Hmmm with a sex change maybe lol.

Seriously though, everyone has their own "love language" find yours and communicate it. eg. Some people like to get things, others like to do things.

Really a love language? What the heck is that?

You can't. You seem to believe that love is reciprocal, it's not. What you have to do is give her things to love about you. Also, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don't spend too much time with her and when you do, don't dote on her. Doting is fine on special occasions, but if you do it every day, it is smothering. I'll say it again, you need a book: "No More Mr Nice Guy". Get it. Read it. Live it.

Everybody feels and shows love differently. She may think you are overbearing or clingy.. and you may think you are just being loving. It is a matter of opinion on who loves who more. Don't torture yourself trying to compare. Good luck.

People love people differently. It is not a matter of same amount, etc. It is not a scale of 1 to 10. You respect and admire and are sexually attracted and so many things in a relationship. It's not like you can meet every aspect at the same level. The best relationships I find are where you have things about each other not necessarily at the same levels but different things that draw you together. I am trying to think. Like I am often considered cute. But I do not seek "cute men". I am not into looks I have dated beautiful people and some bald silly looking dudes and considered them all sexy for different reasons. I had one boyfriend who the sexiest thing he did was talk about his love of his grown daughters and his pride in them. I am not a parent. I have some of the least self control in the universe. I often date military experienced guys and martial artists because they are trained to have self control. It is almost required that engineers have crazy artist or writer wives in my experience. The word LOVE is over used. Compatibility and complimentary is more important in a relationship. Yin and yang kind of thing.

Well, I handle love poorly which is why I am single but as the first poster says; you can't make someone love you.

It will happen.
I used to feel I loved my ex much more than he loved me, but turns
out it was just always a communication issue. He actually loved me very much but didn't know how to show, and I need to be shown.
Wait for the one thats right :)
I got out of that relationship after three and a half years and finally found my real love.