Topic: Lesbian & Bi Gals
Kelly_sondhi's photo
Thu 09/27/12 12:53 AM
Hey Ladies, How has the search gone looking for new gal pals?


wux's photo
Thu 09/27/12 04:35 AM
Edited by wux on Thu 09/27/12 04:40 AM

Hey Ladies, How has the search gone looking for new gal pals?




1. GayBi women are the best looking women, when averaged over a population within themselves and over the general population. They are comparatively always much better looking than the straight women.

2. The GayBi women show and flaunt much more freely and unabashedly. They are really secure in their power of attraction, and seem to feel it for themselves, beyond the mundane approach to use it only or mainly just to beat the competition.

3. The GayBi women ... like women, the Gay women like women only (by definition) so I would be curious to know how they handle the isolation... well, no, not isolation, but the... well, I'd better describe it since I can't name it.

Women like attention, much like men. And much like men, women like attention more when it's given by someone they like.

When gay women are paid attention in an overtly sexual way, it almost always comes from men.

Gay women don't ideate sex with men.

So advances with sexual undertones (even flirting, kindness, compliments, not just rude come-ons or cat-calls) come from starngers who are almost exclusively men.

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Question: the non-inclusivity of obvious or apparent liking by previously unfamiliar women, and the attention paid to sexuality of gay women only by previously unfamiliar men, how does this affect the overall pscyhology of a gay woman? How does she become different because of the compliments and come-ons always come from the wrong gender, what are parts of her that are made different from how these parts would be in a life that lacked in compliments and come-ons always coming from the wrong sex?

This is a serious question, which I have never asked before.

I am curious, and I am asking, please notice, and I am NOT saying "oh, gay women are this or gay women are that", because, basically, I am not a gay woman so I don't know. Can't know.

That's why I'm asking you if you please would shed some light on this for me.

mylifeoutloud's photo
Sat 09/29/12 09:15 AM
As crazy as it seems I am going to attempt to answer this..even though I didn't find a specific question being asked.
Women, straight, bisexual and gay alike will use comments from any gender, young or old and use that to assist in self-esteem and confidence growth.

A girl is more comfortable in her skin when she knows others see her as not ugly or view them as not being judged. I am NOT saying EVERY SINGLE WOMAN IS LIKE THIS. Some women are born with unrelenting self confidence that oozes from there pores naturally. However for us everyday women, all we really seek is approval from society that we look, act, or even possess what ever is within our enivronments, we are achievers and hard working and want to be recognized for that.

Its very difficult for a woman to flirt with another woman unless they are in a environment that they know there is already willing participants(such as online dating sites). Why put yourself out there to be vulnerable if you the "only one???

For a long time I have "flirted" with women, albeit not as aggressively as I do men but I wait to make eye contact a 2nd time and I will give her a smile while looking directly in her eyes. If I don't get feedback,then I don't. As matter fact, I haven't.
However I would never be blunt enough to just go up to anyone, no matter their gender and just hit on them. I am a more subtle person, i'd like to think that most women are.
I think that part of what your asking is due to evolution, we have come a long way as women. 100 years a go a woman could'nt speak her opinion, vote or work,just to name a few. Today we are independent and with each generation we seem to voice or sexual preference a little louder, enabling everyone's voice to become a little louder as well.
Did you know that many women, bisexual and lesbian alike have had previous marriages, children and a past riddled with men because they try so hard to conform to how society views a woman's role? For some its simply years of chasing after a certain sexual feeling to only find out later it was because what they desire is a woman's touch...for the bi-curious, they want to fullfill their partners fantasies or their significant other isn't providing enough...and yet there are still a reasons that vary from woman to woman.

I don't know if I helped answer your question(s) at all,I do hope I shed some light on the subject & I am by no means an expert to the subject.