I've always known my heart would be happiest with a woman but met a man and we had a baby. I gave my all because that's what a good woman does and somehow after sacrificing All that I love and truly wanted does this jerk say he doesn't want a family. This jerk knew when we met my heart was w/ a woman. Shame on me huh?

you have nothing to be ashamed about. your actions were honorable. you have no control over what other people intend or what they do. for now, focus on your child. learn everything you can and teach it all to your child. if you feel the need, seek out others who have gone through what you are going through, and learn from them. your heart should be happiest with your child now and if someone else comes along to share that with you, that is just icing on the cake. if you go and do this again i guarantee i guarantee you can blame yourself (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

Listen to Ese. You have a child now, whom you can love and nurture and teach to be a better person than his/her father. If you had been with a woman, this child would not be yours right now. And now that you are free of the father because of his own doing, you can be with someone who truly makes you happy. Don't be ashamed of it. If I had to guess, you fell for the man because you dreamed of having children but just didn't realize it at the time. In this case, you didn't use him, he used you and tossed you aside because he couldn't man-up. Shame on HIM, not you.

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