They guy I kicked into touch as I decided he was far too pushy and disrespected me, well I've had a couple of e-mails from him.

First one was on Saturday.

Before he left at our second meeting (and before I decided I didn't want to see him again) I gave him one of my guitars.

I can hear you say "you did what???" but it was one that needed some TLC and one I never played as I didn't like it. I already have two, one of which is new and lovely to play.

Anyway, he wrote on Saturday to tell me he had repaired the guitar, donated it to a local children's hospice where it was auctioned and raised money for the hospice, so the guitar has found a new home where it will be played and the hospice got a good amount of money for their funds which will benefit the children there.

Anyway, I wrote a polite e-mail back thanking him for doing this. I mentioned briefly that I was having problems with my broken wrist not setting properly and that I'm possibly facing an op to rebreak and pin it in a few weeks time but ended the e-mail in such a way that it didn't need a reply.

Guess who's just e-mailed me? Yes, that's right - he has.

Short e-mail that simply says "...shame you chose not to get involved with me. I would have enjoyed looking after you..."

I hate to tell him I'm a fiercely independent person, I don't like people fussing over me and I've managed quite well one-handed for the past month - even learning to write with my left hand.

I'm also not so desperate that I would get into a relationship that would be wrong for me either.

Think I'm going to have to do a spell to turn him INTO a frog LOL.

I think it was nice of you to give one of your guitars as a parting gift. You were just being friendly. I wonder why he emailed you. I'm the same, when i feel ill. I'd rather just sleep it off. If i have people fussing over me, it just makes my fever worse, and makes me feel sicker. lol. Seeing people worry, makes ME worry. It just doesn't help. There's always one certain ex trying to get back in our lives. Maybe you could email him back asking why he emailed you. I would want to know just out of curiousity. The question is do you want to remain in contact with him?

Many people, both male and female, have a nurturing instinct. Sometimes you can give your partner what they need, by simply letting them take care of and pamper you.

Well said spider. That was a wonderful thing done with the guitar.

Thank you. I think that independent people need to allow their partners to do nice things for them. Nobody likes feeling helpless and bringing someone a nice hot bowl of soup makes you feel like you are helping.

It does. Don't get me wrong, a little bit of pampering is nice but I'm not even (and don't want to be) in a relationship with this man. Thankfully he lives 70 miles away, otherwise I get the feeling he'd be very difficult to get rid of.

I honestly could no more have a relationship with this man than fly in the air. He does absolutely nothing for me but at least he (and the guitar) have done some good :)