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Topic: SECOND CHANCE????
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Tue 06/19/12 05:31 PM

Should someone who commits infidelity be given a 2nd chance?


My sister gave my brother in law a second chance and he hasn't messed up since. I'm not one to give second chances. I feel 99.99% of the time, second chances are not worth it and will be broken.

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Tue 06/19/12 05:37 PM
In my opinion no.

For me personally, if you feel that what you have is not good enough to be faithful to, then it is not worth bothering with in any sense of the word. I do not ask anymore from anyone I am not willing to give myself. If there are some sort of problems, I feel communication should be the obvious choice and not infidelity, but of course that does not seem to be how things work in the grand scheme of things.

Maybe for some second chances work, but not for me.

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Wed 06/20/12 09:29 AM
No because there will be insecurity issues and a lack of trust. my ex cheated on me and i could not let it go. When she left the house the tought of it,,was still
somewhere in my mind . This is the person u trust and she went to another. Anythinh could have happen ahe could have,gotten,pregnent brought back and std. I cannot trust someone who would put my life in jepordy

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Wed 06/20/12 09:38 AM
Ive only been cheated on ONCE (that I know of) and im pretty sure about that...

and it GUTTED ME!!brokenheart sad frustrated

How could ANYONE do that to somebody? surprised noway

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Thu 06/21/12 12:39 AM


Should someone who commits infidelity be given a 2nd chance?


totally depends

upon the history
upon the circumstances
upon the relationship
upon the repentances/absence of repentance,,


,,to name just a few things
of everyone I know who have lived in long marriages, obstacles are inevitable and arguments are inevitable, but the key seems to be forgiveness and an ability to learn, grow stronger, and move on,,,


most of us 'cheated on' have hard time getting past the forgiveness and most of those who 'cheat' never make it to the 'learning' part


unfortunately, forgivness of infidelity teaches some that its ok to do because there are no real consequences

but some are capable of being remorseful and changing their ways


they say once a cheater always a cheater, but thats certainly not an absolute standard

they say the same about someone who hits you, but I know from experience it can absolutely be a 'one time' thing when there is real love and repentance that happens,,,,


I agree

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