We mostly say we are in search of love! But how many of us are really courageous to connect if it is love that reaches out to us first?
Actually intended for the males :-) But female perspectives are welcome :-)

This made me think of that show "In Search Of" with Leonard Nimoy.

Sometimes maybe what the heart feels if it may be true love..... So say those three little words just because of looks.... It's a different world nowadays whereas our grandparents they are still in love to this day..... Why do significant others have to look the other way after treating them right? Sending them flowers, taking them out, cooking, and not scared to grow a
Bond with their children? It's a tough world in today's relationships.... Tough world

Well, I can only speak for myself, but I bet a lot of women have the same thoughts/feelings about this. There is not usually one reason that a relationship doesn't work out. It's undoubtedly a combination of factors that lead to the end. And, rarely is it one person's fault.

But, I have come to learn the reason why I tend to push guys away once I'm in a relationship. I was in a very bad marriage for almost 10 years. I felt trapped in that relationship almost from the day we started living together and the abuse began. I won't bore you with the long story as to why I felt trapped. The bottom line is that, in my mind, I was. Getting out of that marriage created such a **** storm of events that I had PTSD for years. Still do to a certain extent.

Anyway, my problem now (or has been....because I refuse to allow this condition to control the rest of my life) is that the feeling of being in a relationship causes a certain panic reaction in me that makes me want out like a cat in a cat carrier.

I doubt this is true for all women, but I bet I'm not alone. In fact, I'd be willing to wager there are guys out there who get the same way.

I think its a different world too because we simply won't tolerate the crap our parents and grandparents went through. People are coming forward and informing the authorities, counselors, and teachers of what is really happening in the home. People idealize how wonderful relationships were generations ago but they were far from perfect. Yes; women stayed with men but not just because of love; they had no way to support themselves and would be out on the streets. They were completely controlled by the man and she really had no say in the marriage. If a woman got hit or abused in any way; she didn't say anything to anyone as it would have been scandal. If a man cheated; she would again let that go as she simply couldn't afford to leave him. Kids went to school hungry and with bruises but again nothing was ever said. The past relationships were equally hard; just that no one talked about it. For me flowers, gifts, going out are meaningless gestures if you can't listen to me or respect me as a person. Personally; I have always hated gifts from men because it tells me they are too lazy to convey the words to me and think forgiveness can just be bought.

So true.

In search of love
I went to a garden.
there were roses
among which I liked one.
when that rose smiled at me....
...my heart throbbed hard
and I overlooked it....
I went behind a bush,away from the rose...
stared for hours at the rose from far...
...I never dared to touch the rose,
even if my feet taken me daily to the garden...
& one day...someone came & taken that rose away.....
......though obvious,it was a great shock for me...
...that day I dared to go near the rose...
yes,the rose was not there....
I could see,just a drop of water on a leaf below.....
....& drops of water on my cheeks....



( Sorry for poor english)

What is nice about love.... it hits you when you least expect it.

You mean like the burritos I had last night?

It might give you the same 'symptoms' lol

It is not as easy as that. First you have to consider compatibility. Then do they fit your ideas of who you want? Some move too fast, some too slow. Some are too mushy, some are not romantic enough. Love comes calling, but to recognize the one is difficult

Is that your piece?...because it's beautiful
Tragic...but beautiful :-)

There's nothing more terrifying to me than trying to grasp onto an illusion of love.

Take that any way you will...or not at all.

True!

Thanks!!

Yes,
That piece is mine....
I mean...yes,I remember it happened sometime back in my life...
...at least I think so....
but I feel....no one else do....
....perhaps,that flower too wouldn't...!
even...normally me too wouldn't....!!
because as such....nothing happened....
....what happened.....?????
did something.......?????
well......I think.....but.....


....no, it wasn't a dream.....
can't be just a dream.....
...can feelings ever be just dreams...???


.....yes,I strongly believe...it really happened...
yes,it happens...
& once it happens....nothing else would happen...
even if something happens...thy wouldn't sense....


yeah...I know,I moved on...
I'm moving on & on.....
...but I don't remember...
I'm not paying attention...
....how I'm doing....
...I'm just doing....
...many believe...I'm doing the best in my life...
....me too think so...
....but there is someone inside me....
...who is saying,"no man....you are no more..."

sometimes people focus on how much it will cost them to get them the right soulmate, but is wrong! we have to do what ever that is right to get our soulmate. because they will never hurt us and will always understand us.