Topic: I am really tired of fake profiles
navygirl's photo
Thu 11/03/11 12:59 PM








Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you????? bigsmile




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


Well, I also do kickbox as well as lift weights so even if she was bigger; I wouldn't go down without a fight. bigsmile
I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.

That is not a whine BTW




No; you don't strike me as the whiny type. I was referring more to all the threads I have read on here about why women don't like nice guys and how we all want abusers. Having been the victim of abuse; I find this offensive when someone makes such an insensitive remark like that. This guy struck me as just another guy that was frustrated and is making the same generalization. Interestingly; I read a book about why men love b-tches and this book was written with input from men. To sum it up; no man wants a clingy woman that is nothing more than a doormat. She stands her ground and doesn't come running to him when he wants her. I think the same can be said about women not wanting that in a guy. A man or woman can be nice without proclaiming it to the world; just need to be yourself but also don't let others push you around. Do you want me to kick the woman's butt? I am a big strong gal.


She is not bigger than you.laugh No contestdrinks

no photo
Thu 11/03/11 02:24 PM







Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.




Give me her name I will kick her butt. tongue2


I think she might be bigger than you..laugh


I'm not very tough, but I know people..... in low places. pitchfork

navygirl's photo
Thu 11/03/11 02:36 PM








Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you????? bigsmile




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.

That is not a whine BTW




No; you don't strike me as the whiny type. I was referring more to all the threads I have read on here about why women don't like nice guys and how we all want abusers. Having been the victim of abuse; I find this offensive when someone makes such an insensitive remark like that. This guy struck me as just another guy that was frustrated and is making the same generalization. Interestingly; I read a book about why men love b-tches and this book was written with input from men. To sum it up; no man wants a clingy woman that is nothing more than a doormat. She stands her ground and doesn't come running to him when he wants her. I think the same can be said about women not wanting that in a guy. A man or woman can be nice without proclaiming it to the world; just need to be yourself but also don't let others push you around. Do you want me to kick the woman's butt? I am a big strong gal.


She is not bigger than you.laugh No contestdrinks


Guess I won't have to take extra classes in my kickboxing then. laugh

Optomistic69's photo
Thu 11/03/11 03:38 PM









Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you????? bigsmile




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.

That is not a whine BTW




No; you don't strike me as the whiny type. I was referring more to all the threads I have read on here about why women don't like nice guys and how we all want abusers. Having been the victim of abuse; I find this offensive when someone makes such an insensitive remark like that. This guy struck me as just another guy that was frustrated and is making the same generalization. Interestingly; I read a book about why men love b-tches and this book was written with input from men. To sum it up; no man wants a clingy woman that is nothing more than a doormat. She stands her ground and doesn't come running to him when he wants her. I think the same can be said about women not wanting that in a guy. A man or woman can be nice without proclaiming it to the world; just need to be yourself but also don't let others push you around. Do you want me to kick the woman's butt? I am a big strong gal.


She is not bigger than you.laugh No contestdrinks


Guess I won't have to take extra classes in my kickboxing then. laugh


You could kick her butt no problem..she says you could bounce quarters off it(her butt)she has a mighty opinion of herself....she is EGO DRIVEN.rofl rofl rofl

Optomistic69's photo
Thu 11/03/11 03:43 PM








Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.




Give me her name I will kick her butt. tongue2


I think she might be bigger than you..laugh


I'm not very tough, but I know people..... in low places. pitchfork


In low Placespitchfork You are in the right department OK... flowerforyou

navygirl's photo
Thu 11/03/11 04:16 PM










Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you????? bigsmile




I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.

That is not a whine BTW




No; you don't strike me as the whiny type. I was referring more to all the threads I have read on here about why women don't like nice guys and how we all want abusers. Having been the victim of abuse; I find this offensive when someone makes such an insensitive remark like that. This guy struck me as just another guy that was frustrated and is making the same generalization. Interestingly; I read a book about why men love b-tches and this book was written with input from men. To sum it up; no man wants a clingy woman that is nothing more than a doormat. She stands her ground and doesn't come running to him when he wants her. I think the same can be said about women not wanting that in a guy. A man or woman can be nice without proclaiming it to the world; just need to be yourself but also don't let others push you around. Do you want me to kick the woman's butt? I am a big strong gal.


She is not bigger than you.laugh No contestdrinks


Guess I won't have to take extra classes in my kickboxing then. laugh


You could kick her butt no problem..she says you could bounce quarters off it(her butt)she has a mighty opinion of herself....she is EGO DRIVEN.rofl rofl rofl


Well, I do like a challenge. pitchfork

Optomistic69's photo
Thu 11/03/11 04:37 PM



I am really tired of hearing guys like you whine, stating that they are nice guys, and especially hate the reference to being treated like a queen. I met two or three proclaimed "nice guys" and they were the most abusive. :angry:


I am sure that there are genuine nice guys who have been abused by women who pretend to be nice ladies.


Oh, I have no doubt that this happens; its certainly not a one way street.


Believe me I know.

That is not a whine BTW




No; you don't strike me as the whiny type. I was referring more to all the threads I have read on here about why women don't like nice guys and how we all want abusers. Having been the victim of abuse; I find this offensive when someone makes such an insensitive remark like that. This guy struck me as just another guy that was frustrated and is making the same generalization. Interestingly; I read a book about why men love b-tches and this book was written with input from men. To sum it up; no man wants a clingy woman that is nothing more than a doormat. She stands her ground and doesn't come running to him when he wants her. I think the same can be said about women not wanting that in a guy. A man or woman can be nice without proclaiming it to the world; just need to be yourself but also don't let others push you around. Do you want me to kick the woman's butt? I am a big strong gal.


She is not bigger than you.laugh No contestdrinks


Guess I won't have to take extra classes in my kickboxing then. laugh


You could kick her butt no problem..she says you could bounce quarters off it(her butt)she has a mighty opinion of herself....she is EGO DRIVEN.rofl rofl rofl


Well, I do like a challenge. pitchfork


She could pose a challenge to you but my money is Going on The Navy.

PacificStar48's photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:16 PM

Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????


Hmmmm!
This post hits some sour notes for me. Maybe it is just frustration or whatever but I had to just click and say blah blah blah when I read it the first time.

A newbie to the site I figure let him vent and see what ya all say.

I am surprised that a few things seem to been over looked. Not necessarily in order of importance but would like to make some remarks.

It always amazes me when someone says they are searching for "the One". That kind of smacks of an attitude they have some made up fantasy person like a human unicorn. So perfect, so unique, that it just kind of has to rise to mythical porportions. But no thought of what the person searching is doing to BE "the One". Duh doesn't that kind of guarantee failure?

Then we jump to he has "two kids 14 and 12 and they can take care of themselves and me."

Well in what universe can a 14 an 12 year old take care of themselves? There is a heck of a lot more to parenting than teaching a kid to cook, clean, and brush their teeth. While I can only hope his kids are smart I really think Dear old Dad has a credibility gap stateing a 140 pt. IQ. If they are taking care of him hopefully Child Protective services and or maybe the "Marines" will see this and put him in parenting classes or maybe the kids back with Mom.

That he is independent, in Karate most of his life is Ok. Now my understanding of Karate is a sport that takes self disciple, respect, strength,and cordination I am kind of thinking this guy really needs to get his money back cause his life seems a mess and he is into namedropping what he is going to do making him "good enough". Sorry buddy did you do this for a medal or a chest to pin it on? Thousands of people volunteer for the privelege not so they can pad their profile with gonna's.

I'm not sure with run on sentences and paragraphs exactly what pisses him off but it is such a lovely visual image I kind of have to laugh at the thought of him in wet pants like a squwalling two year old rather than a 33 or 54. Sorry buddy you look more like a rough 60 Something.

My guess is this 24 year old "girlfriend" was more than likely a student who put herself through college babysitting and had no dellusions about joining the Air Force unless as a wife who's boyfriend probably ended his delussions and beat the hell out of him for being a dirty old man when he came over to her house to show her his wireing. lol

I guess ya all know I don't buy the "Nice Guy" diatribe.

Glad I am not the only one that said uh what about fake profiles. Maybe they will move this to the Parenting thread and some skills will rub off on this guy. Yeesh!

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:20 PM
Guys who complain about being the "nice guy" who never gets the girl make me nervous.

Goofball73's photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:23 PM

Guys who complain about being the "nice guy" who never gets the girl make me nervous.


Me too :tongue:

no photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:26 PM

Neo is "the one" and he's to busy boning trinity to hook up with you on Mingle, you might have to settle.

no

it's neo or the convent

Ruth34611's photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:27 PM


Guys who complain about being the "nice guy" who never gets the girl make me nervous.


Me too :tongue:


tongue2

teadipper's photo
Thu 11/03/11 07:40 PM

Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????


While the other ladies make valid points about maybe it's not your most mature moment that caused you to post this, that that is a huge age difference, etc. I do not not believe you deserved to have your behind so fiercely handed to you. You need to consider what profiles you are answering. If you are going after 20 somethings with no children you are probably going to keep encountering these same problems. I hear a lot of frustration in your post and I am sorry for that. My advice would be to go for women closer to your own age who are in a similar situation child wise. There are lots on here. And being angry and bitter never won any guy the girl in the end. You need to let go of that. You need to put down the tally sheet of what you did for your ex and stop clutching it. There are a lot of decent women on here closer to your age with children who would be better suited to you but they are not going to go for a guy who is angry and resentful.

ybcat1's photo
Thu 11/03/11 08:57 PM

Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????


No woman with self esteem wants a man who will beat on her and fool around on her. Many men who encounter women like this and it turn out to be a bad relationship seems to think all women are looking for a bad boy. You just picked the wrong woman sir. Sorry that this happened to you, but don't give up the faith.

I've been waiting for the right man to come into my life for 27 years. I've had a couple of relationships within that time, fell in love and though we were meant for each other. Things didn't work out. You go through the hurt and move on. Keep a positive attitude, learn from the past so not to repeat it in the future and never give up if true love is what you're seeking.

navygirl's photo
Thu 11/03/11 09:41 PM


Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????


No woman with self esteem wants a man who will beat on her and fool around on her. Many men who encounter women like this and it turn out to be a bad relationship seems to think all women are looking for a bad boy. You just picked the wrong woman sir. Sorry that this happened to you, but don't give up the faith.

I've been waiting for the right man to come into my life for 27 years. I've had a couple of relationships within that time, fell in love and though we were meant for each other. Things didn't work out. You go through the hurt and move on. Keep a positive attitude, learn from the past so not to repeat it in the future and never give up if true love is what you're seeking.


Hmm, interesting that the op hasn't made any comments since opening the thread.

HawaiiMusikMan's photo
Thu 11/03/11 09:59 PM

Hmm, interesting that the op hasn't made any comments since opening the thread.



Maybe his is a fake profile. Oh, the irony

navygirl's photo
Thu 11/03/11 10:00 PM
Hmm, interesting that the op hasn't made any comments since opening the thread.
Maybe his is a fake profile. Oh, the irony


he he; you have a point there. laugh

mac_vin's photo
Fri 11/04/11 05:24 AM
this quite a harsh experince man, but i doubt it genuity cause how on earth can a 24 years old lass date a full grown man with diverse knowledge of what really count. Fallacious story.

galendgirl's photo
Fri 11/04/11 05:49 AM

Ladies please.I have been on this site and other sites to find the "ONE"and yet I have Failed.1 I have two kids who live with me.Even thou they are 14 and 12 and can take care of themselves and me.They can cook,clean brush thier own teeth,have 140 IQ's.I am independant and have been in karate most of my life,I'm 54 and very active,still go to school,I'm starting to volenteer at the Veterens hospital a few hours a week to do my part.I'm a former Marine,and yet I'm not good enough for you.This really pisses me off.My last girlfriend was 24.We broke up a couple of months ago.I put her thru her last year of college,Talked her into trying to go into the Air Force.Remodeled her house.For Free.Yet being a nice guy is like a sickness.What do you all want?Someone who will treat you as a queen or someone who will fool around on you and when you find out beats the hell out of you?????


I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences and while it is understandable that you would be hurt and angry, posting an accusatory "angry at women" first post in the forums isn't exactly a winning introduction. There are many nice people out here and real love can only be based on who you are...

I wish you well in life and love!

no photo
Fri 11/04/11 06:31 AM
with some of the responses in here, I for one, can understand the OP not returning to the thread. It is possible he has a fake profile. It is possible that he does not.

His story seems plausible to me. I have seen it happen more than once.