I could probably declare myself "non-important" because my entire family passed-away and I am all alone now. (My husband and both my sons passed-away. And pretty much everyone else in my family died too.)...I could take everything "personally." I could internalize all the deaths as a sign that I wasn't very important to my loved ones...I'm not saying that I've never had these types of feelings. (Grief involves working-through a whole gamut of thoughts and feelings and emotions!)...But I know it's not healthy for me to base my worth and value on "who is here" and "who isn't" and "stop there!"...I've always felt that it was my job to gain a sense of my own "worth" whether I'm in a love relationship or not. (Whether I'm surrounded by friends or not!)...And whether I'm accomplishing "major things" in life or not! (Etc.)...I try to stay modest and humble. I don't want to get a "puffed-up head" about anything I do or don't do in life. But I don't want to "shortchange" or "downgrade" myself either... I don't want to be mean and unfair to myself when I know "darn-well" that I deserve a pat on the back for facing my fears or working day and night to finish a job etc.. How do you feel about it? Thanks!