being picky will get you the best guy

Well that is sweet. I'm happy you met you a nice guy.......

I don't want to attract the same type of men this time, so I'm going a different direction. I didn't know a good guy would be almost impossible to find. I'm dodging mama's boys and mentally ill men! The pickings are slim, due to getting out and meeting people, and the stream of men who come my way. Sometimes its very hard to tell if I'm really that interested, or i just don't want to get hurt again. I find my self slowly leaving the dating scene, and becoming isolated in my safe zone lol On one hand I'm tired of being alone, on the other, I'm just plain scared. I'm getting the courage to start looking again, but he would have to be a knockout and sweep me off my feet to get my attention. I seriously turned off by the norm in men, who think of themselves before their significant other. I've been divorced for 8 years, its fine time mr. right walked my way!

Well that is sweet. I'm happy you met you a nice guy.......

Yikes If I was a guy and read this I would run the other way like a scalded dog! If a decent guy even got that kind of vibe they would back away.

Hey if you are only meeting Self-centered, Mamma's Boys, and Mentally Ill guys (plural) I got to wonder where the the heck are you meeting men? And why is it taking you so long to get smart? Everybody has one or two failures that are embarrassing (so that doesn't make you a looser even if it is a bummer so stop over reacting) but if it is chronic the problem then hey got to improve your picker not just be picky for a bum list of criteria.

If you really define a great guy as someone who is only a knockout who is going to sweep you off your feet to get your attention you might as well pack your bags and move directly to the old maids home.

Come on; this IS the real world not soap operaville. The only way your life is not going to be some Hootchie crab version of the Bachleor is snapping out of the fantasy land.

You want a great guy? How do you really define that? Someone who is responsible for his own stuff, takes a turn at chores, and actually likes to do things with you is not some drama King that sweeps people off their feet and spends a lot on being georgeous. Prince Charming is a fairytale and the ending is never pretty. Why are you tortureing yourself even thinking that? My bet is you are smarter than that and I don't even know you.

And I got to ask what are you going to bring to the table? Instead of thinking the guy has an entitled attitude look in the mirror. Are you really all that and a bag of chips? I don't know; haven't read your profile and this is not a personal attack, but would you date you if you swapped moccasins? Think about it? Don't listen to the crap your Momma tells you; she thought you were cute when you filled your drawers. Are your brother's or male friends that are not trying to get in your pants introduceing you to good people? If not you might want to ask them why. Grab a hanky you might get an honest answer that you are not going to like too much. But you can figure out where things are heading south and fix it. Even be really happy. Not delerious but happy glad to wake up and do another day happy.

There are a lot of great men out there and if you listen to them they say what they want very clearly.

It is not to just get in your pants or treat you like a door mat but to enjoy you as an individual, a help mate, a playmate, and yea a lover. They don't mine even provideing but they don't owe it too you and if you don't make it really clear from the start that you are going appreciate and need what they do they are going to feel useless and used. Why on earth would any guy worth having put up with that for long? Or even a minute.