That's good I know this beforehand. I've hear stories. I've seen a birthing video. Looks painful and I'm sure it is...but the looks and the feeling that comes after, this is what I want.

Ладно. По-англиский=I wrote before "Yes. You and I will give birth to ("make" in colloquial English) beautiful children someday."

Careing for children in a commercial setting is a whole different thing than parenting where you NEVER get to truely be off duty ever again. The buck doesn't stop with you when you can give the kid back at the end of your shift.

Trying to have a family life by having children and thinking you will know all the things "not" to do is a really poor parenting plan and can put a person in a very overwhelming setting where one can suffer like they never knew they could suffer. Parenting with out innergenerational support and life skills means a harsh upstream swim at times because you are learning by doing and you endure your mistakes twince once as the parent then for your child even more so than you do when you come from a healthy family that builds in certain skills by having lived them.

As far as the pain of child birth being worth the later high of holding your own child and forgetting all about it I have to blow a whisltle on that play.

Physically/emotionally/financially healthy women with partners or at least supportive relationships have a much easier delivery than others who may have much more exhausting, tramatic, and painful deliveries that are followed by a multitude of complications from life threatening complications to life long chronic health issues, intense poverty, and failure to bond with babies they are not prepared to parent or emotionally able to bond with because they are sick and exhuasted from the drain of the pregnancy on their bodies. As someone who had a series of very difficult pregnancies and delivery that was worse than most I will say having my son was an acceptable trade but definitely not forgotten or worth the short term uphoria. A uphoria that can be very short lived if you are one of the many women who's bodies are overwhelmed by pregnancy that is meant to be supported by a partner and a pack. Unfortuneately "the pack" our society offers young parents today is pretty sorry and very marginal support especially for single parents.

There is a lot to be said for learning from our own parents' mistakes/choices. I am also one who guides my parenting based on what NOT to do. Fortunately, I also had role models for what to do INSTEAD, as well!
I always wanted four kids. I married a man who didn't want any, and now we have one. That has been a challenge in our relationship, so I definitely support having very clear and frank discussions with prospective mates about that. I regret not starting a family earlier, because after my baby was born I had years of health problems afterwards that prevented me from trying again. Now I'm 39, and running out of time. You never know what will come your way...

For those of you that are scared and nervous about being a parent, I have something for you to consider: the fact that you are concerned about what kind of parent you would make might just be the thing that makes you good parent material! It shows that you care enough to think it through. On the other hand, I have respect for people who choose not to have children, too. Parenthood isn't for everybody.

Childbirth is painful, I agree there. However, I agree that if you are in tune with your body and are welcoming the experience, you can have positive affects on the outcome. I had natural childbirth, without medication for pain, and I would much rather go through childbirth, again, than suffer through a gallbladder attack. I've had one of those, and found it to be absolute agony.

I had post-partum depression, too. I don't know if my husband would want to experience that again. He had to take on a lot of the adult responsibilities while I was surviving and coping day-to-day just to function. Our support network was VERY important to us. Whether it's family or friends, you need people around you to help.