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Take a good look in the mirror and really look at yourself. Find the flaws and fix them right away. It's not always your looks that need fixing. Look deep inside yourself. If you get negative feedback than its time. So, you feel that anything you get negative feedback on will need to be fixed?   good question! Worth thinking about - Do we have the "stuff" to stand up to the "slings and arrows?" It takes confidence to be true to oneself when others (like family members or a partner) are telling one that they need to change |
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I have often thought, if enough people opine a certain way, there MUST be something to it. On the other hand, they could all be wrong. So I ponder on it until I reach a conclusion. It is easy to give away all the small battles, long as I win the war. If my squeeze wanted me to change something, I would do it. Or try. Because I trust that they would not ask unless something needed tending to. Good advice. I stopped smoking many years ago to please my GF. It was a smart move all the way around. Glad to hear! I bet it had a positive impact on your health! |
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At what point do you change something about yourself based on the feedback of others (or another)? rather than that being strictly a reflective decision you've made on your own?  Reminds me of a movie quote " If someone calls you a horse, you call them a jack***, if 2 people call you a horse then blow it off, if 3 people call you a horse... well, you better start looking into saddles" I'm all about bettering yourself, sometimes we don't realize our own faults because of a certain stigma's. Don't take such comments to heart, but it might be good to do some self reflection if you hear the same comments more than once. ... JMO |
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I am trying to change myself....cause I want my relationship to succeed.
I am no longer single....I am now part of a pair. The days of living only for myself are over. Now, I can see past myself and look down the road.....I gotta change and grow to give love a chance to endure the long road. No one else's opinions can do it for me. |
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At what point do you change something about yourself based on the feedback of others (or another)? rather than that being strictly a reflective decision you've made on your own? Reminds me of a movie quote " If someone calls you a horse, you call them a jack***, if 2 people call you a horse then blow it off, if 3 people call you a horse... well, you better start looking into saddles" I'm all about bettering yourself, sometimes we don't realize our own faults because of a certain stigma's. Don't take such comments to heart, but it might be good to do some self reflection if you hear the same comments more than once. ... JMO yes. depends on who the comments are coming from, I'd say. If it is someone whose opinion you value than you do value that opinion. For me, I consider opinions of others who are close to me but I still make my own choices - that way I am responsible for those choices which is how I like to be. thanks for the comments. I think you are new. welcome. I do not know what you mean by stigmas tho |
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I am trying to change myself....cause I want my relationship to succeed. I am no longer single....I am now part of a pair. The days of living only for myself are over. Now, I can see past myself and look down the road.....I gotta change and grow to give love a chance to endure the long road. No one else's opinions can do it for me. I like this - good to hear from you & I enjoy your perspective...the idea of intrinsic choice |
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well lovely peepul I am off to ride me bike
see ya later and thanks to all for all comments & ideas I value ALL of them!! I hope they will help me to grow as friends from here have done in the past 
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At what point do you change something about yourself based on the feedback of others (or another)? rather than that being strictly a reflective decision you've made on your own? Reminds me of a movie quote " If someone calls you a horse, you call them a jack***, if 2 people call you a horse then blow it off, if 3 people call you a horse... well, you better start looking into saddles" I'm all about bettering yourself, sometimes we don't realize our own faults because of a certain stigma's. Don't take such comments to heart, but it might be good to do some self reflection if you hear the same comments more than once. ... JMO I think it really depends on who these comments are coming from. Are they from someone who knows you very well? A friend who doesn't see you often? An acquaintance? Someone here in the forums? |
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To me; if I am going to change something about myself it certainly wouldn't be because someone pointed it out to me; it would be entirely my idea and decision. No one is perfect so who are they to tell me to change something about myself when they aren't perfect? I don't think anyone has the right to tell me to change something about me and I won't tell them to change either.
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At what point do you change something about yourself based on the feedback of others (or another)? rather than that being strictly a reflective decision you've made on your own? Reminds me of a movie quote " If someone calls you a horse, you call them a jack***, if 2 people call you a horse then blow it off, if 3 people call you a horse... well, you better start looking into saddles" I'm all about bettering yourself, sometimes we don't realize our own faults because of a certain stigma's. Don't take such comments to heart, but it might be good to do some self reflection if you hear the same comments more than once. ... JMO yes. depends on who the comments are coming from, I'd say. If it is someone whose opinion you value than you do value that opinion. For me, I consider opinions of others who are close to me but I still make my own choices - that way I am responsible for those choices which is how I like to be. thanks for the comments. I think you are new. welcome. I do not know what you mean by stigmas tho Oh stigma's ... something you are blind too basically :P |
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At what point do you change something about yourself based on the feedback of others (or another)? rather than that being strictly a reflective decision you've made on your own? Reminds me of a movie quote " If someone calls you a horse, you call them a jack***, if 2 people call you a horse then blow it off, if 3 people call you a horse... well, you better start looking into saddles" I'm all about bettering yourself, sometimes we don't realize our own faults because of a certain stigma's. Don't take such comments to heart, but it might be good to do some self reflection if you hear the same comments more than once. ... JMO yes. depends on who the comments are coming from, I'd say. If it is someone whose opinion you value than you do value that opinion. For me, I consider opinions of others who are close to me but I still make my own choices - that way I am responsible for those choices which is how I like to be. thanks for the comments. I think you are new. welcome. I do not know what you mean by stigmas tho Oh stigma's ... something you are blind too basically :P how do you know that? do you assume someone else is blind to something about themselves? Or is it a reference to a gradual self realization? (my own bias is that I think others often tend to assume too much when they don't know the whole story) |
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