I think feeling sorry for yourself has become a bad habit. You get attention when you whine and whail the blues for a while then people get tired of it and dismiss you which is a drag.

It is your choice; stick with what you know does not work or try something that does.

No body likes being with someone who is a bummer, whiney, self pitying. Maybe for a while they will out of religious duty but that only lasts so long.

Instead of concentrateing on what you do not have why don't you **** the blessings you do have and focus your love and attention on the loved ones you do have. Your profile says you are blessed with children. Are you being a good father? Are you being a good son? Are you being a good employee? Are you devout in your faith? THese are all things anyone can use to be more attractive to others.