oh well, that ended in 01 and i've pressed on.
nothing last forever but that was a 13 year marriage.
now i retired and work in an office monday thru friday 7-5.
i have time to devote, just need to find someone to devote it to.
the last lady i dated, for 4 months, told me i had been single so long that no one could tie me down. then a few weeks later while we were at dinner she told me she couldn't committ to my 2 rules of a relationship and i haven't seen or heard from her since.

And what are those 2 rules Don? Inquiring minds want to know...

it's not shallow at all...we all have preferences, and to find someone that fits within them boosts the chances of the relationship's survival.

i, for instance...will not date a hunter. ever. nor will i date someone who is in the DEA or such...since i now have children and could never take the chance, no matter how small...that my kids could be used against him.

1) don't lie and a half truth is a lie because its not the whole truth.
2) if your sexually involved with someone don't be messsing around. if you want to play the field leave me out of the game.

((((( massagetrade))))))

I was very stunned by the comments that she had made.

Don I don't see what's so hard about those rules

Wild -- I don't think it's shallow at all. You're building a set of personal preferences which allow you to feel more comfortable about the parameters of a potential relationship. There is nothing wrong with protecting yourself, and that's really what this boils down to.

Believe me, if anyone knows about taking some grief over personal preferences, I do. But I won't change them. Because then I would be opening myself up to situations I already KNOW wouldn't be right for me.

So stick with your beliefs, and don't let people call you shallow or superficial just because they disagree with your preferences. It's your life, not theirs. And anyone who cares for you will respect your decisions....

Wild, do what feels right! You're a smart lady.

Thank you everyone for your views.

And yes, I dug this posts up.

I'm a little late on this topic, but wanted you to hear my two cents. I was married to a volunteer fireman for 10 years, we dated 5 years before we married...and I can tell you that whenever the scanner said "working house fire", I would turn it off. I didn't want to hear what was happening, I never went to the fire to see what was happening. It was all to frightful for me. I give him alot of credit for what he did/still does, but it ruined my marriage too. He was never home, always at the firehouse with the boys. And after 10 years, I couldn't take being in a one parent, one spouse marriage any longer. And believe me, I won't marry another fireman.