Sometimes I wonder about the 'new age' we now live in! I'm not sure anymore if the guy should make the first move to show interest, or do we wait and let the woman show interest?? Hmmm? Anyone have some good advice? I would like to hear some input! Thanks!

kind of both ways man

agree with doc!!
two way street man!!

i don't think it matters personally but if you see someone that you like i wouldn't sit around waiting for them to ask.

define what you mean by "first move"
A---to approach the opposite person
B---to ask for a phone # from someone you've been talking to
C---first physical contact

Many different types of first moves....can you be a bit more specific

ive wondred that myself,i always was told the guy would get a lil freaked if the girl put moves on him!

i like it when a girl asks me but everyone is different.

I'm too shy always kind of felt weird to do that

yeah i guess i should be a little more specific...it would be A.
The other 2 are a bit more personal. For me, I would like to get to talk to her first.

i would rather be approached it saves my time from going on dead leads!lol

I don't really see the connection between New Age and making the first move..but... hmm.yes, I have made the first move.

Can't say I always/I never...just when it seems right.

*shrug*

this wisdom brought to you by miss behaving.always smart

thanks for the input. can you tell me though...why someone wont even give the time of day when all you do is say 'hi'? i know...there alot of them out there nowadays!! i am glad i found this site! ya'll seem to be some very nice people! thanks!

there are alot of nice people and some that need a social skills class.

a lot of people judge on looks,looks fade faster then brains!

You have only 11 post's right now, just try and post in other forums and reply here and there and let people get to know you better, at least that is what I was told when I first joined this site.

And it's free so that's what you get for free etc.

Vs a pay site that is where you might have an 75% or higher chance of finding somebody a bit faster.

Just do not go to singlesnet website, it doesn't work very well lol. Or at least it didn't for me.

very true southern lady! dont get me wrong...i am not naive! far from it! sometimes i just dont understand why people use up so much energy to be negative!!! LMAO!!!

b.c having a pitty party is earier then trying to find someone who really loves u

New Age? How long does it have to be around before it becomes the ordinary, not so new age?

All these tags, and labels...

If A meets someone interesting and would like to get to know B better, A says hello to B and then asks if B would like a coffee, or a meal shared....then B answers A, either in the affirmative or the negative.


I don't see gender with A, nor with B...simple.

>> why someone wont even give the time of day when all you do is say 'hi'?

>> sometimes i just dont understand why people use up so much energy to be negative!!!

Sometimes the non-responsive women are saving energy. They have guys give them unwanted attention, trying to exploit everyday courtesies to trap them into a conversation they don't want to have. It happens so much to them, and they dislike it so strongly, they have adopted "mild rudeness" as a strategy to protect themselves from it.

I don't blame them. Sometimes I do the same thing to solicitors, once its clear they are soliciting, I refuse to let them take advantage of my courtesy to trap me in a convo - by no longer being courteous to them.

It works both ways,it's just a shame that so many are selfish and don't know how to give. Hell if you look at the way life is today in society peopleare brought up by what that see and not so much what is taught. Well at least in big citys you will see how your unwelcome and how most will be cought up in there selves and believe that everyone ows it to them. Hell sorry to say this but in my area is a rich area and the women think if you have no money your worth nothing. So this is why most are on these sites looking for peoiple that will except you for you and not what you have. So on here if your real with