i agree with you bayarea... if they really like you some would go out of the way for you.

in an ideal world....


dayum you people are really silly!!!

((waves))


:::::scrolls thru thread:::: noticed a poster had a question about someone that lied.... --->>>>> does it matter why someone lies??? Is it going to make a difference? If one knows why another lied, will it change anything about that lie?

Lie is intention to deceive.. what else is there to know?
Something to ponder is all... Not to answer..

Good luck,

i really like to know how to get a girl intrested in me with out talking alot, but i guess that part of alot of talking just kill's me with all the girl's, i just don't talk that much.

Some people are just afriad of rejection.

To some it's not a big deal but to others it can crush them.


Sometimes fear gets the best of people.

Guys definitely wont always say they like someone. Just like girls wont either. Thats a shame because most people just want to be happy and so many people can do that for each other but they are all to afraid to open up and try it for some social reason I don't get.

Then when they do, they are all awkward about it and hide who they really are, or worse yet become something they aren't because they are so afraid.

Everyone wants to please everyone else to some degree. That's what makes us happy in the first place!

If you get rejected once, find out why and fix it, then try again on the same person. That works. Rejection isn't personal, usually it isn't even well thought out. Someone can just be in a bad mood one day. It's just a quick reaction.

If you want someone bad enough, you will adjust what you do to make them happy, then they will be yours. That doesnt make you a looser, it makes you happy. Everyone conforms to everyone else all the time. It's called social interaction.

When you want someone, you really got to do some interacting.

You mean I have to leave my house????

...you'll feel it.

No way. If a guy likes you he might let you know or he might not. No way to tell. It is possible to like someone a lot for a long time and never make a peep about it. On the other hand if you come to Texas you can go sailing in my catamaran.

Sounded mind, certain kinds of rejection have lasting impressions, years even.

yes they do leave lasting impressions

Not for me of course, water off a duck's back.

i fall easy
i hurt easy

Its the confusing signals that I don't understand....
I met someone new... he told me staight up he isn't ready for anything serious because his wife just left him 3 months ago but then he calls me 10 times a day and tells me he misses hearing my voice

What no replys??? I was hoping for some insight

I hear all the time that guys say stuff like that to women, but I can't ever recall having said such a thing myself. Ordinarily I am interested or not, but the timing thing sounds like a cliche. I would consider a glib attempt at an appearance of normality. The 10 times a day and missing your voice seems a little over the top. If you are making exciting sounds together in the night so that during the day vivid dreams of passion creep into his mind, then you gotta overlook the number of calls and just figure he likes you.

Nothing going bump in the night... Just some really great conversations.... Not phone sex just plain old talk. I love the ten times a day thing for now although it could get old in the near future but for now it is entertaining. I think I like this guy but feel like I should be very selective about what i say or showing any kind of feeling due to his original comment about not being ready to start anything new on the other hand perhaps I should just make the first move and show him how much fun starting something new can be what do you suggest

I just throw my hands up in the air...and say...if it's meant to be...it will happen. Other than that...there's not much more I can say.

I'm not going to sit by the phone and wait for something to happen though. Life will pass you by...if you just jeep waiting for something to happen....

Well. Ten times a day is a bit much. Especially if there is no jumping on the bed on a regular basis. I would be wondering a little about the core elements of his mental framework (rather than character at this point). I'm a guy here so I have no perspective on women's opinions of men's behavior, except for the extremely obvious. I think it is similar for a guy getting 10 calls from a woman in a day, although the psychology is slightly different.

The questions I would be asking are: Doesn't this person have anything to do? No responsibilities? Am I so considerably exceptional that someone should immediately forget all other activities and think of me all day? What kind of person can make that sudden change in behavior for a new person they have met? And finally, If this is not a change in their basic behavior then has this sort of thing happened before (frequently) for this person?

I might wonder if clinging drove away the previous mate.

Spoiler aren't I?

i agree with philosopher
although i love it when a guy calls me several times to say hey thinking about you...10 times is a bit much