Take mine: waiting on a kidney. Since I don't work (right now) I feel like I have nothing to offer a woman. Or maybe I'm just too proud and stubborn over always making my own way in life it is hard for me to accept help.

So I feel like I must be single although I'd like to be in a monogamous relationship. How about you, is life situations defining how you "date?"

Yes i know how you feel. When your body is not up to par you feel that you are not giving it your all.Even if that is your all.I feel like why would some one want me if I am sick.Plus you don't want to put anyone thru what you are going thru.The waiting the uncertainy of what is really going to happen.You want to take care of them an here they might have to take care of you.Me myself have always done everything by myself. Took care of my home an children,just me lock stock an barrell.If you were mine Ol'Hippy it wouldn't matter if you were working or real ill. It would be you touch an huggs, That I would want from you. Plus your companionship an to communcate with each other,is so important. I have a very heard time acepting help. This is not a easy life to live. an It is so much better with someone who gives a shi--.So don't sell yourself short, You are a lovin an caring man with alot to give an share. Let someone in to share that with you. I have hoping I can be that lucky.Life is to short to do it alone.Share it. If you ever want to chat I am here.An to date just do it.

Yes in so many ways indeed.

I am kind of in the same boat as you. I have been really active all my life and was with the same woman for 25 years. I did everything and gave everything to the wife and kids, sure we had our share of problems along the way. As long as I was the care giver and provider everything passed and was reasonably great. That has all changed now, in November I caught a staph infection from swimming in the lake. In March they had to amputate my foot. In that moment I not only lost my foot but my wife as well! I am an upbeat person, I have taken care of myself by myself and refused to let it get me down, that is until recently. The only women that seem to want to have more than just a friendship are drunks. Most women are freaked out just by the idea of a missing leg and figure I am not good enough. I can't let this keep me down for very long, I know that with Gods help and a little bit of luck I will persevere!!! I am living for me and my little boy now and if my heart has to be broken then so be it, it will only make me stronger. You see I drive with my left foot now shop, cook, clean and oh yes, and even still fix the ex's car by myself, did a complete brake job two weeks after amputation!!! So all those woman out there that think I am crippled watch me in 3 weeks when I get my leg, especially after I run my first marathon!!!

I agree ...((((hippie))))You said it!..in a nutshell..only our situations are not the same...but my feelings on mine are the same as your feelings.

I will say this. You could meet someone that could actually be a tremendous influence during this period of your life. Yes, circumstances affect our decisions. We seek advice, counsil, and then try to make the best choice we can. But that doesn't mean that you won't meet someone. Cause, as I always say, life happens (good and bad things).

I think my life situation DOES define me. Yes. I only put myself in situations I want to be in. Some situations are beyond our control, meaning the stuff the government handle. Though I remain pretty left-wing about the governments decisions on the way they go about the worlds problems, I realise it's out of my hands. It THEM who decide. I only wish they could see past their own noses :)

I feel it goes both ways...in life we make choices. We have to without stagnancy clogging our path. They veer us into the direction that we hope leads us the right way in our lives. Does it define us? Yes, but then what about the next big decision? Is it the same or different? Every decision affects us but as we move with life and the changes it presents, we learn to take things as they go. As far as a relationship: the truth of the matter is people come in and out of our lives. For the better or the worst. Life can be long or short. I prefer it to be fun and exciting. I enjoy starting over ultimately and when that day happens everything will come when I am ready for it. Including a guy. For me, right now, its futile to throw caution to the wind and jump into something. Like I told a close friend the other day: who knows what life throws at me? Its up in the clouds and my journey is still going.

Yeah, I wanted to be a loser, so that's what I am, and I don't regret a thing.

Yes, most definitely. I am old, very short, fat, ugly, poor and have a hydrocele condition and now I have few broken ribs.

This pretty much defines my dating and mating practices.