hey all...well, to be honest iam normally a staunch supporter of the belief that ones emotions should be one's property for himself and solely himself ..but then i suppose it isn't bad to bring into open one's views on issues which have impact on almost everyone's lives..
and i also while writing this topic stand totally with each of us representing along with me the dilemma which many of us face, and only few can find answer to..
the reason is simple, like many others i am also one person who really believes in love ... and the search for that love is still very much present .although for the days i spent with the few women i bumped into on account of my fate, i did feel that the search is maybe over..but i think i was wrong. i probably acted a bit hasty in deciding , probably my brain made me loose my senses right at the time they were needed the most .
anyways , now i am back on track, and ofcourse on my search ...and since we all are equally confused in our searches so maybe i should tell you at least what love means to me,,,,
love for me is very simple to define, it means "nothing" just nothing, nothing before it , nothing after it , nothing when its around , its a feeling which surrounds you when you know that you have found someone who will never breach your walls of trust , who will always believe in you no matter what, an unflinching faith in you irrespective of what you are , what you do , how you live , and with whom... love is not about being physically together, its only about knowing that there is someone, that one,...the one before whom life leaves its importance , words go unimportant, feelings are non existent , there is no pain and no joy, its only just the two of you, no matter whether in physical proximity or not, but always together. you just know that no matter what i become, how corrupt i am, that one will always be there, just be there, like a wall which is impregnable, which always was impregnable..
its a colour which when you find you dont mind not seeing any other colour for the whole of your life..because you don't feel their need, ..they look so week to have any impact over you...
the scent of sand after rain, the pressure of a sea wave reaching the shore, the breathing we do, the fragrance of flowers, the falling of leaves , they all have one thing in common...they just occur irrespective of anything..no matter what the world becomes, no matter what the humans do....they just stay the same. because they are so unaffected by the happenings or anything else going in the world..they just occur...thats what i call love ...someone who just loves you because he finds you to be a part of him, just as the nature finds us all as assimilation of itself, in spite of what we do ....
the girls i meet normally, i feel there love for me has limits. and limits is the only thing i want to get rid off..i am tired of seeing it there in everyone..every one just wants to love for something, for a return, for a gratifiction, for something ..but my love starts only where limits end.. have we ever thought how god works, everyone asks him something or other, some complain others thank him. but he justs sit there and love them all, equally..without thinking anything of there sins or sane acts, because he is supposed to be inlove with them..

dont think of love as one of the many things in the world, cos its wrong. love is the only thing which is there in everything in the world. just try to connect with that one feeling and then love someone as that one feeling.cos then you are so easily beyond any mistrust, doubt, anger, frustration and everything else, with respect to your beloved. because then you only love him, not his acts. and if you happen to to do so even with someone having even a basic level of feelings, he will forever be yours..

Love - as beautifully defined by you. Thanks for sharing. This will perhaps inspire others to believe again. Wish you the best of luck in reaching the end of your search. There are some amazing people out there.

Good Luck!

I've heard love described many times...You did it the best....thank you. Good Luck to you and welcome to Mingle

I am not going to pretend I read all that.

However, love can be described a million ways...bottom line,
Everyone feels different about what love is to them. Good luck to you either way though.

You sound like a romantic. I personally don't believe in fairy tale endings or romantic love anymore but I do believe in love for family and friends. I hope you do find the love that you are seeking.

That's the reason I don't read 'Romance' novels...it's all fiction

I really liked what you put, OP :) It was very sweet, very charming. Even if it came across as a little naive, it seems you know what you want. . This should be up there with poems. Very nice :)

seems like the army never stops defending its populace ...lol...chill Geronimo, its world ...and world has rights, and one of them is right of expression...

Serendip, I take your definition and would like to run with it if not for one thing that's missing: And that is that love is not constant.

No feeling, emotion, or sensation is ever constant. Be it physical feelings or sensations, or emotions based on many things.

Love can't stay that intense, for any long stretch of time.

On the other hand, I can't picture any person who is a lover, who never has had his or her doubts. The constant devotion, acceptance and extending of caring and protection can only be going on between a mother and her son. Or of a guardian angel to the person he or she watches over. Between two adults, who love each other in a spiritual, emotional, social, and physical way, the love has been created, not been inborn; therefore constancy is not possible.

What I mean is not that all love ends sooner or later. No, that's not what I meant. I meant to say that the intensity wanes and waxes, even to the point of flipping over into territories of hate and anger. Then it flips back into love again, and can climb to reach previous heights of intensity and strength.

Fluctuation is the key in any humanly (or animally) perceived sensation. With no fluctuation in type, or in intensity, or in mood, the sensation can't be felt.

That's about it, otherwise this definition of yours is very nice to read.

Wux.......I didn't know ya had it......In you.

That has to be the smartest and most On Point answer I have seen you post.
Usually I enjoy your humorous twist on things.....
In this case however.....

You Nailed it Dude!!!

I totally agree with Wux on this one..totally right on!! He just explained what most people feel and can't put into words and did it very well..

Ah crap. Now I actually have to read it. Mmmm ok.

I agree.

I would add that the kind of love that you (op) are talking about is the kind of love you can chose to give regardless of your partners lovabity or capacity to reciprocate. But the moment you put the requirement of the same love to be reciprocated, you violate and lose the power your love had to offer in the first place.

Fine then one you chose and give love. Unconditionally. Flow with the waves that Wux talks about and return to the calm of your love you offer. Now she can learn to trust in the rock of your love you offer.

But take your time and chose wisely. Some have closed their hearts and will never be able to receive the love you have to offer.

I think you nailed it, too, Hiker.

So did ghostrider and vivian, these two especially spoke the truth.

This is a thread in which everyone is brilliant, and our brilliance reflects off that of the each other, and thereby increasing the lumination of the brilliance.

If we don't stop it soon, we'll go blind.

S to wit, I did not make up the thought... it's well known to biologists and has been for ages. Also, economists came up with the term of "declining return on marginal utility", which means that when a new product hits the market, which is non-essential to survival, people tend to want to pay less and less for this product as time goes on. This is part of the picture on how biological units do not like extremely rigid constancy.

This is not my own original idea, but I made it my own. And as you can see, I am offering it to you all.

Ba-zing.

Your definition is too long.

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That's not a happy face.