when i tell people men and women i'm not interested in chatting to them or just not interested in them i get messages that say "oh ok good luck katy", but i sometimes get attacked for it, the people are 9/10 times english so i don't know if its normal or what? (i haven't met an english person before joining this site by the way) i don't mean ithis to be provoketive i'm just curious

It is fairly common, don't worry about it. If you are not interested, you are just not interested... but sometimes people can't accept that and take it personally and go on the defensive/offensive.

It is their problem, not yours.

It happens don't take it personal for them being mean to you I have gotten it before too.

Some people cannot handle rejection of any kind very well. These people tend to have low self esteem and anger easily if things don't go exactly how they want.

Remember....you have entered an open International forum of many different people.
Not everyone is going to be emotionally stable.
You have to weed them out....more so in this enviroment...
that in life.
Be careful.....
Have fun.....
and Good Luck!!!

A thick skin does you good here.

Looking at your profile, and how you present yourself, it hardly surprises me that the people a profile like that would attract to respond are going to get nasty when you reject them.

I doubt that much is "lost in translation" but maybe it is harmless vamping and you might want to clean up your act if you want more consideration and respect of your absolute right to make choices.

Part of being a mature woman, and having the support of being treated like a lady, is acting like a lady across the board.

If you make yourself sound like you are willing to be anybodies girl you can't really complain when someone is offended that they don't get to be anybody. It is false advertiseing and a cost of your own behavior.

Think you kind of shot yourself in the foot complaining but maybe that got some more traffic your direction. Hopefully you don't get more than you bargain for. A hateful email for rejecting you is the least of your worries if you are promoteing yourself this way.

sorry but i don't see what you think i have done wrong, perhaps you could explain

I think PacificStar means that you don't have anything written in your profile but when people ask, you tell them you are not interested.....maybe you can write something about the kind of partner you are looking for..

So, because someone says they're horny and looking for fun, they should expect to be attacked if they reject someone? Since when does horny mean they're going to say yes to everyone?

Well, what would you expect from a bloody Shasannach?

Well, what would you expect from a bloody Shasannach?

i didn't know you hated the english hahaha

No actually I think she is asking for what kind of partner she is looking for; xXXx and now she is whineing because she got it.

whining? how exactly?

I took the "xX-Xx" to be kisses because she is blowing kisses in her picture.

So, because someone says they're horny and looking for fun, they should expect to be attacked if they reject someone? Since when does horny mean they're going to say yes to everyone?


I did not say she has to say yes to anyone. But when you go on and adult dating site and the majority of what you say you are looking for is XXXX then you should not be surprised when you get people who want to XXXX and are not really nice when you are not willing to give them XXXX if you have not clearly stated what XXXX means. It is not rocket science. And generally in " man speak" xxxx with Horney is not just kisses regardless if she is blowing kisses in her picture or not. Even a barely legal teenager knows that.

I don't hate the English.
I just don't expect perfection from them.
After all, they are not Scottish.

well they are the same as my username so easily confusing

So, what do "xX-Xx" mean?

another thing i'd like to say is, who are you to tell me to "clean up my act"? something else, i "make myself sound like i'm willing to be anybodys girl" and that it's "false advertising" on my profile it says i'm looking for women, so i'm not saying i'm not saying i'm open to everyone