Hey all,

I'm Justin and I don't have much on my profile. I've tried writing big summary lines before and it did not help increase the attention of messages or winks or anything like that on the previous websites I've been on. But I'm up for any advice to consider to help improve my odds of meeting 'the one', which at this point from my other online dating websites is very doubtful to me.

Friendlier pics would work. More then just ask me....

Hi Justin!
If you write just a little about who you are as a person, talk about something you really care about, and who you would like to meet it would be super helpful on your profile. I didn't get to read what you had before, so IDK what was there?
You should have at least one pic with you smiling. Girls like that.
Good luck!

Perhaps write something clever that pertains to you. It doesn't even have to be pages long either. Just catchy enough to catch other people's attention. And if that doesn't work, then screw them. Haha.

Good Luck!

There's nothing in your profile to rate, as you have just written "ask me." If you want anyone to ask you anything, you'll have to give a bit of info about yourself, such as hobbies, likes, dislikes, what you're looking for and so on. If you give no info at all, there's nothing to go on in order to ask you anything.

As for pictures, they're ok. Try to get a picture of yourself smiling, though, as you look a bit standoff-ish.

If I tell them everything in my profile then what are we going to have to talk about when we do start chatting? :p

If you don't tell them anything, how are they going to be able to start a conversation with you? And why did you ask for your profile to be rated when there's nothing to rate?

I've found that many guys have trouble starting conversations, so stick to the same typical questions all the time. Because of that, I've written the basics in my profile as well as several conversation starters. If someone tells me they don't have anything to talk about because I've written too much, it's a good sign that we'll have nothing to talk about anyway.

what kind of interface do you develop - crm stuff, games?? and a little about your taste in music & movies would make it easier to get to know you a little in your profile

you're from Pa. so that is a good start

also it makes me no never mind what you write, as I can talk to anyone about anything w/e but the impression you are leaving is that you don't care enough to spend a few miutes on a write up - like y'all r too good for us plebians....

Great answer!

That's probably true. I'm not sure I care that much to spend too much time on this online dating stuff. Fact is I can meet women quite easily being the frontman in a band that sounds like Chevelle. But those aren't really the kind of girls I want - I want a better one.

But listen, I've adjusted my profile on other dating sites and it did not help. I've tried to be very detailed, semi detailed and vague. I don't personally believe what you write helps at all.

On POF I get messages from certain types of girls who like the image that I present. I'm not changing for anyone, I'm a rocker until I die and this is my image - however I am successful, financially stable, can cook, etc. etc. It's not like I'm a bum.

So I tried this little experiment. I took a picture w/o my shirt on and posted in on POF and my messages grew immensely. However I've taken it down, cus that's not really the kind of person I am.. So tell me why having nothing on my profile and adding a pic like that increased my messages? Obviously from the wrong kind of girls..

While it's completely up to you what you put in your profile, I have to wonder why you asked for it to be rated and for suggestions when you clearly don't want to change it at all.

I will disagree and say it does help when you write a better profile, at least in my opinion. If someone doesn't have anything, I am going to pass that profile by, as there's no way to start an actual conversation with them. They could be completely awesome guys, but they've put no effort into their profile, which does nothing at all.

Now, of course not everyone reads profiles. I've received many messages asking questions that are already answered in my profile. Those people clearly don't read it. So in that case? No, it doesn't matter what's written. But, those people also start conversations with "hi" or the typical boring questions many guys ask.

Anyway, it's your choice to leave your profile as is. People are just trying to help you, since you asked for suggestions.

I don't understand how you can say there is no way to start a conversation with someone unless they have something on their profile. Lets say we are at a club and I was interested in you... I'd approach you whether your t-shirt had all of your interests and information printed on it or not..

Well, in person it's a bit different. The environment helps quite a bit. Here, at least for me, seeing a picture isn't going to make me want to contact someone. Even if they're attractive, I want to see something more, something beyond that picture.

We all have our preferences. You asked for advice, so I gave it to you. You don't have to take it. I was just curious as to why you had asked if you clearly didn't want to change anything.

Don't get the wrong idea.. just because I present a good argument does not mean I'm not considering what everyone has to say. I actually am. My issue is I'm not sure I should be on an online dating website anymore, it hasn't worked for me yet and It's becoming tiresome. Maybe it's time to just start dating 'band aids', tho that will lead no where. =/

If you have the attitude that it won't work, it probably won't work. Good luck!

You asked openly for advice because as you said "it hasn't worked for me yet and It's becoming tiresome."
People read your request and gave you their best advice. You apparently are not willing to try the suggestions given, and wish to argue about the ideas people have offered you...hmmmm
Now you're referring to women as "band aids"...hmmmm
Well, sounds like you are an angry person that wants to argue and isn't done wallowing in your own discomfort.
The girls that would be attracted to a man with a sparse profile with no info except some angry/grumpy looking pics would indeed be the perfect ones for you.
Good luck with that.

Good God...Ok looks like conversations going well...Yea sooo honestly I couldnt even read through all those comments...
Profile looks great..Welcome to Mingle2.

Just be yourself

and btw...the *no smiles* pics look HAWT.

No offense, but you obviously have not read all of my replies. You obviously have your own idea about me, and what I think (or know) so I won't be wasting anytime on this conversation. To those who have actually added input - I appreciate it.

Thanks.

Okay, I finally smiled in one. lol