Topic: Never Thought I'd Say This
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Thu 01/19/12 10:27 AM


When you broke up he went back to his ex and now he comes back to you.the guy is a player and since maybe he knows you care he comes to you with his burden to lean on you at the moment(and as we are,we go for it)you will pity him and all those feelings will resurface. So if am to advice you,i would just say make a wise decision.


Thanks bigsmile I hope I do cause it would suck if I detour in this.
you ought to and i believe you are a smart lady to let any man play with your feelings.

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Thu 01/19/12 10:28 AM


When you broke up he went back to his ex and now he comes back to you.the guy is a player and since maybe he knows you care he comes to you with his burden to lean on you at the moment(and as we are,we go for it)you will pity him and all those feelings will resurface. So if am to advice you,i would just say make a wise decision.


Thanks bigsmile I hope I do cause it would suck if I detour in this.
you ought to and i believe you are a smart lady to let any man play with your feelings.

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Thu 01/19/12 10:38 AM



When you broke up he went back to his ex and now he comes back to you.the guy is a player and since maybe he knows you care he comes to you with his burden to lean on you at the moment(and as we are,we go for it)you will pity him and all those feelings will resurface. So if am to advice you,i would just say make a wise decision.


Thanks bigsmile I hope I do cause it would suck if I detour in this.
you ought to and i believe you are a smart lady to let any man play with your feelings.


I can't let people play with my head anymore. I'm starting to believe this. Enforcing it is all that's left. If he needs me, I'll be there for him. smile2

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Thu 01/19/12 11:07 AM
Always remember...........One's Head......

IS NOT A PLAY TOY!!!!!!!!

It is fragile.....and might break if....Dropped!!!

This has been a public service announcement.

bigsmile explode bigsmile

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Thu 01/19/12 11:15 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Thu 01/19/12 11:16 AM





I read into things more than what they are. Especially when I feel for someone. It confuses both them and me. We both seem "together" I guess. I'm just crazy/stupid for love.


Why read into things and what may or may not be there rather than discuss them with him?


Because he's going through a tough time. Would you bring up something like this if one of your exes were going through a family illness? I just couldn't.


That would be the exact reason not to read into things.


That's why I am asking the question HERE Emily. Doesn't hurt to get some opinions.


Right. But, no one is going to be able to tell you what he thinks and what he wants. You can ask random peoples' opinions all you want, but you won't get the real answer until you talk to him.

Just do what works for you. :smile:

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Thu 01/19/12 11:22 AM
Edited by MariahsFantasy on Thu 01/19/12 11:25 AM






I read into things more than what they are. Especially when I feel for someone. It confuses both them and me. We both seem "together" I guess. I'm just crazy/stupid for love.


Why read into things and what may or may not be there rather than discuss them with him?


Because he's going through a tough time. Would you bring up something like this if one of your exes were going through a family illness? I just couldn't.


That would be the exact reason not to read into things.


That's why I am asking the question HERE Emily. Doesn't hurt to get some opinions.


Right. But, no one is going to be able to tell you what he thinks and what he wants. You can ask random peoples' opinions all you want, but you won't get the real answer until you talk to him.

Just do what works for you. :smile:


LOL Aren't you doing exactly the same when you post anything here?

This is a fragile situation. I can't bring myself to ask such a question at such a hard time...Instead of beating this "ask him" concept to the ground take into consideration the situation I am in. Put yourself in my shoes. Would you honestly STILL ask a guy: do you wanna to give us another try while you're feeling sad for your dad? Seriously...where's the sincerity in that? lol

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Thu 01/19/12 11:25 AM

Always remember...........One's Head......

IS NOT A PLAY TOY!!!!!!!!

It is fragile.....and might break if....Dropped!!!

This has been a public service announcement.

bigsmile explode bigsmile


Yeah I know someone who does this constantly. LOL Get annoyed with it often.

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Thu 01/19/12 04:50 PM
dont be stupid hit that like gumby would n get the hell out

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Thu 01/19/12 05:51 PM







I read into things more than what they are. Especially when I feel for someone. It confuses both them and me. We both seem "together" I guess. I'm just crazy/stupid for love.


Why read into things and what may or may not be there rather than discuss them with him?


Because he's going through a tough time. Would you bring up something like this if one of your exes were going through a family illness? I just couldn't.


That would be the exact reason not to read into things.


That's why I am asking the question HERE Emily. Doesn't hurt to get some opinions.


Right. But, no one is going to be able to tell you what he thinks and what he wants. You can ask random peoples' opinions all you want, but you won't get the real answer until you talk to him.

Just do what works for you. :smile:


LOL Aren't you doing exactly the same when you post anything here?

This is a fragile situation. I can't bring myself to ask such a question at such a hard time...Instead of beating this "ask him" concept to the ground take into consideration the situation I am in. Put yourself in my shoes. Would you honestly STILL ask a guy: do you wanna to give us another try while you're feeling sad for your dad? Seriously...where's the sincerity in that? lol


I don't think I've ever asked about a situation like this here.

Can't say what I'd do in your situation, other than just be there for him. Anything else, I'd have to be in that specific situation to see how it goes.

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Thu 01/19/12 11:13 PM

dont be stupid hit that like gumby would n get the hell out


be stealth, got it :wink: laugh

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Fri 01/20/12 06:22 AM


dont be stupid hit that like gumby would n get the hell out


be stealth, got it :wink: laugh
well yea i do that all the time bigsmile

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Fri 01/20/12 04:03 PM

*sigh*

My ex-boyfriend came back into my life.

He called me last night and we talked for a bit. Things between us didn't end on bad terms and I always thought we had a strong friendship. I didn't think anything of it when we were talking. I guess you could say we met and fell for each other at the wrong time.

After he told me he broke up with the girl he was seeing, we went on to talking a lot about the mistakes we made when we were together. Then came the unexpected. He told me his dad was in the hospital and he wasn't taking things well with it. In fact he was nearly vague about the details until I just started to listen to him and let him talk. His son knows but he hasn't shown how he really feels about it. I felt like he was talking about it for the first time with me.

Now comes the problem. I was deeply in love with this man, but I guess we never talked about that. I didn't know how he felt and vise versa. For the first time I thought I heard him say he had feelings for me too.

I am so confused and I really don't know what to do here. I thought we ended our romance. This is what I thought. I really care about him so much. I feel like I can be his friend but getting involved into his life again? indifferent I found out a week after we broke up he got back together with his ex-gf.

I really don't know what to do here. Having him come back into life isn't what I planned. And all these feelings resufacing, I don't like them. What would you do in this situation if you were me?


Strange as my ex is trying to come back into my life. He asked me out a date to dinner. I said okay but only as friends as I would not take him back. I figure he dumped me once; he will do it again.

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Sat 01/21/12 10:56 AM



dont be stupid hit that like gumby would n get the hell out


be stealth, got it :wink: laugh
well yea i do that all the time bigsmile


im a-learning so mush this days

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Sat 01/21/12 11:01 AM




dont be stupid hit that like gumby would n get the hell out


be stealth, got it :wink: laugh
well yea i do that all the time bigsmile


im a-learning so mush this days
bigsmile

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Sat 01/21/12 11:10 AM
OK, the breakdown of yesterday:

Towards sun down I made sure to contact him around that time because I know I did not want to see him too late. I have a rule with that actually. I think its a bit odd to meet someone after 9 or 10 at night. Date, friend or whatever. Except in an emergency. Just to be safe, I met him before the day concluded.

Now...we never went out to dinner. We sat in his car and talked, almost straight for 2 1/2 hours. It was the oddest thing. After my initial nervous had faded, things just happened naturally. It was nice. I didn't need to think of my feelings. There were hardly an awkward silences too. You'd think sitting in a car would be a bit boring, but it wasn't, at one point we got out and casually sat on the windshield, he kept asking me if I was OK with it, but I was fine.

That's how I would define last night. I was totally fine. For the first time I just listened and observed. It was cooky, since I am not used to being that way, but it made things easier, made the conversation flow, made him feel calm. I don't know. He's got a lot of issues and I feel like maybe the thought of getting back together with him can never be. His dad is doing better, in fact he mentioned in a week he might be ready to come home again.

We click on a friends level all the way. I think that's why seeing him yesterday felt like I just saw him the day before. I really liked it. But right now, there's a possibility we could remain really good friends for a long time. For that, I think its OK, its enough for me. Reading into this anymore will complicate things and I don't want that to compromise what I have with him. :smile:

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Sat 01/21/12 11:14 AM
the man in me says hit that

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Sat 01/21/12 11:16 AM
yeah, gotta admit he looked good...but he's a friend. i don't sleep with friends, its like a rule i have.

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Sat 01/21/12 11:16 AM

yeah, gotta admit he looked good...but he's a friend. i don't sleep with friends, its like a rule i have.
ohhhhhhhh i dont sleep with friends either:angel:

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Sat 01/21/12 11:21 AM


yeah, gotta admit he looked good...but he's a friend. i don't sleep with friends, its like a rule i have.
ohhhhhhhh i dont sleep with friends either:angel:


and i never actually slept with him before. we weren't all that sexual as a couple. we always just hung out.

laugh

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Sat 01/21/12 11:33 AM



yeah, gotta admit he looked good...but he's a friend. i don't sleep with friends, its like a rule i have.
ohhhhhhhh i dont sleep with friends either:angel:


and i never actually slept with him before. we weren't all that sexual as a couple. we always just hung out.

laugh
noway