Most of you know of my intense hatred of scammers particularly those who impersonate military and how I bust them and turn them into the feds. What you do not know is that one of the great loves of my life served in Desert Storm when I was with him. There are military wives on here who will tell you what papers to ask for, etc. to prove things but I wanted to more share some dating advice.

First off if you are involved, military guys are huge on trust. It's all they have when they are away. Always ask a guys name, exact rank and serial number. A real guy WILL give it to you. It is who they are. Literally. It is everything. It's handy to know. If he disappears and you need to find him, this is how they track him. Also, say you are home alone and somebody comes in the house. If you yell to a military guy, "IDENTIFY YOURSELF". He will bark back his name, rank and serial number. Knowing a guy's exact rank, tells you a lot about a person. The military analyzes these guys for their strengths and weaknesses and assigns them their position accordingly. A guy who has the madness of a prize fighter is going to be in a combat, etc. I love drill sgts. People say OMG they scream at people and order them around. Okay, they do not scream at women because they have not pent up aggression. They have screamed all day at men. They are great to live with. The bed is always made perfectly. The clothes and towels are always put away right. He will line up his shoes, etc. So understanding their job function gives you an insight into what they think and do.

Secondly ask for their APO. If a guy says it's secret, it's BS. Mail call is so important to military. It's everything to get things from home. Guys who are not home love to feel involved. For instance, you get a new lipstick. Put some on and kiss his letter and ask him what he thinks of the color. You get a new body spray or perfume, spray a little on the paper and tell him you thought he would like it. You get a new nail color, put a little on the paper and let it dry and tell him you got it because he likes purple. You hear a new love song that makes you think of him, send him a taped letter and tape the song on there for him or send him the lyrics. Send him sexy cards. For instance I found one that looked very conservative and said THINKING OF YOU on the outside all straight laced, you opened it and it said NAKED!! The guy loved it. For my guy in DS, I bought a new teddy and took a picture in it. I sent the picture and the actual teddy, I said bring it back when you come home and I'll wear it for you. Stuff like that is everything.

Also, I always say if the guy is really your boyfriend ask for a copy of his dog tags. In the military, those are everything. It is literally who he is as person. You can get a guy naked by you cannot take his tags off him. He may throw them around his back but they don't come off. If you kill somebody in the military, you take his tags to show who you killed, etc. You want to see a nasty fight, tell a guy to try to take the tags off of a military guy. That is about as likely as him giving up his wife without a fight. When you wear a guy's dog tags, that is the ultimate in intimacy. You are wearing HIM on your body. That is reserved for mothers, sisters, and women they love. It's a big deal.

Anyway, I just thought I would share my experiences. People are always worried about mailing stuff and if it will get through, you would be amazed. It's not like it's C4 or anthrax. It will most likely get through.

This is a huge joke thread, you know this is not real advice at all what so ever about military men ?
this coming from a guy who use to serve btw so you dont get all defensive

Oh I know you are the one who wins wins wins wins

why don't you enlighten us all with your superior knowledge?

They work for the Government. None of this should be shocking in the least.

I find guys will argue with me but my step brother who as killed in the line of duty as Navy Seal sent to assassinate freaking people gave me his name, rank, serial number AND YES APO. And his wife wore his tags. I really find it's a bunch of crap when they say they can't. I also find a lot of guys who don't have real relationships or who are bad at relationships argue with me. As the first mod I made friends with said, Don't worry about haters. My actual real life military people who are not weeners on the internet love this stuff.

Also and this is not a put down, we will note who talks about their bad marriage and avoiding child support blah blah and who was with the same person 20 years including 16 married and filed themselves to not the other way around. Who is very PRO the opposite sex and who talks pretty much like people are a way to get laid....... This is not a knock down but perspective......

Why would you ask his rank and serial number like really , if you asked my rank I'd think maybe she is wondering how high of a position I am and how much money I am earning.

My rank and number is not how I identify myself at all as a person or human being or even as a Ariman, Soldier etc.
and if your smart when you sign up for the military you pick your job and career field you will enter,
rank means nothing if you just got in the military.

and I can tell you have never been with an ex drill sgt
did you know drill sgts have one of the highest divorce rates in the military because they have 12-16 hour shifts and are never at home to do all the cleaning and tidying up you speak of.

When we are deployed we all love mail of course , if you have a serious relationship this is common knowledge not advice

Dog tags really due I never had to wear my dog tags in the air force until I was deployed to the border of Iraq. Army is a little different
but again it has nothing to due about who we are maube some hardcore army grunt who thinks he is a bad *** and wants everyone to know he is a soldier will never take them off but your regular guy who is not a nut case in the military wouldn't care. It just has your basic info on them they mean nothing.

you don't know what your talking about

enlightenment complete

I never have talked about my bad marriage ever just tell people i am divorced or ever talk about avoiding child support, because i don't, I live overseas as a 21 year old on my own and support myself and my daughter doing what I love.
Not many people can say they do that

people can think what they want about me living overseas.

For anyone in a serious relationship with a military guy most of this is common knowledge , people with hold their APO probably because it is with a girl they dont care about so you could point that out if he with holds his APO he dont like you anymore than an F buddy

And when ask a woman what she does for a living you are not wondering how much she makes, etc. or her status? YA RIGHT!! And that is BS about their ranking meaning nothing when they join. IF THEY HAVE A COLLEGE EDUCATION AND A ROTC OR WHATEVER, THEY ARE AN OFFICER RIGHT OFF THE BAT.

I did not say I married drill sgts. I lived with one. AND he DID organize things. BUT you also have the personality to live with this person. HE IS GOING TO EXPECT THE SAME OF YOU. He does not throw his shoes, underwear and towel on the floor NEITHER DO YOU. They are highly regimented about everything even food. If you love order, it's great. If you can't hang, it's bad.

Why do you assume everybody knows things? Really. Because everybody on here is perfect and knows every single loving gesture in the universe by themselves AND THAT IS WHY SO MANY PEOPLE ARE SINGLE because they know everything in the world about maintaining relationships and NEED NO ADVICE.

And that statement IS YOUR personality. I live in a MAJOR military community. The guys DO WEAR THEIR TAGS and no not just grunts. One of my very best friends was THE HIGHEST RANK YOU CAN BE ON A SUBMARINE and he wore his tags even in the reserves.

You assume everything based on yourself. I said what I said was based ON WHO I KNOW. Not everyone. And most definitely not you. No offense but I never get the impression that you are a huge patriot who has had well adjusted relations and has a huge sense of balance in their life. I mean you talk about bailing on the country, implying you resent child support at times and your ex. My friends are die hard patriots who would never dream of leaving America and have wives and kids that they would assume cut off the left nut before they resented in the least or divorce them, etc. And I am not bashing you. But because you "served" doesn't me "you are the spokesman for the U.S. military". When I speak, I am Terri civilian at large and I am speaking of the people I MYSELF know and have known and have dated.

You need to go back and read your own very very very early posts. I guess you do not remember them. About feeling trapped into having a kid you and having to pay child support. Go read your own words in the beginning. You said those things. You will find on here that everyone on here evolves on here terms of who they are as person, their communication skills, their attitudes AND ESP. TOLERANCE and caring about others. It's actually quite interesting. But you should read your own words.

So often YOU post about why others are incorrect or WRONG in YOUR OPINION, you never post supportive things.

Like what did you like women to do when you were in the military? What made you feel special and loved by someone you cared about? What cool things did SHE do FOR YOU to make you think she was faithful and committed and thinking about you? Rather than plow through me, why don't YOU SAY what YOU think would be helpful to a someone whose man is in the military?

AND no one said you don't love your daughter. I should hope you do!! You know what I see? Yes, you are extremely smart but you ASSUME everyone else is too. Ya I know I butt heads with people. I have people challenge that my IQ is really 170 all the time. BUT part of the responsibility OF YOU BEING AS SMART AS YOU ARE IS TO RECOGNIZE YOU NEED TO HELP PEOPLE WHO THESE THINGS MAY NOT BE AS OBVIOUS TO. God gave you that brain. Not everyone on the planet has it. You need to recognize as they say "with great power and brains, comes responsibility to others". Part of that is tolerance and love of humanity.

I said I was fresh out of military 19 years old at the time , divorced , couldn't find a job and I still had to pay child support on top of everything

and I didn't let any of that hold me back , even though I was in a bad position I perserved changed my life and moved to Asia to do something that I love and now I am living well supporting myself and my daughter.

one guy made a comment said wow you moved to asia to bail out on child support
i wrote wow , because he couldn't have been more wrong.

Never have I once talked about it.
so get the facts straight about what I said or didn't say



I was just responding in this, saying in the military certain things like rank serial number don't matter. I know Captains who push papers all day and think they are awesome and I know my friend who is an E-3 in special forces in the mountains of Afghanistan so that don't mean shite

There is nothing special about military men and women and serving . I was there I was deployed, the military is made up of the best people you'll ever meet and the worst people you will ever meet. Just like the civilian world.
In America it is put on a pedestal way to hi that in my opinion is undeserving.

All anybody in the military needs from his girlfriend is faithfulness and support. especially during times when there away.
stuff like gift packages , constant communication I think that is plainly obvious but in case it is not to people than that is a huge plus.


Everyone on this forum always play fake nice and are afraid to say things outside of the box or state competitive opinions.

I am here to tear that box up, and if I cause problems so be it at the very least they will use their heads to counter argue me.
And just cause I am 21 , don't mean nothing. Been on my own now for a long time and have been all around the world on my own , with my own skills. served in the military been to war. blah blah blah so people constantly using my age and saying I life experience I argue and say I am one of the few people on this forum actually living.