think it's so unusual that two people hook up on a DATING web site? I mean not to be skeptic but there are a lot (not all) of really desperate people on every dating web site looking for "the one". Why are we always so amazed when two people who are actively looking for someone find each other in a a sea of people who are actively looking?

I do not think it is unusual. Just as much chance here as there is out and about in town.

Oh I mean come on. Everyone on here started out as single though some have coupled up. The general public when you wake into Target isn't looking for potential mates. Here everybody is. Why is everyone so shocked when a site designed for couples to meet two people meet each other? I mean google Mingle it's advertised as the premiere free dating stie.

I guess for me, it's because my experience has been that most people on dating sites don't actually appear to be interested in the dating aspect of the site.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that someone can find "the one" on line, but the actual percentage of people who do get together, vs. the percentage who don't, seems way off from what it should be if people were legitimately looking for someone.

I kinda agree here - I think some of it is a fantasy life that may or may not ever be fulfilled- some a chance to meet a variety of people from all walks of life ( that is me & if something happens great - if not - I still have the social aspect)- some are earnestly looking & prolly spend more time in the searches and meetups

what I have found difficult is not having a background - foundation - or history with the men I meet via this medium. That may not be important to everyone, but it is to me just because that is how I am...also I read so much body language, voice tonality - things we can't do before meeting. One thing I do like about meeting online first is the written communication that allows me to get to know someone with out the physical stuff going on at first.

but all in all it's a bit one dimensional - in a romantic sense - tho I have met a few nice friends

That's a perfect way to phrase it, as far as I've seen.

The ones I've seen who actually do appear to be looking for someone, are looking for a relationship so rigid and narrow and traditional in its parameters that I think they'd be better off going back to the Eisenhower administration.

Or, as I wrote in another thread yesterday, on a similar topic:

For me, there was a certain level of introductory naivete attached to the idea of suddenly having access to millions of people I could never possibly have known otherwise.

As it turns out, the millions of new people were no more interesting or compatible than all of the ones I already knew in real life. The macrocosm turned out to be nothing more than a much bigger version of the microcosm.

yes nicely said as well

I think I began a bit naievely as well, so the development the "what happens, happens" attitude has been an evolution

for me, given my personality and preferences I think it is the most functional attitude to have

the people I meet online are basically just like people here in town ... heck sme of them ARE people here in town! But this site has been a godsend this last year as I recently moved to a new town and didn't know a soul

Definitely a godsend for me, too -- since moving to Indiana, the only "social life" I have is on line, and the best people I know are the ones on this site.

I think it ought to be an understanding that when using a dating site - a free one - that since so many women out there are only looking to milk one or two dates, people should just cover their own costs.

most people are using the sites to date then they find real people offline. so they say.

there is no one special person because so much of what we want comes with compromise and sacrifice. when you find someone appealing that you click with you just make more allowances.

look at how many women on this site state they want to be friends.

it's like, "I'm taken. Looking for friends." Well, this is a mingle so I don't are to date from here. I use POF for real prospects because I've had great success their. OKC has many of the same face/people. Plus the interaction and permissions vary which also insures more success.

My opinion after two weeks on this site is as it was when I first discovered it via Stumbleupon years ago, when I was married.

EH.

When I first joined, I was not looking for the one. I simply did not know where else to go for a social life without drugs and alcohol. I have learned how to be social clean and sober, by meeting people and dating from meeting people online. My wants and needs have changed, and I eventually went from seeking a new social lifestyle to finding love, and I found love. I'm the type of person that do what it takes to get what they want out of life. I don't settle for any less than what I know I deserve.