I find this thread very interesting. Newly single, I may find myself going on a date someday. It's been awhile so it's nice to know what I could expect. Before, when a guy asked you out...he paid for the date. If they started dating more often, they might sometimes share the cost. The girls I knew didn't ask guys out first. I would have been way to shy to do that.

I had only 1 date that turned embarassing. A guy asked me to go to dinner at a very expensive French Bistro in the next town. I felt very out of place and wasn't familiar with the food. When we got ready to leave, he said he forgot his wallet and did I have some money. I was so embarassed, but also pretty mad. I said no, and left to go call my dad to pick me up. I didn't care how he got out that mess. I found out later, he did this with his dates often and the owner knew about his con.


Maybe I am a bit old fashioned but if a man asked me out, I would think he would pay. I'm modern enough that if I did the asking, I would pay. With today's economy...I think there are a lot of things that can be fun without costing money.

I find this thread very interesting. Newly single, I may find myself going on a date someday. It's been awhile so it's nice to know what I could expect.

I find this thread very interesting. Newly single, I may find myself going on a date someday. It's been awhile so it's nice to know what I could expect. Before, when a guy asked you out...he paid for the date. If they started dating more often, they might sometimes share the cost. The girls I knew didn't ask guys out first. I would have been way to shy to do that.

I had only 1 date that turned embarassing. A guy asked me to go to dinner at a very expensive French Bistro in the next town. I felt very out of place and wasn't familiar with the food. When we got ready to leave, he said he forgot his wallet and did I have some money. I was so embarassed, but also pretty mad. I said no, and left to go call my dad to pick me up. I didn't care how he got out that mess. I found out later, he did this with his dates often and the owner knew about his con.


Maybe I am a bit old fashioned but if a man asked me out, I would think he would pay. I'm modern enough that if I did the asking, I would pay. With today's economy...I think there are a lot of things that can be fun without costing money.

I gather You weren't really that "into"

her, right Derek?

"just a date to pass the time ",

and she most likely sensed this.......



Ahhhhh......but from what I've seen, a man who

really 'digs" a chick, won't ever hesitate to pay.

Ever.

thats not nice i grew up to pay and open doors

This is what I don't get. You don't think a man is really into you unless he's always willing to pay and never hesitates? Why does money indicate interest? What if a guy you were interested in told you that he didn't think you were interested unless you contributed toward paying for the date? What would you think?

on a first date, if he asked me out? Depends on the circumstances - each situation is unique. I would think he wasn't that interested - I would question his judgement - why not invite to something he can afford?

I would prefer he wait for me to offer. not sure I understand why there is any confusion or reason to debate this- no one on here has said that they would not contribute or pay at some point. But for a 1st date, no

if you don't do things that way that is up to you. Do you ever wonder if the only reason they are dating you is because you'll pay? For a man - to take a responsiblity for that first (first few usually) date is how they show interest. Don;t ask me why - it's how they are

so naturally I'd be a little suspicious of the agenda of a man who is asking me for money - like a scam

This is what I don't get. You don't think a man is really into you unless he's always willing to pay and never hesitates? Why does money indicate interest? What if a guy you were interested in told you that he didn't think you were interested unless you contributed toward paying for the date? What would you think?

If a woman is so desperate for a man or a date that she forgives him for being broke and out of work, and gets involved with him anyway, the chances of hooking up with a looser that she ends up supporting or a man who leaves her with three children to support go up.

IF the purpose of dating is courtship for marriage.

If you all just want to screw around, do what ever you can to get laid.

Nothing I've said has anything to do with marriage. Nor does it have to do with just getting laid. Then again, I'm not the traditional, old fashioned woman who thinks a man needs to take care of me all the time and pay for all of my expenses. It's more about getting to know each other. Dating, for me, doesn't center around money being the indication that someone really likes me.

Who here was talking about being desperate for a date? Wouldn't it make sense for both people to be able to support themselves, rather than relying on the other to do so?

What is the difference between screwing around and getting laid?

Screwing means that you are on top.

Getting laid means that you are on the bottom.

If you don't think that having babies and raising them and being a mother and home maker is considered "work" then you probably haven't done it.

I am talking about courtship and marriage. I think that is what the question was about.... a first date.

Fine. If you are just going out as friends, then it should be dutch and its not really a "date."

Dating does have to do with marriage, sex, courtship.

Does that apply to both sexes?