Too mushy/gushy for you?

I agree...A plain and simple "hi" is nice! I don't want to be "buttered-up!"

Ditto! I feel the same way!...It's very rare to hear men talk and act this way where I live... "Lines" are a thing of the past. (Something we just see in movies once in awhile today.) How about where you live?

Low-key and sincere (and modest) compliments are nice once in awhile as long as they aren't too mushy or gushy....Sometimes mushy/gushy compliments come with "strings" or hidden motives...Kind of like a "sales pitch!" Or political-rhetoric etc...Like "bait!"...Using honey instead of vinegar to trap and catch a fly!...Or a desire to turn life into a perpetual romance novel (or movie) where women play the role of "delicate flowers" or "fair maidens" who remain naive and innocent all their lives. (And in need of a "knight" or "prince charming" to keep them safe and "sound" etc.)

A lot of men assume most women go for that stuff. I guess that's why we receive emails that are often pretty much the same from many guys. I prefer the guys who read profiles and think a little before sending a message. It doesn't need to be long, but it also doesn't need to say "hey sexy, what's up?" either.

haha. Then they want to know why you didn't say much! I usually let them know that if they want someone to respond with something interesting to say, they'll have to put more effort into the emails. Most of the guys who send messages like that don't respond again.

I agree...How can we trust someone who doesn't view us as an "individual?" Or a man who seems totally focused on "looks?"...And I can't help but view a man who comes across this way as shallow and superficial...It's the "easy route." Or the "one-size-fits all" type of mentality. (At least to me anyway.)....I'm not looking for a "new mate" right now but if I were I'd hold-out for a man of "substance." (Someone who treats women and everyone as 'individuals' because he's worked hard to develop an 'individual self' of his own through the years.) ...A man like this takes pride in being an "original." He has no use for "worn-out lines" or cliches etc.

I think chick flicks and rom coms are to partly blame for this kind of thing. They're often full of cliches. You've heard them all before. I'm certainly not responsive in the way they make it look in the movies. This is me in real life. Those are just movies.

Not sure if where I live men act any different than the other cheesy types . I think everywhere you go, you may face this kind of thing.

It hasn't been part of the culture around here for a long time...I don't even remember it being a dominant factor...If a man does some "sweet-talking" around here we all assume he must be a stranger from some other part or region of the country. It's not the norm at all!

Have a couple more margueritas.....my lines will get better.

:)

. Will do. I feel as if I'm dominating your thread, Op. I really should talk a bit less. Ha ha.

Please keep talking...I enjoy your posts. Thanks!