Topic: does 'nudging' a guy looking for intimate encounter blacklis
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Wed 09/12/12 12:55 PM
Edited by MerLethe on Wed 09/12/12 12:56 PM
I have had nudges 'blew you a kiss'. Some have been from men looking for an intimate encounter. I send all of these back, sometimes. I don't think I've initiated contact more than once with a guy looking for this. Will nudges get you blacklisted?
I think my traffic is quite low. Maybe I should do a 'rate my profile' or maybe it's because I've gone into stealth mode.
It's not a big deal anyway. A couple of my relationships have begun just like that (they didn't do well for long, though)
.. and the first time I used a dating site, a guy looking for 'dating' was only after 'sexy fun' - quoted from an email. Better that they're honest.

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Wed 09/12/12 01:07 PM
i'm not sure what your question is... i haven't heard of anyone blacklisted for nudging...

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Wed 09/12/12 01:21 PM
Do not over think what others do. You have one post. Try the forums more and you will make friend here in no time.

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Wed 09/12/12 01:34 PM
MerLethe,
I like your bellybutton.
Would it be impolite to ask you to let me fill it with strawberry jam and lick it clean?smokin

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Wed 09/12/12 01:50 PM
Blacklisted?

Like...Special Forces are going to terminate you, blacklisted, or am I missing something here?

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Wed 09/12/12 04:38 PM
Nudges aren't useful unless it strikes up a conversation. I ignore nudges from guys, and state it in my profile. It's fine AFTER we've talked, but irritating beforehand.

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Wed 09/12/12 06:30 PM
Edited by wux on Wed 09/12/12 06:32 PM

Blacklisted?

Like...Special Forces are going to terminate you, blacklisted, or am I missing something here?


I am also baffled... why would a site introduce a feature only in order to catch people off-guard...? Although PoF, in the infinite wisdom of its founder-owner, does have a feature of reporting and keeping tabs of people who list their relationship goal as "casual sex". That PoF guy is a humongous bore and boore and bully, who has no sense of humour at all. When you laugh at his policies, or make fun of them, he gets all Thor-like. Or rather Tyrannosaurus-Rex-like, because Thor is always made to use proper grammar and good spelling in Norse literature.

Anyhow, back to the topic, OP. I think you want to say Black Balled or better still, Blue Balled.

Oh, and please don't diss "sexy fun" -- it's not ALL that awful as you make it sound. There are some good moments in it. Usually. Or more precisely: sometimes.

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Wed 09/12/12 06:34 PM
OP, please do participate in this thread. It's more fun that way. You will see, too, if you do. Do do, please, to avoid doo-doo done to you in our replies.

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Wed 09/12/12 06:37 PM
Edited by wux on Wed 09/12/12 06:39 PM

I have had nudges 'blew you a kiss'. Some have been from men looking for an intimate encounter. I send all of these back, sometimes. I don't think I've initiated contact more than once with a guy looking for this. Will nudges get you blacklisted?
I think my traffic is quite low. Maybe I should do a 'rate my profile' or maybe it's because I've gone into stealth mode.
It's not a big deal anyway. A couple of my relationships have begun just like that (they didn't do well for long, though)
.. and the first time I used a dating site, a guy looking for 'dating' was only after 'sexy fun' - quoted from an email. Better that they're honest.


If I were a woman, and guy "blew me a kiss", I'd find him effeminate. No frigging guy in his right mind blows kisses. He may whistle at a good looking girl, or holler, or slap her behind and then smack his tongue, but if he blows a kiss at you then you have to stop and think, to reflect on what on Earth could be wrong with him.

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Wed 09/12/12 06:46 PM


I have had nudges 'blew you a kiss'. Some have been from men looking for an intimate encounter. I send all of these back, sometimes. I don't think I've initiated contact more than once with a guy looking for this. Will nudges get you blacklisted?
I think my traffic is quite low. Maybe I should do a 'rate my profile' or maybe it's because I've gone into stealth mode.
It's not a big deal anyway. A couple of my relationships have begun just like that (they didn't do well for long, though)
.. and the first time I used a dating site, a guy looking for 'dating' was only after 'sexy fun' - quoted from an email. Better that they're honest.


If I were a woman, and guy "blew me a kiss", I'd find him effeminate. No frigging guy in his right mind blows kisses. He may whistle at a good looking girl, or holler, or slap her behind and then smack his tongue, but if he blows a kiss at you then you have to stop and think, to reflect on what on Earth could be wrong with him.


All that virtual hugging and kissing should be deemed harmless...
I wouldn't mind if a woman blew me a kiss online. As long as she's not knocking at my door in the middle of the night, I'm cool happy