I would like a nice, sweet, fun guy with just a hint of "bad boy".

No one cares about the Bad Guy with a hint of nice, sweet, fun guy. Oh fun guy is a mushroom.

Hmmm.


Female inner conflict.

Collin Quinn - Long Story Short (brilliant performance)


In his act telling the history of the world, he says "This guy works for Google, that guy has a Harley and a neck tattoo of a hand gun, girls are still conflicted on which one makes a better life partner."


Oh and Good morning Mingle.

Ive notice that most men are trying to pick up girls at the club and thats where the girls are that you don't what to really meet. Most guys are not into church its full of nice ladies. The library are full of ladies and no men are there... I can go on and on but why your not going to go there lol.

I go to the library to....read

I go to church to.....repent

I go to bars n clubs to .....drink....

I look for women......In life

each day, in passing....anywhere, anytime.....

when it is meant to happen....

It will!!!

I go to the library to....use the washroom there

I go to church to.....ha ja, tricked you, I won't be caught dead in a church

I go to grocery stores.....to shoplift

I go to bars n clubs to .....ask around if anyone has seen my wife

I look for women......In lavatories, mainly. And in quarries and in detox centres (no stoned left unturned...)

Wow. Ok, I agree with you on this one.
I personally do not want a man with no balls. It's not to say that he has to be an aggressive, cocky @sshole that disrespects others either. It's one thing to be nice...but letting others step all over you, while attempting to exhibit your 'nice guy' traits...that will get u burned in the end.

As far as the 'knight' bit - I want a man that will defend my honor if need be...as I know I would do the same for him. It's a big turn-off to see a man sit there quietly while he watches his woman be disrespected. Hmmm...maybe that's where the 'aggression' part comes into play.

OP, we pick and choose who we want to be with. If whatever you've been doing hasn't been working, why keep doing it? If you truly believe you're a 'nice, fun-loving’ guy that wants the same, then perhaps it’s time to truly look at yourself: Why do you keep choosing the type of women that seem to disappoint you? Perhaps it’s time for a change-up?

And btw, there are no ‘normal’ women out there. But you do have a choice between the crazy, and the less crazy. In the end, it’s your choice. Make your decision and stick with it.

Good luck!

I agree its about a balance. I met nice guys and found them manipulative, clingy, controlng momma's boys. I don't like creepy, abusive womean beaters either. I am wondering though why does it have to be one extreme to the other? Either a nice guy or a creep? I think that whole attitude is childish.

Women are attracted to confidence and self proclaimed nice guys usually lack it.

Did he really just say a "normal woman"?

Now where is the fun in being normal. Normal = boring.

He was talking about normal women, not sweet precious angels like you.

Navygirl, this is yet your best picture. You look a bit East Indian (or South Asian), with a gentle hint of Zombie.

You looks... stunning. Demure. Sexy. Erudite.

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That smooth D (shaved? Or balding.) has got it right, except he did not make the point why. His observation is right on, he just did not build a theory around it.

I think it's essential for a woman to have at least a modicum of bad boy in any man, because... that makes him teachable, or something, a person, to be educated.

Women are natural healers and educators. They are not just good at it, they enjoy doing it.

Men are not healers; they are doctors. Men are no teachers; they are ego gratifiers. (They go, "I teach you, because I am smarter, hee, hee. My smarterness is clearly established why I am the teacher and you are the student." When a male teacher passes on knowledge, that's by default, a side-effect of showing off.)

Women enjoy raising, or teaching. They enjoy things grow. I knew women who admitted to that. They do spend time with kids, because kids are malleable. Kids NEED to be told how to do and what. Women give them the amount of patience needed, so much that adult males could never, even a tenth. And women actively enjoy the process.

Women therefore enjoy shaping a man. "He was an unmanageable 6'2" when I married him," says a cartoon woman to her neighbour, as the speaking woman pats her husbands bald head, who comes to her shoulder in height.

A woman's life is not complete until she feels she has done some adjusting.

Men like to control so they can order people around. Women adjust people. The goal of women is not to acquire control, but to have enough control to adjust another person. Make him or her grow, or become cleaner, or better behaved. It all boils down in all kinds of directions to make men cleaner (and kids too, but different storkes). Woman is the clean animal: In hygiene, in behaviour, in social etiquette. A woman woudl first die before calling someone "ugly". A woman would be very keen to show up to a date very cleaned up. A woman washes the kitchen, cleans the house. A woman washes the clothes. Men can go on hunting trips and such, and not shower and shave for days, and be able to stay happy that way. A man can travel with a shirt on his back and pair of jeans, and not think twice about it. A man can live in a pigsty at home.

In comes the woman, and cleans the guy up. The guy shows up at work in the office freshly shaved and smelling pretty. The entire "office" clean-up routine and aestetic striving is due to women. It's women in the office that started the transiting from a man's place to a nice environment, where things look, smell, pretty, and things are nice and clean.

In construction crews with pavement companies, where hardly any women work, this is not an issue.

Part of the reason women don't work for pavers is that that work can't be made clean. A woman does not mind the sacrifice to breathe in tar smell all day long. Women and men are both equal in their ability and willingness to pay sacrifices for the same reason. But women don't work in pavement crews, because the work environment in that job can't be made clean.

So.

Women want some imperfection in their men... to help them grow out of it.

The educator, the growth-maker, the cleanliness expert would want to do something serious with her husband, at home, in their free time when they only have each other to enjoy, and for a woman, penultimately that can't be achieved without an element of educating the man how to clean up. He has to learn something from her, otherwise there is no happiness in a marriage for her. It's a challenge she needs, and this is a challenge a woman would like.

Men would be quite okay with the perfect woman.

Women need the "bad boy" or something in a nice guy to keep the challenge going.

In fact, it does not matter to the woman whether the man can be changed to grow or to get cleaner. Her need to pursue the challenge gets satisfied even without results.

"I married the perfect man... and I kept telling him how to improve himself, but now I don't love him as much... because he's not the same man I married."

Omigosh, Navigirl, you ARE in last years' Hallowe'en uniform, aren't you? I did not look at your picture close up... I just look at the little picture, and that's not very sharp, does not give too many details.

If the picture is your latest glamour-shot, then please forgive the attitudinous compliment I gave to you in my previous message.

Omigosh. I would rather have my old choices back: between the naked, the dead, and the ugly.

Geeze. The world is changing too fast for me. Honest. Now our choices are completely different, too.

Nope; not last year's Halloween costume. This picture was taken last weekend.

You are too kind but I stopped being an angel years ago.

try a witch! We are the most fun loving people ever! Our lives are AWSOME!

Did you know, gentle person, that in the Hungarian language and culture, the testicles are called "eggs". Not balls.

Your simile found fertile ground of literary appreciation in my very person.

No woman wants a player, no woman wants a man with no balls, but every woman wants a major-league ball player.

And women wonder why guys complain they will never figure them out.