you have a point coco.....love comes with quality time together that is face to face! Just like theshadow said!
Please be careful Motevia.....by the way, I love your photos...especially the purple gypsy like outfit!

Actually, Misty, we have been discussing this exact issue. I was worried at first, too, if he might just be trying to get citizenship by marrying me, but that's not the case. He's trying to get his citizenship legally like his parents did BEFORE we reach that point. He doesn't want to use someone like that. This isn't the first time I've fallen in love with someone before meeting them face to face or even talking to them on the phone. The guy that I ended up my first night with was someone I had met online, as a matter of fact. My ex-fiance' was someone I met online, but I didn't have a connection like this. I think I was mostly scared of being alone then. Now I'm not scared of being alone or anything. Like I said, I was just looking for new friends in the Seattle area so I know some people before I move there and this just happened. We started talking and we've been at it for a while now. This weekend was our first time on the phone only because I work so much and go to school and there's a 7-hour time difference in Spain where he is now for the conference. When he's done in Spain, he's coming here and staying with my friend and I for a while.

I view love probably differently than all of you guys do and that may be why there's a bit of a misunderstanding. One thing I've learned from my relationships is that love you have for someone else isn't that different than love you will have for a best friend. It's when you can picture yourself with them and can't wait to be near them that the platonic love turns into romantic love. Who is your lover/boyfriend/wife but your best friend? I love everybody equal whether they are male or female, BUT it's when I find that person I want to pursue a relationship with and say "yeah... THIS is it. This is what I've been looking for." When you know, you know. I don't see myself as having just one soul mate, but there's one person I want to spend THIS life with. But that's also where personal views and religious issues kick in that I won't touch here.

Thanks for the comment, Misty! That was my belly dance costume, but I haven't even gotten any time to practice yet...

Well nobody is trying to criticize you for the way you feel...They just don't want to see you get hurt!!!!! I felt the same way you did..and I also thought the guy I was talking with would never in a million years do that to me and he wasn't even having citizenship problems...These guys are good that like to play women on the net and they will make you feel special and like you are the only one...I'm not saying he is...What I am saying is that yes there are red flags and I have lived through the same experience...He wanted to get married etc etc...and we talked for 7 months so...Please at least heed peoples advice and be careful!!!!!!!!

Personally I would wait to get serious or make wedding plans till he actually gets his citizenship.Then you will not have that as an issue between you...your folks will tell you that too.Just tell them you met someone nice online and you want them to meet him.Sometimes your parents see things ,blinded by love,you don't.
Also don't have sex with him under your parent's roof.Bad form and it won't endear him to the family.

(thinks men in the U.S. should take notes from the men tryin to get visa's) Dang wut & the heck R they saying??? lol... Words via the net or celly? ::blank stare:: Thats a new concept to me "The romantic key stroke".



The more you know.

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I say go for it girl. I mean yeah I had a situation like that and it ended badly. He was well say, possesive and abusive but I dont let one bad experience get to me. I am dating someone, and he lives in the UK and I live all the way in Maine in the USA! But we have known eachother for years, and we are willing to make it work. I do hope things work out for you, and I hope nothing goes wrong.

If he has been in the U.S. since he was young, I don't understand why he wouldn't already have his citizenship papers, why his parents wouldn't have applied for them for him when he was young and when they got theirs.

Also, the laws have changed, years ago, illegals don't just marry an American and become a citizen anymore - that changed years ago. My daughter's husband is illegal and they started the process a couple of years ago, requires attorneys, a few thousand dollars, have to be married for a few years before applying, etc., not just cut and dried like it used to be. Then they even test you to see if you have lived together, on the other persons likes and dislikes, etc.

I hope you slow down and take things slow and be really cautious. You really don't know this man from some phone calls. Takes a long time to really get to know someone, but you know that. I wish you luck.