what do you do when your ex keeps lurking about,, says he is to help me with the house cause he woories about me doing it all alone ,, so frusteratin i feel like i cant move !!!! just a vent!!!

hey girly i know how you feel, just tell him to leave u alone im sure that dont work guys dont listen to well.. gezz i guess im no help here

How about a .12 gauge shotgun filled with rock salt?

time to move and not tell him new address

lol gee thanks girl !!! arent we a pair !!!!!

turning left....................................

hey nus!

Show him you CAN do it..and if that doesnt work,Take nusalors advise...hehehe

Heya cutey!

Some men just don't understand that women are perfectly capable of anything they set their minds to...sorry you're being stalked Stanne.

I KNOW RIGHT STANNE USUALLY IM GOOD BUT I AGREE WITH NUS HES RIGHT US GIRLS CAN DO THINGS ON OUR OWN WE DONT MEN ALL THE TIME

Well, either A.) he's comfortable with the change and is trying to help you just as a friend

or B.) He's clinging onto whatever remnants of a relationship that he can.

Either way, if his presence is a little suffocating, try explaining that while you appreciate the help, you really need to do this yourself, for yourself. Be firm, but don't lose your cool. After all, if it is option A, it would be a shame to hurt his feelings just for being a nice guy, and if it is option B, well it's the gentle push that he needs to move on (at this point being harsh might just make the rejection harder for him to accept).

Sounds to me like he can't accept the fact that it's over between you two.

Next time he stops over introduce him to the man you have helping you now with those kind of things

But I don't wanna meet hime Nyuck nyuck!

Hi Stanne. I have the same problem, well, I did, it seems to be getting better now. My ex and I live practically next door to each other (we share custody of our son and wanted to keep his life as stable as possible, hence the situation). Anyway, he would just drop by whenever, walking in without knocking, or if I didn't answer, coming in. It was awkward and I needed space. I kept politely asking him to call first, if I didn't answer the door or phone then it meant I was busy, etc. He would agree then go on doing what he'd been doing. I finally blew, we had a knock down drag out (well, not that bad but still). But, he did quit. It's been about 6 weeks now. I'm not saying do what I did. But, you do need to set whatever boundaries you are comfortable with and stick with them, always. He'll eventually make the connection :).

Good luck!

Suzanne

Document his actions & have attorney write him a letter, explaining the stalking laws.
That is the last step, I'd warn him, that is what it could come to.
Just take charge of your life, doing what you need to do.

buy four bear traps and a rifle and invite him over for tea.

im lurking!!!!ha that is such a funny word!