is it just me or is it really this hard to get messagesd or replies it seems like i never get any replies or messages whats the deal and if i do they always seem a million miles from me is it like this for everyone what am i doing wrong ??????

It really isn't you. I have been doing this for five years now, met people, made friends, etc. There are always different reasons, based on each person. It can be distance, children, jobs, and then some that want to find someone and are either too afraid to take that first step and there are those that sabotage a chance at being with someone. I have found it is a game of trial and error and you simply hang in there til it happens. Jump in the forums and get to know everyone. If you don't find her for awhile, you will still gain many friends. This is a great site, family oriented with tons of loving, caring people. Maybe during all of that fun you will have, magic may happen. We have seen relationships develop on here, several actually, and most of them are either engaged or married, and have even felt the joy of members having babies together....so you never know. Stop looking, have fun, and best of luck....just let it happen .....Welcome to Mingle.

Cause the important things in your life are earned and don't come easy bro.

So true.

And some of the people you see and think why not me, "pick me...pick me"; then later you find out what a blessing it was that they didn't pick you. I think it happens when it happens.

You can do the best you can to be open to opportunities, be the better half of whatever relationship you hopefully find (that can takes some real work, and just be a generally normal happy person and the rest is just life.

Be patient.Make some friends on the forums too. Good luck to you.

Yeah I feel this too. But it goes both sides. Its not just the guys that have it too. All this stuff takes time. Could be a slew of things.