i have a old bf that i have known for 30yrs
i met him before i met my daughter dad

but we wernt together

we got together 17yrs ago
and we were together for 3yrs and broke up for
a yr and got back for 10months

he was the same person
mister no it all
and macho man

there was just issue we had
and he didnt want to deal with it

well any how
within the last few months
he has been trying to re-enter mylife

he suposely had a live in job
as a caregiver and so forth.

he walked out not even thinking

and came over to my house
and ask if my couch was avalable

i told him no
for i had a friend that was staying here for a brief

he said oh i can sleep with you

I DONT THINK SO


well any how
the other day a friend of mine
had a client that she goes to on a reg basis
and he was there

as to find out the niece that lived there was his ex step daughter(she 40yrs old)

she had told my friend that
he would sleep in his truck
at the parking lot of a nursing home

and he told them that he was having problems with his hands
so he couldnt do his landscaping business

well if that was the case why would he had gone over to my mom house and ask if she need some work dont..

that i dont belive

also to find out

suposely his ex wife had money i dont know if that was true but when she ran out he kicked her out..

she was the one that filed he didnt

but when we were together
he would be working the late shift

and i always felt he was sneeky
so i look in his bag where he had all his important papers
and i learned he was married before (so actually 2times)

and i think if i recall right

he divorced her..


well any how
his ex step daughter
told my friend that he had been trying
a few times to get her to bed

and hes only after a lady that has steady income
even if that person is on disability


so he doesnt have to work
as bad

and he stated he was ready to settle down

well he can do that all he wants

but its NOT!!! going to be with me


my family and friends
cant stand him

if you were together for 3yrs the first time, than for 10 months the second time, you should give him another chance. one of two things should happen. either the third time is the charm or at the rate you were going, he'll only be around for about three days

not all women see the obvious - congrats!

congrat on what

im not a fool

im NOT MARRYING THE JURK


when we were together the 1st time

my neighbor was at the mall
and he was to

he followed her
and when she pulling
out of the parking lot
so was he

he followed her

she didnt like the feeling

she had told her bf, and her bf went off on him

i never heard a peep from him.
i was just told by the neighbor
what her bf had said to him

why should i had given him a 3rd chance

he wouldnt had changed

geeze
i gave my ex hubby more than 3 chances
before during and after we got married

and he hasent changed

you're darn tootin'. men never change, unless they stayed out late with another woman. then they stop at a gas station, take the spare dead battery for their cell phone out of the hiding place under the hood, hug every tire on the car to get their hands dirty, spill gasoline on themselves to cover the scent of the other woman, then stop and buy some clothes so that when they get home they can say they had a flat, and then ran out of gas, and the cell phone battery was dead. they teach all men these things in preschool, but some men forget and get busted

so you say men never change
so are you making yourself
look like a nice guy or a fool

i'd be fool to say i'm a nice guy

Thank you thank you. That was funny stuff.

Men never change. What crap is that?

Queen. Always be careful with absolutes. Words like I used. Always and never. There are absolutes, just be careful when someone uses those terms. See If they are right or just voicing opinion.

I have no way to know if this guy has changed or not. But he can. The truth is he has an apparent pattern of using people. So if he doesn't show signs of awareness that he was an abuser in his past and he is making significant changes in his life, then one can probably come to the conclusion that his pattern hasn't changed. Great change follows great remorse when someone is wrong.

Clearly you have feelings for this guy and you wish and hope for certain things. Put wish and hope on the side and look at the facts. Unless you are strong and you wish to take this guy on as a project, then seek the truth, obey the the truth.

Hope that helps.

the feelings i had for him
was in the past
not now
i cant even see myself with him

i cant stand a guy that thinks
there mister no it all
and has a macho attitude
which he does
and it totally turns me off

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

If this guy gets you to the ranting stage I think I would completely avoid even having any contact. It is like exposeing yourself to a skunk. They don't generally hurt you but the stink is enought to make you sick to your stomache and that is no fun.

Generally people who are willing to bring the past ******** of your life back around are no real friends either. Might want to move away from his circles. Kind of the Bird of a feather thingy.