUT, no use of trying to hold on, if there is nothing to hold onto.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Tue 10/23/12 09:27 PM
It's better to know the truth early enough to recover your life. You didn't lose anything great then.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Tue 10/23/12 11:44 PM
Its ******** holding on to a two timing arsehole. Once the sacrednes of marriage is violated, divorce is allowed. Move on dear.

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Wed 10/24/12 12:03 AM
You might not see it now, but the best thing that you could do is move ahead with your life with out him. Once he broke his marriage vows, can you really ever trust him again? He cheated once and still has feelings for her...it is time to get out of this messy situation before someone gets hurt. Good Luck and run as fast as you can!!!

deardude Joined Sun 07/29/12 Posts: 35	Wed 10/24/12 03:12 AM
Dear Madam, itz easy to teach others lessons but let you tell the advicers how many times they have cheated their wives or beloveds! Ha ha ha Dear Sir, Zero, Nada, Zilch, Nix! Some people are actually committed to their marriage, you know the good AND the bad times. BUT, no use of trying to hold on, if there is nothing to hold onto. yes you are right. I wish if women were married to only those who loved them. But this modern world! Let me quote T.S.Eliot " she smooths her hair with automatic hand And puts a song on the gramaphone."

2Keith Joined Thu 04/14/11 Posts: 155	Fri 10/26/12 11:51 AM
yeah.. thanks for your words.. unfortunately I have two little ones now that are paying the consequences.. He already wants to get back together.. but how do I deal with the fact of knowing he still got feelings for her? Why isn't your feeling toward him one of disgust? He lied to you, broke his vow, and is arrogant enough to treat you like a doormat. Get a grip girl. The only thing that should be between you and him is a large abyss.