last night i found out why my biological father took off again apparently my disability "freaks him out" big deal i use a friggin wheelchair and have panic attacks!!!!!! its not like im dyin' ugh more and more i've noticed just how ignorant people are!!! and the fact that my own father is scared of me is ridiculous i mean i could understand if he didnt know but he was told when i was an infant i had CP grrrr whats wrong with the world?

I don't know BUT any father that can't accept his daughter just the way he is doesn't deserve to be one...Plain and simple...Stop trying to win his acceptance and move on...This is his problem NOT yours!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OOOOOOOOPPPPPPSSSSSSSSSS she is

your right but see its confusing because after 20 yrs i finally had him back...he even wanted me to move to ohio with him! but the second he heard i had panic attacks and stuff he bailed soo does that mean he never loved me like he said? im wondering if he felt like he HAD to say it since hes my dad you know what i mean?

SOrry he is that way, who knows what motivated him?
Maybe with time he will get his head straight.
Keep your chin up.

thanks sage ill try some people dont change though i mean hes not a drunk anymore but obviously hes still very ignorant i just hope he does change

A parent loves a child unconditionally...BUT some people aren't capable of loving that way...It doesn't mean he doesn't love you...It just means that he obviously has his own issues to deal with...Let him deal with them...and stop trying to win something he may not be capable of...which is his acceptance...He should be trying to win yours after all these years...NOT the other way around!!!!!!!!!

aww im so sorry princess he is that way.!!!

Hey, Shy.........

Many ppl bolt because of fear. Your "irregularities," (and we ALL have them!) have forced your dad to look at himself and he has reacted with fear. When we don't understand something, many times we run. It is NOT your problem, it is his.

Until he talks to you about it, one can only speculate what he's thinking/feeling. He may, in some way, feel responsible for your condition(s) as he is your bio. father. He may have experienced panic attacks himself and is unsure as to whether he can endure the added stress of stepping into your life and becoming what a father ought to be.

When he finally confronts his fears, whenever that is, he'll be back. Give him a bit of time, sweetie, he's scared, I think.

Just my opinion.....

Well Ms. Princess, anytime you want to talk to an OLD MAN, drop me a line. I could of had kids your age, wish I had, would have been with Gwen. Would have been nice the way things worked out. So write me & I will answer back. Your choice.

so you dont think it was wrong of me to cut all ties with him? i did everything i thought would make him proud i mean jeez i had straight A's from 5th grade all the way up to my senior year!!!! not even THAT made him see i wasn't slow or anything so i called and left a message saying i didnt want a relationship with him after all.
i feel bad now but why should i waste my time on someone who wont accept me when i had a few friends and a wonderful guy that DOES accept all of me

You will always want to have a connection with him.
"Blood is thicker than water."

You are hurt, darlin' and that is TOTALLY understandable. Just keep in mind that it is not YOU he is rejecting or has issues with, it is the illness. Your feelings are valid, and I think you should go with your gut instinct. Don't close the door too tightly, though, he may peek through the crack some day. Go on with your life and make it a good one. Disappointment is often portrayed as anger. Don't set yourself up for it, love. Take it from me, expect nothing, and if you get anything, it will be a welcomed surprise. Never say never......

yea thats what i thought too but at the same time the only thing he has ever given me is this redheaded temper (i use it quite often)LOL ugh i just dont know...i feel kinda silly for whining like this its just i dont know my mom doesn't really get it she told me what a jerk he is she hates him and she lets it go at that but being his child...its different and what r eally gets me is the fact that he accepts his gfs kids but rejects his only daughter!!!!!!!!!! again i apologize you guys

You father was bad, as he should accept you for who you are. Heck, I am obese, diabetic, have pain, short term memory loss and live on social security and who cares what they think, as it thier loss, not yours. I am proud of where I have come. As my best friend told me: I am who I am and you can't accept me for who I am, then I don't give a rat's a**.

You father was bad, as he should accept you for who you are. Heck, I am obese, diabetic, have pain, short term memory loss and live on social security and who cares what they think, as it thier loss, not yours. I am proud of where I have come. As my best friend told me: I am who I am and you can't accept me for who I am, then I don't give a rat's a**.